Other people's perception of you?

[WeirdyMcGee]

I have assumed that everyone hates me- including my parents.

I guess it's easier for me to imagine no one likes me so that I never get my hopes up about making friends or being treated well.
I was always bullied and beaten up and called names- not really by my parents; but I am a failure and not 'as good' as my older sister nor my younger brother.

 

[uncle]

The older I get the less I care about other perceptions of me. BTW, I'll be 50 years old in two months.... I do have a limited social life that mostly revolves around my kids and family. But I do work in construction and our in state trade has 100's of members. I am liked for the most part but not highly respected which is OK with me as long as no one goes too far.

My skill at my trade is limited and at my age it will not increse. I am often taken advantage of, being I am a people pleaser. Thats was always one of my biggest problems, I always wanted everyone to like me.

The one thing I have going for myself is that I have considerably more money that 95% of the other guys. Although its because my parents set me up. But they don't know that . So in that way I get some respect but I also get a little jealosy too.

So it boils down to this. When I was younger I wanted people to admire me. I wanted to be unique and get a lot of positive attention. I look back at that now and think 'what differnce would it have made?'. Now that I am much older I just want people to think I'm a good person.

 

[Falkor]

My teacher just called me a creative spirit today, I don't know, made me happy. A compliment.

 

[MentalyBlind]

well if you want to know what people think of you just read their face!

Gestures and Body Language Tutorial - YouTube

 

[Srijita52]

My teacher just called me a creative spirit today, I don't know, made me happy. A compliment.

That's really great.

 

[lilmutegirl]

I have assumed that everyone hates me- including my parents.

I guess it's easier for me to imagine no one likes me so that I never get my hopes up about making friends or being treated well.
I was always bullied and beaten up and called names- not really by my parents; but I am a failure and not 'as good' as my older sister nor my younger brother.

I don't hate you, Weirdy!!

 

[lilmutegirl]

My teacher just called me a creative spirit today, I don't know, made me happy. A compliment.

That's really cool. I wish everything that people said to each other was that positive.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

Anxiety-Ridden Man Rightly Ashamed Of Every Single Thing He Does

'We Are All Silently Judging Him At Every Moment, Just As He Suspects,' Acquaintances Say

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[Minty]

I think most people evaluate me negatively which is why I want to get away from them as soon as possible, so that feeling goes away. When they compliment me, I think they're just being nice. Actually, only like...my mom and my sister compliment me. Even when I was close with my friends, they would never say something positive about me. Just that I'm weird and quiet. So yeah.

 

[bcsr]

These days, I honestly don't care what people think of me for the most part.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

I understand the joke there NWP, but this is no place for jokes in that area. My condition is severe, and a lot of those ideas within judgement are true. I've lived most of my life being awkward and never knowing what to do, constantly thinking. It's not about others remembering or forgetting, it's about their perception of you, and their KNOWN perceptions of you in the moment. It's debilitating. I really do find the humor there funny, but when it's personal and all you have is a joke with nothing helpful, I find it slightly offensive.

Well I suppose you could look at it that way.

Or, you could look at is a means of emphasizing how irrational our thoughts are at times (mine included, but thanks for implying I don't know what it's like to have 'real' social anxiety problems!) Such an emphasis is a useful, practical thing to constantly remind yourself of when you find yourself having fears and thoughts about how other people perceive you.

 

[BleedTheFreak]

This is something I constantly worry about, too. It consumes my thoughts when I'm among people, which makes me appear to be in my own world most of the time. I think most people either recognize this or mistakingly think that I'm rude or that I don't like them because I'm so aloof.

 

[BrokenBlade]

Some people seem to think I'm cool, but right now the ones that really matter to me seem to think badly of me, and that drives me crazy. With most people I probably think they dislike me, but I try not to care. But the important ones...thinking about that kills me. And I'm sure you know what it's like when you like someone that doesn't seem to like you back. My biggest problem right now is that they treat others so well and completely ignore me. I hate the thought that someone else is more important than I am to someone that is important to me.

 

[Falkor]

People always tell me, that they perceive me way differently than what I have in mind. So that's sweet that they tell me that. Which is kinda comforting.

Well I'll describe what people told me about their perception,

They think I'm sweet, caring, open minded, a fighter, very serious about things that i start, a very vulnerable person, though very strong.

 

[Srijita52]

People always tell me, that they perceive me way differently than what I have in mind. So that's sweet that they tell me that. Which is kinda comforting.

Well I'll describe what people told me about their perception,

They think I'm sweet, caring, open minded, a fighter, very serious about things that i start, a very vulnerable person, though very strong.

I agree with all of it. You're very awesome Saskia.

 

[Lea]

I always assume it´s the worst possible, just don´t want to hear it. I sometimes think if I could see into people´s head what they think about me, I would be so shocked and overwhelmed that I wouldn´t sleep for at least a week.

 

[kilojoule]

It very much depends on the situations. My friends make new friends really easily so I meet a lot of new people. I don't like new people. I don't make a good first impression. I've been told this repeatedly. I'm cold, stuck up, disinterested, impatient, bored and bad mannered.

I just dont like meeting new people...unprepared at least. It takes me a long time to warm to people.

If I meet new people on my own( not forced like when my friends arrive in with their new people collection) I come off much better. Now friends have told me they thought I was a bit mysterious but friendly when they first met me..so theres a big difference depending on the circumstances of how I meet people.

 

[Agent_Violet]

After leaving my marriage,getting a place on my own, navigating the ups and downs of being a divorced female...I no longer give a sh*t what anyone thinks of me

But, prior to that, I felt only some people liked me while the rest were content to dislike and label.