Okay, but easier said than done Remus... Don't get me wrong, I want to in the worst way imaginable succeed with my goal of a g/f. But when I get that nervous or SA is in high gear, my gut hurts BAD... I want to succeed, I want a g/f and I would give anything to be married. I just don't know how? Face the fear... I just don't know how?
this has probably come up already, but have you tried cbt with gradual exposure exercises? in my experience it's the best way to overcome fears - diving in the deep end, especially in a situation where fear itself is likely to interfere with success (ie talking to women), can be bad. you have to
slowly build up confidence to get there. it's doable!
Instead of the traditional opening/greeting line "Hello." You could use an alternative one - "I'm a virgin." Even if you're introducing yourself to a man, just say it loud enough so any nearby ladies are able to hear. It makes you instantly sexy.
haha, awesome. surely some woman would like that?
So I've been fantasizing for the past few days. I've literally been making up this imaginary guy and thinking of all the times I would spend with him. Hell, I even think of how he looks, acts, and treats me! It's as if I'm just living in this complete fantasy land with a dream guy who probably doesn't even exist. @___@
lol....I know exactly how you feel. I've named my imaginary boyfriend Derek and he likes long walks on the beach and watching horror movies. I know I'm a loser, and will probably never find the guy for me.
i do that also! it actually beats reality in some ways. like in reality i would be nervous about what the girl is thinking all the time, which makes it stressful to be around them, instead of relaxing. and instead of trying to project some perfect image onto some person (like what happens when you're in LOVE), you can just interact with the perfect image (and by image i mean personality also). plus you can actually communicate
everything to an imaginary person, not just some filtered version of yourself.
anyway, it'll have to do until a real person comes along, if ever. or a robot
I'm gonna put up a sign in my front yard. It's gonna read "I'm a virgin. If you wanna make me lose my virginity, ring the doorbell". I bet nine people out of ten are gonna have a laugh, but I have a hunch that one person out of ten might think "hmm, I might ring the doorbell", and one out of thirty might actually ring it. I'm gonna do it, goddamint!
PS: LOL, nah, kidding, I'm too much of a wimp to do that. But it'd be fun.
haha, that's awesome - you should do it!
