not invited to wedding

LazyHermitCrab

LazyHermitCrab

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one of my boyfriends best friends is getting married and asked my boyfriend to be a groomsman. We've been dating for almost 2 years and he didn't say if i was invited so i'm assuming no. i feel really bad right now :( is this a normal occurance? :( my friend who i haven't seen in 2 years invited me to her wedding and i'm not a bridesmaid yet i can bring a plus one. so obviously they don't like me so... i'm sad :(
 
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jaim38

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Maybe they're doing a very small private wedding where only close friends and family members are invited. Some people like to keep the ceremony small for reasons like budget limits, social anxiety, etc.
 
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nightcrawler

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I've been invited to a wedding later this year...I wish I wasn't invited though! I'll only know a handful of people there, and really don't want to go.
 
Starry

Starry

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LazyHermitCrab said:
one of my boyfriends best friends is getting married and asked my boyfriend to be a groomsman. We've been dating for almost 2 years and he didn't say if i was invited so i'm assuming no. i feel really bad right now :( is this a normal occurance? :( my friend who i haven't seen in 2 years invited me to her wedding and i'm not a bridesmaid yet i can bring a plus one. so obviously they don't like me so... i'm sad :(
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You assume that you weren't invited, yet one could argue that your boyfriend assumed that it is obvious that you are also invited and didn't see need to mention specifically that you are... Since he didn't say either way, surely it would be best to ask him?

Try not to feel bad, even if you weren't invited it could be a simple oversight, and nothing meant personally.
 
awkwardamanda

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Have the invitations already been sent out? I have no idea whether you would be considered your boyfriend's guest, or if you should expect a separate invitation. It would be awfully inconsiderate for the groom to ask a friend to be in the wedding party and then not let him bring his girlfriend.


nightcrawler said:
I've been invited to a wedding later this year...I wish I wasn't invited though! I'll only know a handful of people there, and really don't want to go.
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Yeah, that's not fun. I went alone to a wedding a few months ago. I couldn't care less about not having a date for a family wedding because there will be relatives I'll know. But these were friends and I didn't know any of their other friends. I sort of knew the bride's family, but not well. It was a boring night. Now my only other friend is getting married next year. I kind of know some of her friends, but not very well. They're acquaintances. I don't exactly fit in. The crappy thing is, now she lives in another city. So I guess I'm gonna have to fly out by myself for a weekend, not just go to the wedding alone. I've been single for five years. Seeing as I am not actively looking for a boyfriend and don't get out much, I don't expect things to be any different a year from now.
 
MollyBeGood

MollyBeGood

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"not invited to Wedding"

Bigger Horror Story "Invited to wedding and have to go"

count your blessings IMHO.

peace:cool:
 
awkwardamanda

awkwardamanda

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狼;715515 said:
"not invited to Wedding"

Bigger Horror Story "Invited to wedding and have to go"

count your blessings IMHO.

peace:cool:
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As much as I don't like weddings, I would probably be a little offended too if I were in that situation.
 
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Silatuyok

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This has happened to me a couple of times. It's rather rude of the bride and groom, but usually people get chopped off the invite list in order to cut costs and whatnot. It doesn't mean they don't like you, but it does mean they don't see you as an essential part of their wedding day. Then again, your bf should probably ask if you can go, unless they have specified otherwise already.
 
awkwardamanda

awkwardamanda

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狼;715537 said:
oh yes. Of course ..But I was speaking only from the perspective of having SP. It is a horrible place to be in a wedding if you do have it. :)
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True. If I ever get married, a courthouse wedding would suit me just fine.

Actually, that brings me to another question. Is it possible they think you'll be uncomfortable sitting alone while your boyfriend is at the head table? Or do you know enough other people that this wouldn't be a problem? Of course, that's still a cruel reason to not invite someone. They might think it's implied you'll go along, but until you either receive an invitation or your boyfriend mentions it (or you ask him), you can't be sure.
 
LazyHermitCrab

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awkwardamanda said:
True. If I ever get married, a courthouse wedding would suit me just fine.

Actually, that brings me to another question. Is it possible they think you'll be uncomfortable sitting alone while your boyfriend is at the head table? Or do you know enough other people that this wouldn't be a problem? Of course, that's still a cruel reason to not invite someone. They might think it's implied you'll go along, but until you either receive an invitation or your boyfriend mentions it (or you ask him), you can't be sure.
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that's a good point; i don't really know anyone but still feeling left out :/ i agree with the courthouse wedding. it saves money too.
 
awkwardamanda

awkwardamanda

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LazyHermitCrab said:
he said that his friend just asked him to be a groomsman and didn't mention me at all. he said he would feel awkward asking because it's his friends wedding so it's his decision.
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So, was it recently that your boyfriend was asked be a groomsman? Do you have some time to figure it out still? Or was this awhile ago and the wedding is coming up soon? Generally, when people send out wedding invitations, they say "+ guest." But I'm assuming the wedding party doesn't get invitations, cause obviously they're going. But I just don't know what the protocol is when those people have boyfriends or girlfriends. I don't know whether the couple just asks them if they're going to bring dates, or what. Maybe they do get physical invitations, just so there's an official record of who's bringing a date. I don't know. It's one thing if they're not allowing anyone to bring guests, but if they are, it wouldn't make sense to allow everyone else to bring a date except for the wedding party. I've never been a bridesmaid so I really don't know how this stuff usually works.
 
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