myheartisastone
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This is an annoying habit my sister seems to have when i'm around her in public, or on the bus where she lives or something. I've noticed that it's usually, it's in a social situation, and when i'm alone with her, it's not as common. A little backstory: she's 3 years younger than me, so. Not sure that matters.
So, we're on the bus and the few times i've went to NY to visit her, she does this thing where she asks me a question and then sometimes when I go to respond, she goes "shh!" like i'm talking too loud (which I am not, I am a very quiet person, my voice is very rarely loud unless I want it to be). So, I can be talking in a perfectly normal voice, or she'll continue talking while just having "shh"'d me. Or, one time she asked me a question and I went to respond and she "shhd" me and made me feel like she didn't want me to talk, or she'll cut me off while talking.
I don't actually know why she does this, but from what I can gather or guess, it's because she cares more about everyone's perceived judgment of her more than she cares about my feelings. (Don't ask me why people would "judge" her or even care about two people talking in a perfectly normal voice, but yea)
And then sometimes (not all the time) she'll ask me why i'm quiet. Most of the time she's much more critical about me when even complete strangers are around. I am not sure if she intends to do this or even notices it, but when i'm around her, I notice I feel badly about myself and she actually makes me anxious.
I find it rude and condescending.
Why am I quiet? really? you need to ask?
So, we're on the bus and the few times i've went to NY to visit her, she does this thing where she asks me a question and then sometimes when I go to respond, she goes "shh!" like i'm talking too loud (which I am not, I am a very quiet person, my voice is very rarely loud unless I want it to be). So, I can be talking in a perfectly normal voice, or she'll continue talking while just having "shh"'d me. Or, one time she asked me a question and I went to respond and she "shhd" me and made me feel like she didn't want me to talk, or she'll cut me off while talking.
I don't actually know why she does this, but from what I can gather or guess, it's because she cares more about everyone's perceived judgment of her more than she cares about my feelings. (Don't ask me why people would "judge" her or even care about two people talking in a perfectly normal voice, but yea)
And then sometimes (not all the time) she'll ask me why i'm quiet. Most of the time she's much more critical about me when even complete strangers are around. I am not sure if she intends to do this or even notices it, but when i'm around her, I notice I feel badly about myself and she actually makes me anxious.
I find it rude and condescending.
Why am I quiet? really? you need to ask?
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