Self Loathing

[chris11]

Without killing yourself, which obviously allways seems like an option, how do you deal with self hatred. Especially when you have next to no one that you can talk to about personal matters.

 

[PhantomPod]

If I am feeling really down about myself, I honestly just try to do something else to try and take my mind off it. Like, watch some funny videos on youtube or watch a movie or something. Just anything to help cheer me up a bit.

Have you ever been to a therapist that you could talk to? I also have no one to talk to about personal issues and I have never been to a therapist before, but it does seem like a therapist might be able to help and will at least allow you to vent.

 

[Azael]

I retreat into a fantasy world. You can feed self-destructive impulses in it without actuallu hurting yourself. Though you will become overly embroiled in a highly convoluted world of emotions. Not much of a solution as opposed to damage limitation.

 

[BlueDays]

When the self hatred gets too intense I usually have to distract my mind. Either with some new music or a new movie I have not seen yet. Is there something you can do that your mind becomes totally engrossed in?

 

[DragonFlight777]

Without killing yourself, which obviously allways seems like an option, how do you deal with self hatred. Especially when you have next to no one that you can talk to about personal matters.

I suspect there are moments in which you realize how much you're focusing on finding all kinds of flaws about yourself, and that you're aware of what this selective attention means - it means that you don't allow yourself to see the whole picture, the reality in which you have both good and bad qualities. So one of the things I would try if I were you was to find some balance in the way you view yourself. For each thing you don't like about yourself, find one that you do. If nothing comes to mind, ask some of the people you know what they like and appreciate about you.
I'm also wondering what makes it difficult for you to accept your errors and the fact that you're not perfect, and evaluate your entire persona so negatively, just because of this fact? Maybe it would help you to figure out what it is that you're getting out of having this attitude about yourself. It might be difficult to see what benefit you could get out of your self-loating, but more than likely there is at least one, otherwise you wouldn't do this anymore. Figuring out the benefits of your self-loating could help you change this, without having to give up on whatever benefit this might get you.

 

[gazelle]

I usually try to distract myself and also try to figure out what it is that's exactly making me hate myself and thereby focus on setting a goal that could get me out of the situation that's making me feel that way.
Though if it's something that I really can't change, I try to look at it from another perspective.
I agree with DragonFlight on the point that self-loathing can sometimes also be beneficial and trigger good changes.

 

[Fighter86]

I retreat into a fantasy world. You can feed self-destructive impulses in it without actuallu hurting yourself. Though you will become overly embroiled in a highly convoluted world of emotions. Not much of a solution as opposed to damage limitation.

Yea, I live in a fantasy world too sometimes. Much better world than reality.

 

[Azael]

Yea, I live in a fantasy world too sometimes. Much better world than reality.

It's a way of getting the emotional fulfilment that I don't get in reality. It must sound strange to others but you can alter your emotional state through this way. Not much unlike positive thinking can bring about more positive emotions.

 

[Lexington]

How do I deal with self-loathing?
I take a deep breath and then mediatate for 10 hours straight.

No just joshin'...I get a six pack and a cone (not ice-cream) and watch Science Fiction movies.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

Doing nothing gives you more time to think.
Thinking leads to the downward spiral in mood because I obsessively pick myself apart.

So, just keep busy all the time.

 

[MikeyC]

Music.

Doing nothing gives you more time to think.
Thinking leads to the downward spiral in mood because I obsessively pick myself apart.

So, just keep busy all the time.

Yes to both of these. However, I can't always keep busy and that can be detrimental.

Even when I am busy my brain still wanders off and I keep remembering how much I suck.

 

[Kiwong]

Distraction.

Exercise works for me.

 

[OceanMist]

I will come here at times. This site is my therapist.

Other times a good run is just the ticket, like Kiwong said. Get outdoors, man, get that sunshine on you. It may not be a perfect cure, but it eases the pain a bit. As bad as our world can get, the earth is beautiful, no matter where you live. Country jogs are like running into the open air, i love it.

I'll drink sometimes too, or play a video game.

 

[Kinetik]

I rarely go through phases of self-loathing - but I do often have times where I need to get my mind off of certain things. Lately I've been worrying about the future and focusing on the worst possible scenario even when a more favorable one is far more likely. That's generally when I lose myself in escapism. Films, video games, drinking, that sort of thing.