one comment which has affected your confidence

[princess_haru]

From my mom "What did I do so wrong in life to get you?".
Another one from my mom "This is the daughter I wanted, you're not close to it". Talking about her 26 year old co-worker. Her and my mom drink a lot together and her co worker is selfish just like my mom.

Omg! How mean of your mother to say something like that. I remember my mother saying to me ''why can't you be more like i## and his sister from up the road''....Next thing she got banned for drink driving, and he's wrecked more cars that i've worn socks, so am i wrong for being decent!?

I hate judgemental parents! It's like they don't see their child as a person, but as an extension of themselves to be moulded in their own image (what are they - gods?!) and exhibited to the world as proof of how successful they are. If the moulding doesn't work and (shock, horror) the child becomes a separate being with his own unique strengths and weaknesses, the controlling parent gets angry and takes it as a personal insult. Fuck them I say - haven't they heard of unconditional love?

Anyway, another comment I remember is from my teacher when I was around 10. We regularly had a reading hour where we'd all sit on the carpet by the teacher's chair and read our own choice of book. I loved it because I've always been a bookworm, so I'd really get lost in the stories. I had a habit of occasionally pulling faces while I read, which was my way of empathising with the characters. For instance if someone was really angry or frightened I'd try to pull that expression to see if I could feel the same way. Of course the teacher noticed and this must've looked pretty strange to her. Instead of asking me about it, she told me in front of the whole class to stop pulling faces, then asked the class to keep an eye on me and tell me when I was doing it as I obviously didn't realise that I was! I was absolutely mortified To add insult to injury, when I scowled at her as she was saying this (because I was only 10 and too scared to back-talk a teacher) she came out with "Look, you're doing it again now!"
Um no, it was intentional actually... :evil:

 

[silentangel]

my exes told me after we broke up that i looked like a pig...and it was hell on earth to look at me day in and day out.... well im not a beauty queen, neither do i wanna be. society nowadays only focus on the physical attributes and dont even bother to get to really know the person.

 

[celestialrecluse]

my step sister and her boyfriend came to stay with us at the weekend, i've met her bf before but for only like 10 minutes at a time, well anyways we were sat in the garden having a cig. and we were having quite a good conversation (a miracle in itself) about like my problems (a bigger miracle as i never really talk to people about stuff) anyways we'd been outside for like 40 minutes when she came over and sat with us, we continued talking, then she said, "oh poor little sum, dont you think other people have problems, come on rob lets go out it's a really nice day we'll go to the park a shame to be cooped up at home all day." i could have punched her, what hurt the most is the fact that her bf apologized for her behaviour later. i knew she was spiteful, but not evil with it.

 

[de]

my step sister and her boyfriend came to stay with us at the weekend, i've met her bf before but for only like 10 minutes at a time, well anyways we were sat in the garden having a cig. and we were having quite a good conversation (a miracle in itself) about like my problems (a bigger miracle as i never really talk to people about stuff) anyways we'd been outside for like 40 minutes when she came over and sat with us, we continued talking, then she said, "oh poor little sum, dont you think other people have problems, come on rob lets go out it's a really nice day we'll go to the park a shame to be cooped up at home all day." i could have punched her, what hurt the most is the fact that her bf apologized for her behaviour later. i knew she was spiteful, but not evil with it.

that was a pretty bitchy thing to say although it sounds like your sister was jealous or felt threatened lol

 

[HEYBRITTANYxx]

i know it sounds stupid but

"stop smiling, you look so ugly when you do it."

from my ex.

 

[social_failure]

"Why are you so fucking creepy?"

...that one really hurt.

 

[LadyR8]

When I was like 8yo my teacher was pairing boys and girls for a school proyect and the boy that I was paired with said: " Not fair, I'm stuck with the ugly girl" :roll:

 

[asubscriber99]

i don't want to spend my life remembering what other people said to me that caused me anxiety, depression.....

i have created a rule that i strictly adhere to, i have a recycle bin in my mind, i put in it every event, every comment that caused me any stress in my life, and i never look back at it again.

every time that this event tries to come to surface, i repress it (it is called repression in psychology).

if you want to live you life, join the rule.

have a face \/ (faith!)

