Just how BAD is your Social Life?

[♥ sweet kiss ♥]

Social what.......Social Life? What's that. I don't know anything about that

 

[Nervous]

It is nonexistent.

 

[Chrysalis]

I don't go out - I know I'm alot stronger than I was in previous years, but I do have avoidant behaviour.

Rather than take the risk and put myself out there (even though I'm pretty sure I'd cope ok) I just avoid *shrugs*
BAD Habit to break out of.

I do like going to the movies occassionally, but usually with a family member and then back home.

Don't have any real life friends at the moment - have successfully managed to push them all away in recent years.

I am ok usually - prefer my own company, but would like a true, loyal friend I could trust 100% who I could go out with

 

[lurknomore]

No social life. I've never known how to have one- even when I've had friends, I never really did anything with them outside of school or work. I think I must be a dull person, I can never think of things I'd want to do with people, or even know what I'd say to people to just have casual conversations.

 

[gsmax5]

I have no social life ...... tomorrow is saturday and i'll be sitting on the computer all night once again for the 1 millionth time while people i know will be living it up going to bars, clubs , having fun and so on............ ::

Sounds exactly like me

 

[Richey]

The only advice i can say is to pinpoint precisely the factors which cause you to avoid going out or making the effort if that is what you are after. If you crave being out and having a drink or eating out with people ..

so you could be telling yourself that you dont look the part to go out or you feel dull so why bother?

write down the target areas and then counter the brickwalls with antidotes that could help leaver you out of a cycle that keeps repeating itself ...

im trying this out myself and am finding that i resist going out out of habit but if i'm aware how to go about improving certain areas that stop me from attempting making friends or being more fun then i can go back to the whiteboard and start over ...

its a ****ing pain though, dont i know it

 

[brunettee]

dont have any social life either. I nipped my friends last nite after work and shes normally in alone as shes got a 2 year old but her mum had the baby and she had about siw people round all drinkin and having a laugh. I nearly died when i walked in it was one of the social situations that i dread. It was a nightmare i had a quick drink made my excuses and left but they was all trying to get me to stay. As soon as i got out the door i was so relieved but sad at the same time as i would of loved to of stayed and got drunk with them all. So i just come home to a empty house which was shit

 

[lettypagb]

I get surprised when somebody has a friend like it was a alien.

 

[appletree]

I have a really good social life, another paradox in my life.
I'm just really dyslexic and adhd and possibly bi polar, so i sort of always feel alone even though I am usually always surrounded by a lot of people.

 

[CastlesInTheSky]

What social life?

 

[CastlesInTheSky]

Ha, think I might have to expand. Erm, it's terrible. Not just relatively terrible or comparitively terrible, just. plain. terrible. Even in school. I can't hang round with the large group my one friend wants me to, so I end up sitting in the library by myself at break. Except then I get paranoid that everybody's looking at me and thinking that I'm weird/sad/pathetic because I'm on my own. So I go lock myself in a toilet cubicle, but then become paranoid because someone comes in with their friend and start talking and I start worrying that they know it's me hiding out in there and they're going to think I'm pathetic.

And of course I never get invited to social events. That's because I consciously (sp?) push people away from me so I won't be in a situation where I might get rejected, or something like that. And so now, I never get invited to any parties or anything. And of course, I'm far too terrified to actually arrange an outing with a friend myself. That would just be mortifying, the thought of them turning me down. Just terrible. And I'd worry the whole time that I wouldn't know what to say and seem like completley inadequate company and they'd be wishing they'd chosen another companion.

 

[Kathryn]

uh......what social life?

 

[dpr]

I wish I could be a cat too, like Recluse said.

Well, I have 1 really good friend who I hang out with once or twice a week.

I have 2 other friends in the area who I see much less, but we hang out sometimes.

My brother is really fun, but we don't usually go out and do stuff together.

My girlfriend and I hang out most weekends and sometimes during the week, but we rarely go out anywhere. If we do, it's just to get something to eat and bring it back home. A few times I've gone out with her friends and had to get really drunk.

I hate everyone at my work and talk to them as little as possible.

This weekend that just past, I hung out with a friend I hadn't seen in a long while. I was really nervous, and again got really drunk but so did she so it didn't seem like I was some weird alky or anything.

I wish I could hang out with people without having to be drunk.

So that's it. There are a bunch of people I used to hang out with, but who I think have given up on me, cuz I haven't made any plans with them for so long. I wish I could somehow tell them that it's not their fault I'm not hanging out with them, but mine. I doubt they would understand anyway.

 

[Errordotocx]

I have a social life, but i'm not always the most social person. Especially around women. I've got quite a few close friends and as I am making steps toward curing myself I have been making more. Although I don't make friends very easily, I still make some at a slower pace than everyone else. Although right now, social times are kind of at a stand still. Everyone is always busy, I myself am busy but have more free time than the others and am becoming very bored of sitting at home at nights. 2009 should be a very life changing year as I and my friends have things set up for all of us to do that should change things. Keeping optimistic and hoping for the best.

 

[Rise Against]

socialphobiaworld.com is my social life...

 

[Uix]

I have abit of a social life. I casually talk to some people at work sometimes. I talk and hang out with my brother and his friends when we end up hanging out. although i'm abit of an internet geek so i spend a lot of my time on the computer. I love biking far more than any other sport. especially because i can do it by myself and have the most fun even though i'm by myself.

 

[mismeek]

i go to parties and hang out all the time.. its strangers that freak me out.

 

[Alexfangirl]

What social life?


Wait, has that been done already?