people w./ sa over 25...living w/parents??..dead end job...
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marc72
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good topic
I like this topic cause I am 34 living in New York City I have cheap part time job, going to therapy
I live in my parents place and it sucks watching friends getting jobs having girls and their own place.
I want a better job to move out . I dont care if its a small room . New york is big city lots of activities but its annoying tat i am not on my own yet.
Therapy is VERY good for me. I suggest it . You have to talk to somone to validate yourself and not hold everything in. I REALIZE I cannot fulfill everyone expectation and just be me and surround myself with people that understand.
Carebear it is good that you are in love with music like DJ. its a good stress reliever. if anyone live around new york and want cofee or need an "extra person" to go some where, consider me so you wont feel ALONE at a party or something. sorry for long post.
I like this topic cause I am 34 living in New York City I have cheap part time job, going to therapy
I live in my parents place and it sucks watching friends getting jobs having girls and their own place.
I want a better job to move out . I dont care if its a small room . New york is big city lots of activities but its annoying tat i am not on my own yet.
Therapy is VERY good for me. I suggest it . You have to talk to somone to validate yourself and not hold everything in. I REALIZE I cannot fulfill everyone expectation and just be me and surround myself with people that understand.
Carebear it is good that you are in love with music like DJ. its a good stress reliever. if anyone live around new york and want cofee or need an "extra person" to go some where, consider me so you wont feel ALONE at a party or something. sorry for long post.
invisiblegirl
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I'm almost 24 and still at home. No friends, never had a 'significant other', unemployed and have never had a paying job. I only leave the house for therapy appts and occasionally to shop with my mom or my brother. I want to move out badly, but how's that possible when I can't even shop alone?
I always feared the shame of living with my mom past 21. Now I'm getting rather close to 25 and you can only imagine how hard this is. Even before I knew I was 'different', I feared the prospect of growing and having to take on responsibilites.
I always feared the shame of living with my mom past 21. Now I'm getting rather close to 25 and you can only imagine how hard this is. Even before I knew I was 'different', I feared the prospect of growing and having to take on responsibilites.
carebear
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hey marc!!
i used to love kool keith and dr octagon too
i'm not a big clubber but i love house and techno and all that stuff.
what music are you into?
here's my website for shy clubbers: http://www.lonelyclubber.com/index.php
i would love to get together for coffee but like i said ..i may bakc out due to my own shyness.
maybe getting together for akcohol would be better!..
:wink:
i used to love kool keith and dr octagon too
i'm not a big clubber but i love house and techno and all that stuff.
what music are you into?
here's my website for shy clubbers: http://www.lonelyclubber.com/index.php
i would love to get together for coffee but like i said ..i may bakc out due to my own shyness.
maybe getting together for akcohol would be better!..
:wink:
marc72
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invisiblegirl, and others that posted, im glad many people are positng to this post. no matter the age bracket, it is tough because WE compare ourselves to others that are successful or working with good job living on their own etc...
I wonder how you guys cope with the stress like activities or learning a skill to find better employment, or taking a "break" by go to a mini-vacation to get away or writing a list of stuff your trying to accomplished.
hang in there everyone. [/b]
I wonder how you guys cope with the stress like activities or learning a skill to find better employment, or taking a "break" by go to a mini-vacation to get away or writing a list of stuff your trying to accomplished.
hang in there everyone. [/b]
LittleMissScareAll
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Re: people w./ sa over 25...living w/parents??..dead end job
I'm 22 and still living at home. I still see myself here when I'm 25, if I'm still alive then, though I don't want to be here. I definitely feel like I've wasted my life. And I can relate to what you said about wanting to crawl into a hole and die slowly...except I want to crawl in and die quickly.
I'm not smart enough to go to college though, which is one reason I'm not going...if I was, I would probably do the at-home college thing. The only job I can think of that I'd wanna do that requires college education for though, is being a mortician(because dead people are better to work with than live ones). Right now I do data entry, which I hate and I'll probably get fired from soon anyway.
I'm 22 and still living at home. I still see myself here when I'm 25, if I'm still alive then, though I don't want to be here. I definitely feel like I've wasted my life. And I can relate to what you said about wanting to crawl into a hole and die slowly...except I want to crawl in and die quickly.
