People are annoying!

[whattodo1]

People make my social anxiety even worse by saying stuff about it and it pisses me off! I just want to yell at the to shut up but obviously i wont cuz of my anxiety.....

They say "Why dont u talk?" and that puts even more pressure on me to talk. And embarasses me when they say that infront of people.
When people say that to me I usually have to try really hard to hold back tears..

The worst is when they sarcastically say, "You talk soooooo much!" Like what am I supposed to reply to that? Ok?

Or maybe the worst is when I actually do say something and someone goes "OMG DID U JUST TALK? hahahha"

that just makes me never want to do it again.. annoying people that do this.. dont u agree?

 

[dancingintherain]

well.. Those talk too much!
"those who talk too much think too little" just ignore them..

 

[WantToHide]

Yea that is really annoying and rude! I think people do it because they want you to talk to them but don't know how to say that to you, so instead they make 'observations'.

 

[djkghigh]

went thru all this when i was at school
same thing with the same embarrassment
those were the really bad dayz

 

[MsBuzzkillington]

The worst thing for me is when I actually say something and they say "wow you can talk!" Mostly because I am trying to talk normally and be apart of the group and then they point something out that I am doing as if it is abnormal. It takes me back a bit and makes me want to keep my mouth shut for the rest of the time.

I don't think you should take any of those things to heart though (I know easier said than done) But if they say something like, "why don't you talk?" Just say something like, I will when I feel like there's something worth talking about.

When they say something like "Wow you talk so much!" I usually say "yeah yeah, I know, I will try and keep it down from now on."

Just pick some kind of sarcastic respond to reply back to them with and use that every time they say something about it.

 

[dean01]

ii think i have the same problem with a slightly different view because i think that people think im annoying when i talk to much, they look at me like ive just drunk a liter of coffee, waiting for me to breath so they can get a word in haha. on the other hand when im quiet they all think ive got the ump and keep asking me if im ok and that does annoy me after the tenth time.

 

[LadyWench]

Ugh. People are indeed very annoying, I agree. And apparently rather ignorant, as well.

 

[NewtoThis]

Oh that happened to me! The only person that would talk to me on my floor last year was talking to a group of people and they were all having a good conversation. Then he pointed out that I wasn't talking. I just said I didn't have anything to say but enjoyed listening but the conversation pretty much stopped after that. I'm pretty sure that group didn't like him so they avoided both of us after that...

That was not fun.

 

[MsBuzzkillington]

Ugh. People are indeed very annoying, I agree. And apparently rather ignorant, as well.

The only way to remove ignorance is to educate. So unless you are explaining to these people exactly why you are so quiet and nervous, don't point fingers and call them ignorant because they don't understand something they don't know they are supposed to understand.

 

[Darryl]

Delete delete

 

[philly2bits]

I've tried to put myself in the other person's shoes to figure out why they would ask and I still don't know. Is it such an oddity for a person to not speak that it must be brought up as the topic of discussion?

It never comes off as not patronizing. They could easily phrase it as "you're quiet tonight, is anything wrong" and it wouldn't come off as nearly as bad. I've often wondered if it's less a genuine question and more a veiled insult. A way to test the waters to see if the person is a pushover, rip for more bullying. In my experience it mostly leads to more stupid questions like "would you talk if so and so happened?" or even more humiliating, when a group of people have a discussion about my being quiet while I'm standing right there., knowing full well I hear it and won't stop them.

 

[Darryl]

These comments would not offend a everyday person, only because we are so senstive most things are going to get a reaction out of us.

 

[dottie]

i'm so over people! eff em all!

 

[GhoulsNightOut]

Or maybe the worst is when I actually do say something and someone goes "OMG DID U JUST TALK? hahahha"

Ah that sounds awful. I've never had someone say that to me but I feel angry just reading that. lol... The only similar incidence was when I was 13 in my algebra class, where I asked the teacher a question and he said, "Wow, that's the first time you asked a question." Why did he have to point that out!? Well he was a really nice teacher though so I'm not too mad. hah

Back in high school, I usually get "you're so quiet." Lately I've been getting "don't be nervous" or "don't be shy" but by older people who think those are the magic words I needed to hear. -_____-

 

[Zav]

People make my social anxiety even worse by saying stuff about it and it pisses me off! I just want to yell at the to shut up but obviously i wont cuz of my anxiety.....

They say "Why dont u talk?" and that puts even more pressure on me to talk. And embarasses me when they say that infront of people.
When people say that to me I usually have to try really hard to hold back tears..

The worst is when they sarcastically say, "You talk soooooo much!" Like what am I supposed to reply to that? Ok?

Or maybe the worst is when I actually do say something and someone goes "OMG DID U JUST TALK? hahahha"

that just makes me never want to do it again.. annoying people that do this.. dont u agree?

I went through this exact same thing all the time in high school. Eventually I just get pissed off about it - give them a piece of your mind. Really - are you really going to just randomly start talking about nothing just because somebody asks you to talk? Plus if and when you do start talking, it's not like they're actually listening to you with respect; they're just thinking "oh, I got you to talk, hahaha" and just look down on you about it, jokingly.

Just grow a pair and tell them you'll say something if you feel like it and that you like to be taken seriously.

Sorry, I get really heated on this. It happened to me all the time.

 

[BleedTheFreak]

I definitely understand how annoying and stressful it can be to get called out like this. It used to annoy me but looking back, almost every time someone has asked me why I don't talk or just brings up the fact that I'm quiet in any way, it wasn't done in the form of an attack or ridicule, it was done because they were trying to include me in the conversation. Obviously there were times when people have done it just to piss me off, but there were times when people were just interested and genuinely curious and trying to get me involved. Hard to get upset by someone who's trying to include you and get you to speak up, even if they don't understand what they're doing to you by putting you under the spotlight.

 

[BashfulDoll]

I went through that from pre k-high school and I know it's very annoying lol now I can understand where ppl are coming from bcos I wonder why ppl talk to everyone BUT me. Also ppl feel threatened insecure around ppl they can't feel out [bcos they don't know enough about them] therefore they dont know how to act and ask ppl like us stupid questions "like why don't u talk"

 

[MissJess]

You took the words out of my mouth!

People do the same to me! "You're so quiet" Its like really I didnt notice!

Or omg did she just talk?

I dont get why they dont just try to talk to us instead of saying stupid remarks!

People make my social anxiety even worse by saying stuff about it and it pisses me off! I just want to yell at the to shut up but obviously i wont cuz of my anxiety.....

They say "Why dont u talk?" and that puts even more pressure on me to talk. And embarasses me when they say that infront of people.
When people say that to me I usually have to try really hard to hold back tears..

The worst is when they sarcastically say, "You talk soooooo much!" Like what am I supposed to reply to that? Ok?

Or maybe the worst is when I actually do say something and someone goes "OMG DID U JUST TALK? hahahha"

that just makes me never want to do it again.. annoying people that do this.. dont u agree?

 

[popolala]

Yeah, i got that before. But people who say that are normally very judgemental and not sincere, it shows by the comment they made. If they really genuine people who trying to help you build up they wont comment on that in front of everybody but be glad to know you are opening up, and might even tell you privately.. which has happened to me.

i remember when i was at school, i was so quiet there was this guy he was so funny, but he seem to crack jokes for me especially, and when i smiled and laugh, he was so happy, he stood up from his chair and said, 'YAY' i made (my name) laughed.. i should get a MEDAL! ..

so he saw it as a compliment to make a quiet person laugh..