To everyone who responded to this thread, I apologize if I made any offensive statements the way I expressed myself in my post and will try to discuss this without making any confrontations. The thread that I had typed, I didn't mean to have said that I don't respect the way people to choose to live their lives or that I flat out just hate drinker/smokers in general. I may have said about that I hate the college thing that I just see people who drink alcohol there, I don't think it's acceptable for colleges and schools,IMO, to allow that behavior in my eyes. I see nowadays many teens are exposed to drinking and smoking, probably because media influences them since other people on Tv/Movies have told them it's the cool thing to do, they just want to have fun, or they feel rebellious. I can't understand why colleges/schools don't even have rules to follow about not drinking/smoking or that just maybe a lot of those teens ignore it and go ahead and drink and smoke anyway secretly.
What I was trying to say is that I mainly would not become a person that's dependency is mainly on smoking and drinking, no matter how many times people will come up to me, like some have and say "Come on have a sip," "Just try a little beer," "You'll change your mind" That I don't like when people cannot take no for an answer. Now, am I going to change the behavior of them for smoking and drinking? Of course not. I can now understand that maybe I do have to accept disagreements from other who don't agree with me on the threads I make. But I'm not starting any angered confrontation. I'm speaking in a calm manner about the subject. I know I can't change these smokers/drinkers, would never try and change someone in the first place saying things to them like "Hey, you're wrong for drinking and smoking." "You are never allowed to drink and smoke." No, and I do understand that a lot people in the world do choose to live this kind of life, maybe if I were ever around them, I might influence them about their habits if it becomes to gets out of control, doing harmful things to themeselves, showing them the symptoms and changes what a person looks like when they let smoking/drinking control their lives. But they cannot expect me to cave into drinking/alcohol. I do want to stay healthy and been promising myself for years I'd never touch a cigarette or alcohol in my life.
But in all honesty, I don't think I should've said that I'm never going to see people when I'm out in the real world whether that be job, camp, or any social event when I come across those who smoke/drink. I just don't really think I could spend my time, like Opaline said, too much time devoting myself with people who make this habit become a part of their daily lives drinking or smoking. It's just the way that I wouldn't want to be around other types of people, which I have been with, that are stubborn, bossy, rebellious, troublemakers, or just other types of people that I don't enjoy being around with. I have been with a lot of people that fallen into those categories and I could not maintain a stable relationship anymore with them because of that. Someone always had to take advantage of me or were very rude, know it all types that I've attached myself to them like a parasite. I've known plenty of people close to me that drank and smoke that those things contributed into making them behave worse or to the point that they'd become depressed then they already were. I've seen it happen What was worst of it all, was they refused to want others help to break away from this vicious cycle. Though, if you guys want to be around social drinkers or people who do smoke, hey, I'm all fine with that. You can disagree with me, but all I'm saying is that these types of people, for me, I think I would be in a more depressing state and I think it would be worse for me to deal with if I ever did surround myself around these types of people. I really don't know how to handle being in a situation where I'm stuck in the middle of smokers and drinkers, if they are my friends. I just get a little uncomfortable, anxious, inside, but I wouldn't say anything to them rudely. It's just something that I'm not sure if I can deal with being around close people like this. That's just the way I don't want to spend my time everyday on people who smoke/drink, or even making me go to a club/bar for a regular social event meeting so that we could have a beer. And if it ever leads to anything more serious/lethal that these people who I'd surround myself in who have smoke/drink are going to be draining me all the time, if they break things against the walls/floors, become abusive, dying of serious health problems, and even go as far as convincing me to go to a bar/club or have a drink of beer, then I might have to decide that what I'm doing here isn't good at all.
Sometimes, people need the help I can't give them or to save them every time they take their depression out on me or plead for my help because I've had a few people on this site (not going to mention usernames) that have constantly dragged me down again and again and again everyday because they had emotional issues and were smokers/drinkers. They wanted my help because they couldn't get the professional help they needed anywhere else. Like I said, now if it's just an aquaintance that I had met at work or anywhere else, and the smoked and drank a lot, then I wouldn't spend a whole lot of time with them to tell you the truth, not everyday. Well, I wouldn't cross the line of having a friendship with that person. It's sad to watch them trying to quit even, because the addiction of the alcohol and smoking is so strong, it makes it almost impossible for them. But I wouldn't change them/lifestyles. So, that's all I had to say. You guys can agree/disagree, I respect opinions, but rude and hostile comments will get you blocked.