I'm not smart enough to go to college though, which is one reason I'm not going...if I was, I would probably do the at-home college thing. The only job I can think of that I'd wanna do that requires college education for though, is being a mortician(because dead people are better to work with than live ones). Right now I do data entry, which I hate and I'll probably get fired from soon anyway.
Aussie_Lad
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A lot more people are living with their parents these days. It is not at all uncommon for people to live with their parents well into their twenties. Reason: it is a lot cheaper to live with the parents. Instead of being stuck in the endless cycle of paying rent / bills, you get to save and use the money to live it up and / or save for a deposit on a house. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this, but you must not let your parents make decisions for you, just becuase you live under their roof.
HH
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this is what I did-save up my money and brought a nice house this year (I'm 30), yes it was rubbish being with my folks through most of my 20s but a lot of people do it these days (houses aren't cheap-good ones anyway). It will work out in the end-just work hard, save and pray 
JamesSmith
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Wow u think your life sucks? Let me tell you about mine:
-I am unemployed, got laid off from a job that had a decent future after only 2 months so they made sure I couldn't get unemployment money.
-My parents refuse to pay for college or any schooling because they say it would be a waste of money because they claim there are no jobs that require a degree where you don't have to deal with people often. So then it's up to me to pay for school and the only way that would be possible would be to get a student loan, and that would be too risky considering I haven't been able to hold a job for more than a year my whole life.
-I have 200$ in my bank account and have to donate plasma just so I can put gas in my tank and pay for car insurance while I live at my parents house.
-I have no degree. I have a high school diploma though, whoopity doo.
-I don't like being around people, not even my friends. So guess what? I have no friends.
-I have no real hobbies and have nothing I want to do with my life.
LazyHermitCrab
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Not quite 25 but, almost. Time goes by so fast anyway. I have a minumal wage repetative job which i'm quiting in about four months so, I can get better grades and hopefully move out one day. I probably won't anytime soon. My neighbor is 27 and lives at home but she at least tried and well i'm still here :S
Section_31
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My wife and me still live with my dad. its going to be this way for quite a long time, at least 3 ish yrs. Shes in uni and im working, but even with my job as a computer network admin, theres no way i can afford to get us out on our own.
Ignore what people say. The fact that everybody automatically condems you or thinks you are a loser because of that situation proves that the belief that you HAVE TO be out by a certain age is thought control. My wife and me have gotten flak from everyone on both families, except for my dad. I think with the world economically being what it is, the "american dream" just isnt realistic anymore, and if society is to survive, people like us are the examples of what needs to be done :multigenerational households.
I dont give 2 damns what the rest of the world thinks. Were doing what works for us.
Continue to think for yourself!
Ignore what people say. The fact that everybody automatically condems you or thinks you are a loser because of that situation proves that the belief that you HAVE TO be out by a certain age is thought control. My wife and me have gotten flak from everyone on both families, except for my dad. I think with the world economically being what it is, the "american dream" just isnt realistic anymore, and if society is to survive, people like us are the examples of what needs to be done :multigenerational households.
I dont give 2 damns what the rest of the world thinks. Were doing what works for us.
Continue to think for yourself!
Bustn Justin
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Sound like me man. I am glad you realize your talents and working towards a professional career. Good luck.
cubeofacube
New member
I'm a year and a half past 25 ... and yes, it is painfully isolating to live at home. I had close friends in high school and college. As it generally turns out, none of them had quite the OCD/depressive/SA hand I was dealt, and it's sad to feel further left out of society as we edge towards 30. When you're shy, it seems impossible to make friends; it's difficult once you're out of school to make any. It's better not to beat yourself up about it. And hell, with the economy the way it is, 15% of 25-32 year olds are staying with their parents anyway, whether or not they have social anxiety.
If you're feeling like you've wasted your life, ... go clubbing. As long as you stay open to things and follow some of your strong instincts to be a social animal (if a very shy one), you will find that things will improve.
If you're feeling like you've wasted your life, ... go clubbing. As long as you stay open to things and follow some of your strong instincts to be a social animal (if a very shy one), you will find that things will improve.
theblank
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Yeah, I know all about that. About five years ago I was in my mid-thirties back living with my parents, no job, no friends, no relationships, no outlets, no nothing except a lot of pain and regret.