Phantomfury2006
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So I wanted to kind of tell people about a revelation or whatever you want to call it that I had. Well the last few years probably 3 to 4 years have really been the worst years of my life. A lot of dumb decisions were made on my part and in turn a lot of dumb decisions were made on other people's part due to my bad choices. Now that in itself is not a revelation or a breath taking, jaw dropping, better sit down for this kind of thing but I got to a point that I was so depressed that if anything negative or anything that I should be worried or concerned with came to me is simply have to shrug it off and not care. Not that I didn't want to care I mean I even knew I should really be caring about this or that but I had literally ran out of room in my brain to care about anything else.
It was a very interesting time period looking back at it. The thing is its not really that far behind me in fact some days a lot of the past pains come back and I find myself crying once again. Now I don't mean like a few tears or something I'm talking about re kind of crying where all you can think about is how your heart literally hurts and is broken from grief.
Now people who have known real pain and heart ache in their life have one of two real choices after that heartache is experienced. One you can hold onto it let it change you from the inside out. Let it give you a false sense of reality because of the pain you constantly hold onto. Its sort of like looking at the world trough a pair of sunglasses...the world isn't necessarily any different but your now seeing it differently. Or you can decide to forgive the past pains and hurts that have come your way. You can choose to let God (higher power) take that from you.
Now I've learned from personal experience that that concept is much easier to theoretically understand and agree with but its much more difficult to live and practice. I've found that there are a few reasons why we have such a hard time with the forgiveness aspect of life.
1) we think that because we forgive someone that we automatically have to trust them again or put ourselves in the position to be hurt, taken advantage of or mistreated again. No that's not true if someone steals from you its ok to forgive them, it doesn't mean you let them back into your house.
2) we've gotten this idea that we need the other persons permission to forgive them. Its like for some reason we just can't forgive unless they come to us and say "will you forgive me". I try and remember that I don't need their permission to forgive them.
3) this is a big one...we don't have a lot of good examples of forgiveness in our world. My example for everything well I try to make him my example for everything is Jesus. I mean while he was dying on the cross he said "father forgive them for they know not what they do." Now I know what your thinking your saying yeah but I'm not Jesus....I know that believe I'm well aware of that fact but the same grace to forgive that Jesus had God can give to us too.
In conclusion to this long tirade I want to stress the point that we do ourselves a favor when we forgive others. In fact its impossible to live up to your full potential in life if your harboring hurts and resentments of the past. It is impossible to be a victim and a winner at the same time. Harboring hurts and resentments leads to outwardly displaying anger, and its not a secret either people who are holding onto hurts of the past don't see how they are so overreactive to certain things. Or see how everyone has to tip toe around them when there's just a little something said. See its not your little secret when your hurt and angry its so obvious to others.
We also should remember that whatever amount of grace and forgiveness we show and extend to others is the amount that is going to be shown and given to us. We do ourselves a favor when we forgive others.
I don't know feel free to leave a comment wether your disagree agree or want to add your own thoughts and input.
It was a very interesting time period looking back at it. The thing is its not really that far behind me in fact some days a lot of the past pains come back and I find myself crying once again. Now I don't mean like a few tears or something I'm talking about re kind of crying where all you can think about is how your heart literally hurts and is broken from grief.
Now people who have known real pain and heart ache in their life have one of two real choices after that heartache is experienced. One you can hold onto it let it change you from the inside out. Let it give you a false sense of reality because of the pain you constantly hold onto. Its sort of like looking at the world trough a pair of sunglasses...the world isn't necessarily any different but your now seeing it differently. Or you can decide to forgive the past pains and hurts that have come your way. You can choose to let God (higher power) take that from you.
Now I've learned from personal experience that that concept is much easier to theoretically understand and agree with but its much more difficult to live and practice. I've found that there are a few reasons why we have such a hard time with the forgiveness aspect of life.
1) we think that because we forgive someone that we automatically have to trust them again or put ourselves in the position to be hurt, taken advantage of or mistreated again. No that's not true if someone steals from you its ok to forgive them, it doesn't mean you let them back into your house.
2) we've gotten this idea that we need the other persons permission to forgive them. Its like for some reason we just can't forgive unless they come to us and say "will you forgive me". I try and remember that I don't need their permission to forgive them.
3) this is a big one...we don't have a lot of good examples of forgiveness in our world. My example for everything well I try to make him my example for everything is Jesus. I mean while he was dying on the cross he said "father forgive them for they know not what they do." Now I know what your thinking your saying yeah but I'm not Jesus....I know that believe I'm well aware of that fact but the same grace to forgive that Jesus had God can give to us too.
In conclusion to this long tirade I want to stress the point that we do ourselves a favor when we forgive others. In fact its impossible to live up to your full potential in life if your harboring hurts and resentments of the past. It is impossible to be a victim and a winner at the same time. Harboring hurts and resentments leads to outwardly displaying anger, and its not a secret either people who are holding onto hurts of the past don't see how they are so overreactive to certain things. Or see how everyone has to tip toe around them when there's just a little something said. See its not your little secret when your hurt and angry its so obvious to others.
We also should remember that whatever amount of grace and forgiveness we show and extend to others is the amount that is going to be shown and given to us. We do ourselves a favor when we forgive others.
I don't know feel free to leave a comment wether your disagree agree or want to add your own thoughts and input.