"Low life"

[ffeev223234]

it is just an opinion if you allow opinions to phase you chances are you will be miserable

 

[FriendlyShadow]

Okay I was having a conversation with a friend a couple days ago she asked me how I spend my day I said I spend them playing video games, reading, and watching tv shows then she said "If you were total stranger I would consider you a Low Life". It got me thinking for a while and I realize that everyone does see me or considers me a "Low Life" because I don't go outside to do any kind of "social activities"
I don't consider myself a low life for many reason's but apparently society is labeling me like that, I was wondering if anyone else have been called a "Low Life"?

First off, your friend sounds like one of the rude and self centered type of people who think their opinions are more important than yours. I'm shocked she actually had b*lls to say that to your face, especially as being your friend(a phony I should say.) She's the one who should owe you an apology. You are not a low life just because you don't do what most people are doing nowadays. I spend my days at home too doing what you've described, but does that really make me a low life? Absolutely not. I think if she continues to put you down like this, you're better off without being friends with her.

 

[SmileMore]

First off, your friend sounds like one of the rude and self centered type of people who think their opinions are more important than yours. I'm shocked she actually had b*lls to say that to your face, especially as being your friend(a phony I should say.) She's the one who should owe you an apology. You are not a low life just because you don't do what most people are doing nowadays. I spend my days at home too doing what you've described, but does that really make me a low life? Absolutely not. I think if she continues to put you down like this, you're better off without being friends with her.

I don't think she said you were a "low life" because you don't socailise, i think she meant that if somebody she didn't know said that all they do is sit around all day watching tv she'd think they were a bit of a slob. To be honest, so would i.

I have social anxiety but i work full time and it does annoy me that my taxes end up paying for other people who don't work. I'm not saying that to you personally, but if i met someone and they told me that they don't do anything all day i would think that they were lazy.

 

[theoutsider]

I've never been called a low life because I don't go out enough. That's just weird. Maybe they think you fit the profile of an internet stalker or something? That's the only explanation I can think of.

 

[Bronson99]

very successful people will probably say stuff like that. it's harsh but people can be arrogant and egotistical and they don't bother with empathy of people who aren't.

You don't have to be successful to say something like that. All you need really is to be confident and like to socialize. My observations, anyway.

 

[theslowesthand]

you cant say **** (j.erk) in here? That's pretty dumb

You also can't say **** or **** or ****, rightly so, but NOT when they are a part of a legitimate word!

 

[coyote]

I don't think she said you were a "low life" because you don't socailise, i think she meant that if somebody she didn't know said that all they do is sit around all day watching tv she'd think they were a bit of a slob. To be honest, so would i.

I have social anxiety but i work full time and it does annoy me that my taxes end up paying for other people who don't work. I'm not saying that to you personally, but if i met someone and they told me that they don't do anything all day i would think that they were lazy.

this was my take on it, too

I think the friend's comments were less about being social or extroverted, and more about being a productive member of society

 

[Odo]

this was my take on it, too

I think the friend's comments were less about being social or extroverted, and more about being a productive member of society

I think OP is probably a student.

Even so, my taxes go towards funding a LOT of things I would rather not be funding-- number one being WARS. I would rather give a million moochers a free ride than spend a single dollar on a bullet casing that was going to end up in some Iraqi child`s head. PRISM is probably number 2, followed by all kinds of grants given to extremely dodgy businesses that do more harm than good, and then finally awful politicians and their expensive campaigns and travel expenses at number 3. At least the welfare people aren`t actively trying to hurt anyone.

This isn`t really related, though.

 

[coyote]

I think OP is probably a student

then shouldn't their days be spent attending classes, doing homework, etc.

instead of playing video games, reading, and watching television?

"productive" isn't just about working or paying taxes

it's about doing SOMETHING, anything, besides simply being entertained

this was well put:

I'm not sure the "low life" thing is necessarily linked to the absence of social activities, but more to the fact that you don't do much with your life. When you think about it, it's not really an insult. It just means that, from all the millions of possible things you could be doing with your life, you choose to do the minimum.

 

[Odo]

then shouldn't their days be spent attending classes, doing homework, etc.

instead of playing video games, reading, and watching television?

"productive" isn't just about working or paying taxes

it's about doing SOMETHING, anything, besides simply being entertained

this was well put:

Most of the people I've met don't actively seek only to be entertained. That is just what they do to drown out the guilt.

They would rather be productive, but they either don't know how or nobody wants to hire/help them for whatever reason. I'm not advocating giving up but I do think that the world isn't exactly a fair place and it's easy for me to understand why some people wouldn't want to bother.

 

[coyote]

Most of the people I've met don't actively seek only to be entertained. That is just what they do to drown out the guilt.