 

[Kaykay]

"All you ever do is laugh, don't you talk?!"
I was always a "listener", laughing and smiling etc at the right times because I always thought that people wouldn't notice how shy I was if I looked like I was interested in what they were saying, but apparantly that just made it more obvious...

My so called best friends used to bully me for having boobs (why this is a bad thing I'll never know but it still made me feel like crap) and an fat ass; I've never even been fat, they just singled me out for not looking the same - it's just the fact I was never painfully skinny like them. Pretending to find it funny got old VERY fast.

 

[dpr]

From my mom "What did I do so wrong in life to get you?".
Another one from my mom "This is the daughter I wanted, you're not close to it". Talking about her 26 year old co-worker. Her and my mom drink a lot together and her co worker is selfish just like my mom.

That's awful! Have you left home yet? I would if I were you.

 

[dpr]

I started to stutter when I was very young, around 7-8 years old.... It's not that bad, I've seen much much worse cases and mine would be considered mild, but still...... It's the main cause of me not socializing and avoiding oral presentations

I hear you man, that can be hard. I don't stutter myself, but a friend of mine used to. He did lots of speech therapy and now he is 100% stutter free, at least as far as I know. I talk to him all the time and never notice him stuttering anymore.

I know it's easier said than done, but I wouldn't worry about it that much. There are many people with stuttering problems who just never let it get in their way (James Earl Jones, Stuttering John, to name a few).

I remember this girl in my sociology class, I forget her name but I new she stuttered just from talking to her. She had it bad too, she would pause for a long time and finally spit out the word she was having trouble with and sometimes it took a long time for her to get it out. It seemed like it was only certain words. But she never let it stop her from speaking in class (answering questions, etc). One time she got up to go an oral presentation, and before she started she said, "For those of you who don't know, I have a stuttering problem that I've had since I was a little kid. I'm kind of sensitive about it and all I ask is that you guys please not make fun of me, okay?" And everyone in the class nodded and she went ahead and did it. I always thought that was really cool, and admired her for that.

 

[Premo]

Um..

This is stupid, but a girl called me a coward. It still bothers me till this day. My dad also told me he hated me when I was younger.

 

[wooaah]

When I was like 8yo my teacher was pairing boys and girls for a school proyect and the boy that I was paired with said: " Not fair, I'm stuck with the ugly girl" :roll:

I remember doing exactly that to some girl in elementary school. Deep down inside I knew I was hurting someone, but i was trying so hard to fit in... ugh. despicable. Now, 20 years later I still hate myself for doing it.

 

[lostinspace]

I remember when I was 12 years old a lot of girls at school liked me. I was talking to my mom about it one day when my dad came around the corner and said, "Girls, like you?" in a very doubtful and questioning way. I don't know why, but that lack of validation from my dad really hurt my confidence. I started to believe that I wasn't good enough and didn't have anything to offer anyone of the opposite sex. To this day I seldom date and have had only one substantial relationship in all my life...and that was a LONG time ago.

 

[Graeme1988]

Before I dropped out of high school 3 years ago, one teacher told me that I "lacked confidence and my view on life was wrong - that was said during a meeting this teacher was having with me and mum, she got called into school because my grades had really gone down within the space of a year. Also about a month after that, during a talk with the school guidance teacher about what subjects I would've taken the following year, she says to me: "To be honest with you, there is absolutely no point in you being here".

 

[Barnum]

"Thank you."

Which means a lot right after sex.

 

[Caseums21]

From my mom "What did I do so wrong in life to get you?".
Another one from my mom "This is the daughter I wanted, you're not close to it". Talking about her 26 year old co-worker. Her and my mom drink a lot together and her co worker is selfish just like my mom.

That's awful! Have you left home yet? I would if I were you.

She moved out in 2001 but she told me that when I went to visit her. She only lives 10 minutes away from my dad and I. Trust me, I'm glad she's gone.

 

[ImSorry]

"what fragance do you use? you always smell good", a girl told me last week, i was flattered

 

[tjdr59]

"I can't believe you go out looking like a tramp"
Thanks Dad!

by tramp i think he meant like a hobo or bum. since im a guy him saying i looked like a slut just sounds weird.

 

[recluse]

Mouthy girl in college -

''Put your glasses back on, you are ugly!''