LazyHermitCrab
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or someone else. 
name a time where you stood up for yourself
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Sticking up for myself? Never, I have no memories of doing that.
Sticking up for someone else? Several times. I helped defend a friend at cafeteria but she never stood up for me so I end up being targeted instead. I stood up for my brother in a school bus when some bullies tried to steal his money.
Edit: Now that I think about it, I don't ever remember a time where my parents stood up for me except for 1-2 times in elementary. When I get verbally harassed by relatives, they didn't do anything. They just pretended everything was fine and overlooked it. Even worse is that they are not afraid to punish me in public. My dad tries to act as strict as possible when we visit relatives. My parents treat me like a kid and it's just embarrassing. Why are they so good at punishing me and my brother but horrible at sticking up for us?
Sticking up for someone else? Several times. I helped defend a friend at cafeteria but she never stood up for me so I end up being targeted instead. I stood up for my brother in a school bus when some bullies tried to steal his money.
Edit: Now that I think about it, I don't ever remember a time where my parents stood up for me except for 1-2 times in elementary. When I get verbally harassed by relatives, they didn't do anything. They just pretended everything was fine and overlooked it. Even worse is that they are not afraid to punish me in public. My dad tries to act as strict as possible when we visit relatives. My parents treat me like a kid and it's just embarrassing. Why are they so good at punishing me and my brother but horrible at sticking up for us?
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leongrado
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I think you have to do something yourself for it to be considered standing up for yourself
I don't really remember many times I've had to stand up for myself. I'm a pretty ordinary guy and I'm in a good enough college where the people who get in are usually aren't too incompetent. There's rarely anybody that makes fun of me and the people who do I'm usually not really affected because they're the people who's opinions I truely do not respect. I find that if you stare at the person with an emotionless look on your face and show that what they said had absolutely no effect on you, they tend to stop.
Where I have lived since birth is a very poor, 90% white area. In high school I had a few friends that were black, that's a big ''no no'' around here but I didn't care. One day while I was skipping class, I notice one of them was being held down by two dudes while another one was about to beat him up in the hallway. Three on one. So I walk over there and ask what's going on. I was very impolitely told to mind my own business. Being that there were 3 of them and just me and my friend, who was still being held down, I pulled my knife that I wasn't supposed to have out of my pocket and told them if they didn't let him loose, I'd cut all three of them. I guess they didn't figure they'd like that so they turned him loose. I enjoy getting along with people but I refuse to stand by while three guys beat up one guy, much less a friend of mine. And simply because of his skin color.
Steelsoul
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I never stand up for anyone around me because they all have a stronger mind than I do. They don't need protection from someone like me. I think I'm the one who are being protected by others. But I'm tired of that, so i'm learning to stand up for myself. Just a week ago, on facebook, there were two friends who suddenly jump in and talk like judging about what i had just posted. I was so angry that i argue with them until they get out of my post. But it's facebook only. I don't think i can do that in real life
Graeme1988
Hie yer hence from me heath!
When I was 12 years old, I finally stood up to a group of school bullies who'd been abusin' me verbally and pushing me around physically because of my cerebral palsy and the fact of being mixed race. Though, in retrospect ah might huv been wrong tae react the way ah did...? :idontknow:
Tamara89
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My memory is shocking but I actually remember one thing at the end of high school. There was a rumour going around in my year spread by this group of assholes that I was a 'slut', who also had this thing for singing that 'you're as cold as ice' song every time I walked past. And because I'm so mysterious and quiet it was such a big deal -_- anyway I finally confronted those assholes and told them what's what. I still remember their stupid faces.. Ha! I may be quiet but I have this thing if anyone abuses those I love I get really mad and give it back but then I have to recover from an anxiety attack :-S
Tamara89
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Good on you! Not wrong at all, those little shits deserve what they get. Kids can be horrible
Graeme1988
Hie yer hence from me heath!
Good on you! Not wrong at all, those little shits deserve what they get. Kids can be horrible
Really?
Ah should probably mention that this bully and 2 other mates provoked me by askin' whether or not ah would fight back if they were tae hit me. I stayed silent to which they took as a "Yes". So the main bully punches me in the chest. Ah retailiated by... punchin' and kneeing him in the stomach and put twistin' his left arm behind his back.
MotherWolff
Banned
When one of my nephews used to pretend that I would hit on him and go tell on me to his mom(my sister). I stood up for myself and told her that he was lying and he really was. This was nearly 13 years ago but I remember this clear as day!
MotherWolff
Banned
^^^^^I wish I did that when I was in school, instead of acting like a little bitch.^^^^
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I stood up to a rude co-worker yesterday. I take everything personally so i thought her rudeness must be because of something to do with me but after i had a go at her another co-worker told me that she's pretty much rude to everyone so that gave me a bit of validation.
MikeyC
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I found that bullies were not so tough alone, so your theory was very right. Good on you for standing up for yourself like that.
upndwn
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I recently punched I guy in the face, something I've never done before. The guy has always been a bully and acted like a **** and he likes to step on other people to get attention and increase his self esteem. We were at a bachelor party and I had recently lost my dad due to drug and alcohol abuse. When the guy pulled out some drugs I kindly asked him to put it away but he ignored me and came with some mocking remarks. I then proceeded to tell him to put it away because I had just lost my dad to that s**t. He then started to talk s**t about my dad and then I just lost it and punched him straight in the face. He had a black eye for weeks after. We still talk, but now he treats me more respectfully and he has never mentioned or commented what happened afterwards, he's still a douche though.
mikebird
Banned
I think I flip between quiet, embarrassed, polite, meagre and outburst of anger and violence
I guess this exhibits bipolar behaviour?
I think I have a perspective of being bullied -
hospital escape when being restrained
Maybe I rely on my shrine of Terminator 2 : Judgement Day
Shouting and banging hands on table at interview.
Never harm done.
I've been prone to accusation this weekend of causing leakage to people below. I've been shaking with responsibility from the inverse happing to me from above. I've learnt about it. I suffered and had a really good go at people upstairs... multiple episodes.
I feel the culprit but the story is that people can see the source of damage above - only evidence downstairs. I've been knocking for days when the place is empty. Last night I considered sneaking around with my big flashlight in the dark to see the 'flooding' but saw a light on inside. After repeated knocking, I got an answer. I think they were disturbed by my :kickingmyself:
I took my SLR camera to get evidence. I think I conducted myself OK. A bit easier than usual recruiter and interview stress. I've settled. Lack of access is an issue for me. Good to resolve.
I guess this exhibits bipolar behaviour?
I think I have a perspective of being bullied -
hospital escape when being restrained
Maybe I rely on my shrine of Terminator 2 : Judgement Day
Shouting and banging hands on table at interview.
Never harm done.
I've been prone to accusation this weekend of causing leakage to people below. I've been shaking with responsibility from the inverse happing to me from above. I've learnt about it. I suffered and had a really good go at people upstairs... multiple episodes.
I feel the culprit but the story is that people can see the source of damage above - only evidence downstairs. I've been knocking for days when the place is empty. Last night I considered sneaking around with my big flashlight in the dark to see the 'flooding' but saw a light on inside. After repeated knocking, I got an answer. I think they were disturbed by my :kickingmyself:
I took my SLR camera to get evidence. I think I conducted myself OK. A bit easier than usual recruiter and interview stress. I've settled. Lack of access is an issue for me. Good to resolve.