Pretty isolated, but I'm more comfortable in isolation so it isn't as much of a bother to me as it was when I was 19.
When I was that age I felt that I was comparing myself to other people in social circles more strongly than I am now. When I go to a concert I go by myself. I look around and sometimes feel sad about the fact that I am here alone while so many others are having cheerful conversations in groups.
But, then I notice the handful of other loners in the crowd and it reassures me that I am not alone and that if these people can be here on their own then I will survive. It isn't exactly as easy as it sounds by my words, but I usually get through the night on my own quite well.
I would always say that it is much better to go out and see a movie or a concert on your own than to never leave your room at all.
I don't know, I have good relationships with my cousins, Aunts and Uncles (mostly because those are forced social interactions, so I eventually got used to it.) But I've got no social life 'out there.'
Well...i'm in a fraternity, but they're mostly acquaintences. It's not a "i like you, lets hang out" its more like a "ugh, we're in the same frat, i'll try to make conversation with this guy" kinda thing. It sucks, and i'm about to leave cuz its a waste of time and money. Other than that, I got work friends who are actually pretty cool, but we don't hang out. Lately I've been spending a lot of time in my dorm with my dorky-ass roommate, and he just annoys me. Anytime I go out, its usually frat stuff and like i said, theres no real friendship with them; just acquaintences. They won't even drive me anywhere, so I usually don't even go to their stuff...
It's neither "good" nor "bad" ... its more that I don't have one. And i choose that.
I choose none because i have school and work right now, and thats all i need. I know what its like to have one- and right now, I would rather have none at all, than have people pretend to be your friend, only to stab you in the back , and loose all trust you ever had.
Don't have any type of social life whatsoever. It's kinda surprising to me, I'm not really bothered by it like I thought I would be, but lots of people see me as a loser for having no friends. I also don't exhibit the usual symptoms of SP (lack of confidence, depression, etc.) but I do have a hard time making friends since i don't relate to people in my age group (20-24). I think it due to the fact that I'm more mature for my age than the typical frat party, orgy loving, beer belly guys in my age group.
I think I know what you are saying. I think back in high school I used to be like this. The few friends would make fun of me, but they still kept me around so they could hang out with when others were not around. Besides, they themselves were unpopular nerds. I hung around with them because I had some common interests and I did not have any other friends. In any case, back then if I did want it, I could have a social life.
I don't live near my school/uni friends anymore. Besides, they have formed stronger friendships with people they are around now.
I don't have any acquaintances outside work here. I go out with work colleagues maybe 1 or twice a year. I can't really form friendships with them as they don't stay in our work place for long and they probably view me as some weird losers to laugh at anyway.
Overall my existance here in this state is solitary, except when my folks visit me about one a year.
So I would say my social life as almost non-existent.
Basically see people at work and very occasionally meet someone for coffee. At times in the past it was a bit better where I would go out with a couple of people from work who I felt comfortable with but they have left and I moved offices and things have changed in people's lives. The only other contact I have with people I know is the occasional phone call and regular emails. That's about it.
yeah i haven't been out with friends for like 2-3yrs.. so i basically have no friends. only time i go out is for like my families bdays and thats a struggle and a half...
yes once you leave school it gets harder to make friends
You mean is it me?
it's Johnny Depp in Edward Scissorhands. Wouldn't complain if i looked like him though! although i am a girl? still.. i wouldn't complain.
and yes, so much harder to make friends outside of school.
and when i did work i made no friends everyone thought i was some weirdo quiet person. I'm actually still shocked about that i'd have my manager actually talking about me behind my back and all the people i worked with, they'd "whisper" but i'd always hear... i think that took away alot of my confidence.. i was shy at school but not overly shy... until i worked...it takes me ages to feel comfortable around people and by the time i do they've already judged you and made up their mind that your not worth their time.
whatever. people suck! (besides everyone on here. haha)
damn, i wish i had a social life. and was able to go out and feel awesome and have fun! so bored of not having fun!!!
I have no social life ...... tomorrow is saturday and i'll be sitting on the computer all night once again for the 1 millionth time while people i know will be living it up going to bars, clubs , having fun and so on............ :🙁:
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