They would rather be productive, but they either don't know how or nobody wants to hire/help them for whatever reason. I'm not advocating giving up but I do think that the world isn't exactly a fair place and it's easy for me to understand why some people wouldn't want to bother.

if one makes that choice then it follows that they risk being considered a "low-life" by those who do not

i'm not judging - i'm just saying that with every choice comes responsibility

I have personally chosen to do less with my life than I probably could have - but I realize what it looks like to others, and I know their opinions.

I can either choose to care what they think, or care about my own well-being.

 

[SmileMore]

then shouldn't their days be spent attending classes, doing homework, etc.

instead of playing video games, reading, and watching television?

"productive" isn't just about working or paying taxes

it's about doing SOMETHING, anything, besides simply being entertained

this was well put:

Exactly. erfect:

 

[Bronson99]

I think OP is probably a student.

Even so, my taxes go towards funding a LOT of things I would rather not be funding-- number one being WARS. I would rather give a million moochers a free ride than spend a single dollar on a bullet casing that was going to end up in some Iraqi child`s head. PRISM is probably number 2, followed by all kinds of grants given to extremely dodgy businesses that do more harm than good, and then finally awful politicians and their expensive campaigns and travel expenses at number 3. At least the welfare people aren`t actively trying to hurt anyone.

This isn`t really related, though.

Yeah, I really do agree with most of this. I think some of the other posters here are making too many assumptions about the OP, taking his words too literally, without knowing much about him.

 

[Bronson99]

if one makes that choice then it follows that they risk being considered a "low-life" by those who do not

i'm not judging - i'm just saying that with every choice comes responsibility

I have personally chosen to do less with my life than I probably could have - but I realize what it looks like to others, and I know their opinions.

I can either choose to care what they think, or care about my own well-being.

I have been told hundreds of times that others opinion of you should be far less important than your own opinion. I really believe it is good advice.

I believe if more of us here took this advice, we'd be in a better place, productive or not. To beat yourself up every day because you didn't achieve x or y, didn't get that college degree, whatever, it leads to self loathing. Self-loathing leads to worse things. Just look at me, for example.

 

[Anxy]

I guess, I'm a low-life too, then. I mean, I try to socialise more, and be with people, but sometimes I really prefer staying at home, playing a game or drawing stuff. Plus, my life isn't that interesting. I wish I could help you here, but I really don't know how. Just letting you know, you're not alone.

 

[SmileMore]

I have been told hundreds of times that others opinion of you should be far less important than your own opinion. I really believe it is good advice.

I believe if more of us here took this advice, we'd be in a better place, productive or not. To beat yourself up every day because you didn't achieve x or y, didn't get that college degree, whatever, it leads to self loathing. Self-loathing leads to worse things. Just look at me, for example.

Nobody is saying the OP should "beat themselves up".

 

[planetweirdo]

I consider myself to be a loser or low life. I'm a borderline agoraphobic and the thought of leaving my house and going to a job every day is terrifying to me. My family takes care of me. I am an aspiring writer but have not succeeded at getting any thing published yet. I am not a productive member of society. I spend a lot of time in fantasy because I feel that in reality I am worthless. In my fantasies I don't have to be me. In my fantasies I can be a normal successful person with no anxiety issues. In reality I'm a loser.

 

[Bronson99]

Nobody is saying the OP should "beat themselves up".

True, no one is saying that. But it could be extrapolated from some other posts here that claim you need to measure yourself against others and act accordingly, otherwise you have accept being judged. But I believe that's not always true. I've been judged before but less so as I got older. I'm not judged by random people anymore and rarely by friends. I've found that adults are generally interested in their own priorities and will not confront you about your "lifestyle" or whatever unless you're begging for it.

As for you, why would you criticize someone for having interests common among introverts or shy/anxious people? Do you know this person you're talking down to?

 

[SmileMore]

True, no one is saying that. But it could be extrapolated from some other posts here that claim you need to measure yourself against others and act accordingly, otherwise you have accept being judged. But I believe that's not always true. I've been judged before but less so as I got older. I'm not judged by random people anymore and rarely by friends. I've found that adults are generally interested in their own priorities and will not confront you about your "lifestyle" or whatever unless you're begging for it.

As for you, why would you criticize someone for having interests common among introverts or shy/anxious people? Do you know this person you're talking down to?

Excuse me? I'm not criticizing. I'm saying that a lot of people would judge you if a total stranger told them that all they did all day was sit around and watch tv and not work. They're not going to know that this person has anxiety issues are they? They're going to take you at face value.

People judge others, yes, even you. That's just a fact of life. It's not fair sometimes but that's the way it is. No, you shouldn't base your self worth on what others think about you but at the same time you should care about improving yourself and not just whine and cry when people see you in a certain way because everyone does it.

 

[Kiwong]

Everyone judges, everyone else to some extent. It is the way you let the judgement of others affect your thinking and health that is the problem with anxiety. Too much sensitivity to the opinions of other people.