Love

[mikebird]

It's what's missing, all-round. Give, and you get some back. Too limp

I don't understand why a tiny human is the most annoying, dirty, loud object, from the start, and people seem to have love for it, for many years. I was 'loved' by many, but could not understand why.

Ending as a grumpy, old person, they might have some love to offer, or might get some back.

I understand hate very well indeed. It goes with rejection, and this nurtures a strong hate to give to the rejector.

I always start with an absolutely neutral disposition towards anyone. It's those that decide to dislike me that breed a strong hate for them in me. mg:

 

[jaim38]

Well, mothers love their children because their children are like "miniature versions" of themselves. Their children come from their own "bone and blood" so to speak. I think it's human instinct to love our own children; we are programmed by our genetics to breed and care for our children.

Also, babies are cute, with their doe-shaped eyes and pug noses, and as a woman, I can tell you that when I see cute babies (especially the ones that more resemble me), I feel the urge to nuture them.

 

[surewhynot]

There's a thin line between love and hate.

 

[chibiXphantom]

i dont think we can survive without love. and people dont just love their children cause they're little versions of themselves or theyre cute. parents that adopt kids still love their children. this sounds dumb and cliche, but i think without love, the world would be in chaos. we should love everyone, see past their faults. just showing kindness to someone is showing love.
even people that are rude to me and are all grumpy, i try to be nice, smile, and cheer them up. showing a little love to people can turn their day around and in turn they might turn someone elses day around. im not saying to be a doormat, but you dont know where someone might be coming from, what theyre life has been like, or how their day has been. hating them wont help anything. treating them with love may change things (maybe)
i think there are three types of love: romantic love, brotherly love(toward friends, family), and unconditional/selfless love (love toward everyone, even strangers and those who do wrong to you). i try to love unconditionally, though it is hard sometimes.

ok im done with that little rant

 

[cosmosis]

Well, mothers love their children because their children are like "miniature versions" of themselves. Their children come from their own "bone and blood" so to speak. I think it's human instinct to love our own children; we are programmed by our genetics to breed and care for our children.

Also, babies are cute, with their doe-shaped eyes and pug noses, and as a woman, I can tell you that when I see cute babies (especially the ones that more resemble me), I feel the urge to nuture them.

In my opinion, babies that look like you have very little to do with the love of a mother (or father) and child. My sister had 3 biological and 3 adopted kids. The kids she adopted were black and nothing like her but she loved them just as much as her biological (if not more so). I don't think she's the exception either.

I do agree is a sense that you have to connect with them in some way. But love does not really care if the person is similar or even if they are cute. I believe the connection is simple and primal and if you can understand and connect with their pain and their joy, then they become an extension of you in a sense. A baby is very easy to love, not because they are cute, but because their pain and joy are so obvious and you can eaily relate to their need of hunger and comfort and when you see them smile for the first time, you can so very much relate. Same with any adult human connection. If you see their pain and joy behind all the bull****, you can connect and love to the point that you can willingly giving your life away for them.

 

[xDreamseller]

Am I the only person who thinks babies look horrible? They are all out of proportion and well...they don't do anything but scream/complain.

 

[luiface]

Am I the only person who thinks babies look horrible? They are all out of proportion and well...they don't do anything but scream/complain.

same I find them annoying and they get all the attention lol

 

[InvisaLady]

Am I the only person who thinks babies look horrible? They are all out of proportion and well...they don't do anything but scream/complain.

Nope, I'm a woman and I have never found any human babies to be "cute". They all look like screaming, mucus dripping, puking bald fat men.
Baby animals on the other hand, I think are cute, but humans ...... no way. The thought of having one of those "things" come out of me is the most disgusting thing I could think of!

 

[truffleshuffle]

Nope, I'm a woman and I have never found any human babies to be "cute". They all look like screaming, mucus dripping, puking bald fat men.
Baby animals on the other hand, I think are cute, but humans ...... no way. The thought of having one of those "things" come out of me is the most disgusting thing I could think of!

Being a bald fat man Im not sure how to take that lol.

 

[jaim38]

^I get what you guys are saying. I like to look at cute babies and maybe play with them but I don't want to raise one for real.

 

[InvisaLady]

Being a bald fat man Im not sure how to take that lol.

I assume you don't drool and vomit all the time!

 

[truffleshuffle]

I assume you don't drool and vomit all the time!

No that I don;t do lol.

 

[cosmosis]

There seems to be a very high correlation between this forum (and likely any socially anxious people I guess) and those who dislike or are disgusted or are annoyed by sweet innocent cute babies. I'm biased so I say shame on you all.

 

[Agent_Violet]

some babies are cute,some babies are not.ALL babies have cute moments and horrifying annoying moments.
My son was weird looking when he was born.He didn't start getting cute til a few months later but EVERY ONE who met him gushed over him like he was a mini model...every one except me. I love my child but he isn't my world.

There are days I adore him intensely and other days where I wish I never had him bc of the struggles he causes for me in life. But I show him nothing but love on the outside no matter how I'm struggling on the inside.

Having babies and being around babies isn't for everyone. Anyone who judges a person for not being into babies is ridiculous and unfair. Children are a TON of work with the occasional reward. I think people who are the most disappointed with children and babies are the people who had them so someone would love them.

I do think it is easier to love a child than to love an adult.

 

[user deleted]

Babies are awesome. I remember my Aunt taking my cousin's bottle away while he had his nappy(diaper) changed. He screamed for like a minute, and as soon as she undid him he just stopped, and defiantly peed on her. He was silent after that. I wanted to high-five him.

 

[JackOfSpades]

I have a strong weakness for babies, animals, the right woman. The things most accepting of this highly contained ocean of affection I have to give.

 

[MoonBoom]

Need others to better understand yourself and grow. I know who I am, but I still need you. Love is the feeling of knowing independent of your mind.

 

[Falkor]

How about hate-love relationships? It makes me think of borderline..

I really think hatred is so different than love... Love is compassionate, someone to trust, a loyal partner or a loyal friend or a dog.. Or your family.

Love is a grey area though.. There is always some downhill, but whatever happens, your loyal whatever loves you no matter how bad ya feel :thumbdown: