what the **** people need to stop being so damn close minded about others. stop going for the assholes and jerks. stop BELIEVING you like those and hate the nice guy and/or the shy timid types, or the types that just want to RESPECT your personal space instead of having the confidence to violate them. IT IS KILLING THE HUMAN RACE.
First, is it not close-minded of you to say that people go for assholes and jerks because they believe that hey have to like them instead of the nice, shy or timid guys?When you say people it seems as though you are implying that all people do this. Generalizing is not being open-minded.
Isn't everyone entitled to their own tastes? Why does one person have to like you instead of a more outgoing person? Is the human race going to die out just because someone out there doesn't gravitate towards you or other people who are timid and shy? I'm sure that there are people out there who prefer people who are shy and timid. Would it be okay for an outgoing person to be angered at this or claim that it's killing the human race?
There is a difference between a confident man and an asshole. Assholes are usually loud, make their presence known and aren't timid. They're fun to watch in movies but not so much in real life. Most of the assholes that I've met were just as insecure as any timid man. I know that some people mistake arrogance for confidence. From what I've read, you sound like you're very angry and bitter. No woman is going to give you a chance if you're insecure, bitter and angry. You have to understand that your attitude is going to be a turn-off.
Perhaps you think of yourself as a nice guy who is entitled to having a girlfriend because you're nice? I can't judge you because I don't know you but the attitude that you've shown doesn't tell me that you're a nice guy.
I had my pick of assholes and "nice guys" and let me tell you that a lot of the self-described nice guys were in fact not that much nicer than the assholes. They were just not outgoing or dominant like the assholes. But they began showing their asshole side after they figured out that I wasn't going to date them or be romantically interested in them. Playing the part of the poor nice guy who was angered that women "never like me" doesn't get people attracted to you. It comes across as undignified. Only because you are shy and timid doesn't mean that you have to think or behave without dignity.
I married a genuine nice guy. We've been together for seven years and married for six. He has his insecurites and anxieties but he never expected me to like him just because he's nice and he never felt that he had some entitlement to me just because he wasn't an asshole like his friends. He never made himself out to be a victim even if he had been badly treated by women in the past. He had enough dignity to not think of himself as a victim. He never expected me to be interested in me but he never became angry or bitter at me.
Now, I could be totally wrong about you but from what you've been saying, you sound a lot like those "nice guys" I've met. Is it a coincidence that a lot of those men would tell me that women treat them like creeps and end up with assholes. I never treated them like they were creeps, I hung out with them and treated them with the same decency that I would treat any other human being. This didn't mean that I had to be their girlfriend. Then they behave like assholes when I don't want to sleep with them or be their girlfriend. Worst of all they think that they're totally justified to do so! They really believe that I did them some wrong. They don't even realize what assholes they are.
I refuse to feel bad because I did nothing wrong. I don't need people like that in my life. This is one of the reasons I don't hang out with guys who aren't my family or really close friends. I don't need this crap and maybe other women are trying to avoid this as well.