The reality is that there is no one, single perception that others will have of us. Everybody has different opinions. Some will like us and some won't. Simple as that. Even the kindest and most popular people out there will probably have a group of haters that dismiss their kindness as fakeness. It's just what society is like.
Sometimes it feels like society is like this:
Me, I can think of many things I don't like about myself - I can be quiet, don't always make enough effort with people, I can be quite boring, worry a lot, impatient sometimes - I'm sure there are plenty of people who see me in that sense too. But I also know that not everybody will feel negatively towards me.
Some people out there think I'm decent!
The difficulty comes in wondering whether the people you care about have good perceptions of you. If you think somebody doesn't like you, then it's upsetting regardless of who it is, but if it's somebody you really care about, it becomes a much bigger problem.
The best (and also the most hardest) thing to do is to
like yourself. Because if you approve of yourself, and you approve of your own actions, it doesn't matter as much what people think and say. Of course it's always going to matter a little, but it will be easier to pull yourself out of it. If somebody accused me of doing something that I know full well I didn't do, the accusation wouldn't bother me as much as if I felt there may be a bit of truth in it.
"You do your best with what you've got and that's all that matters"
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