Online vs Real life
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Steppen-Wolf
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It's a lot easier to hide your short comings when you're not talking face to face, but it's also far less satisfactory.
Haha here's my thoughts on online friendship: http://www.socialphobiaworld.com/thoughts-on-online-friendship-41884/
to me an online friend should be same as a real friend, the interesting thing is even though that's what i want it to be like, the fact is, even in my wording it says something very different: "to me an online friend should be same as a real friend" real friend? where did that come from? opposed to a fake one?
"i think a lot of people online when corresponding via email/commets/forums etc... forget that there actually talking to a real person and if you compare online situations to offline ones you start to see a real difference in manners
"Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth. Oscar Wilde"
& for me personally the internet is the perfect mask, where complete anonymity, from even the fbi can be gained for less then a fiver a month.
This also reminds me of a cyber bulling assignment i did at high school where kids whom of which wouldn't tease/bully anyone in person, would however.. bully others online without a second thought, apparently because of lack empathy online most youths have online."
to me an online friend should be same as a real friend, the interesting thing is even though that's what i want it to be like, the fact is, even in my wording it says something very different: "to me an online friend should be same as a real friend" real friend? where did that come from? opposed to a fake one?
"i think a lot of people online when corresponding via email/commets/forums etc... forget that there actually talking to a real person and if you compare online situations to offline ones you start to see a real difference in manners
"Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth. Oscar Wilde"
& for me personally the internet is the perfect mask, where complete anonymity, from even the fbi can be gained for less then a fiver a month.
This also reminds me of a cyber bulling assignment i did at high school where kids whom of which wouldn't tease/bully anyone in person, would however.. bully others online without a second thought, apparently because of lack empathy online most youths have online."
Hellhound
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Perfect. Just perfect.
Helmaninquiel
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Makes a huge difference, here when I make a mistake I'll I have to do is hit the backspace button. lol People online aren't as stressed, which makes them more secure, which makes them nicer. I mean sure you still have people online who like to cause bull**** but it's just easier to deal with on the computer, not as much energy goes into it.
Flanscho
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Chatting doesn't give me a lot. Sure, it can be funny, it can be interesting, but it's not satisfying. You can't see someones facial expressions or body language, nor can you hear how someone pronounces stuff. So much is filtered out, that it's like, instead of walking through a forest, you see a movie of someone walking through a forest, in black and white and without sound.
MikeyC
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I agree with these two. Online is a lot easier for communicating. The anonymity makes it a lot better for me.
I reveal more here about myself than pretty much anywhere else.
mikebird
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Anonymous
Identity
We can choose to be seen, or hidden. The darkest of all identity is a numeric tag for a telephone. We have area codes. A large slab of my work was getting to know international country codes and the associated costs: Christmas Island, Cocos Islands, Quebec. A number means nothing. We identify ourselves by spreading the word; personally or by business card. A real sense of identity is by email. The new area code is your company name, or the personal internet supplier provider. The ultimate is Skype ID. You choose your name, and it will never change. Only the people who you want to know can contact you. faceboo is subordinate in value, and not linked to Skype. PSTN fone numbas have no place in this world. My line never stops ringing. You can block people with Skype, and keep their ID, and they can block you. We are under the thumb of ancient bell wire networks. Offices use voice over IP telephone.
The public are stuck with the middle ages, or cave dwellers, and can't see it
Identity
We can choose to be seen, or hidden. The darkest of all identity is a numeric tag for a telephone. We have area codes. A large slab of my work was getting to know international country codes and the associated costs: Christmas Island, Cocos Islands, Quebec. A number means nothing. We identify ourselves by spreading the word; personally or by business card. A real sense of identity is by email. The new area code is your company name, or the personal internet supplier provider. The ultimate is Skype ID. You choose your name, and it will never change. Only the people who you want to know can contact you. faceboo is subordinate in value, and not linked to Skype. PSTN fone numbas have no place in this world. My line never stops ringing. You can block people with Skype, and keep their ID, and they can block you. We are under the thumb of ancient bell wire networks. Offices use voice over IP telephone.
The public are stuck with the middle ages, or cave dwellers, and can't see it
TailsAlone
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Man, it's so much easier online. When I talk to people face to face my speech is slow and halting with a lot of "ums" and awkward pauses, because I need a second to consciously filter out the environment and process what they've just said. The right words just never come.
Online, I am a communicator extraordinaire.
Online, I am a communicator extraordinaire.
There's little distinction between the two for me. The anonymity and timing of online interaction is more convenient, but there also a real person on the other side when communicating online, thinking and answering back. Is this not 'real'?
I have a similar pet peeve with people who say that you shouldn't take the internet seriously. I mean, why not? The content on the internet, does this come from artificial people that don't exist in the physical plane? I don't think 'real' or 'fake' does it justice. 'physical' or 'digital' is more accurate.
I personally think 'real life' or 'IRL' is merely accurately applicable in games/role play forums where the majority of content/people assume a fictional role.
People, no matter in what shape/format they come, are real to me.
I have a similar pet peeve with people who say that you shouldn't take the internet seriously. I mean, why not? The content on the internet, does this come from artificial people that don't exist in the physical plane? I don't think 'real' or 'fake' does it justice. 'physical' or 'digital' is more accurate.
I personally think 'real life' or 'IRL' is merely accurately applicable in games/role play forums where the majority of content/people assume a fictional role.
People, no matter in what shape/format they come, are real to me.
Falkor
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I feel much better in real life, even though i might feel more nervous, it goes with more pressure, cuz chatting is like a random, Hi How are you and in real life ppl tell more, you look at things around ya, you do something.
So for me, it goes this way. I know socialising is harder in real life though, but it can be easier if you focus on the things around and talk about it
So for me, it goes this way. I know socialising is harder in real life though, but it can be easier if you focus on the things around and talk about it
xDreamseller
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That quote of yours is brilliant. Exactly my thoughts.
Flanscho
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Chatting online? Convenient if it's about talking to someone who is a few thousand km away. Otherwise... Good for organizing stuff or emergencies. But it's never close to a chat in person. Without facial expression and pronounciation, there is just far too much room for misunderstandings.