you think its hard making friends when you are on college just wait until you hit your earlys 30s..
Definitely!! It's so difficult to get past the acquaintance stage when you're a "grown up".
you think its hard making friends when you are on college just wait until you hit your earlys 30s..
maybe so... but more than anything i think he provides an awareness of human behavior. so many people on this site wonder, "why don't i make friends at school?" this explains a lot.
It also explains a lot of problems people have, trying to please everyone else, not themselves.
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It also explains a lot of problems people have, trying to please everyone else, not themselves.
so how does a socialphobe please himself? there has to be a push to show interest toward other people at some point, otherwise we remain shut-ins.
what would be better advice? i don't mean this in a nasty way as i need help in this aspect... balancing my
natural tendency to hide-away
vs
pushing self to make contact
vs
am i just trying to please other people when i do?
Definitely!! It's so difficult to get past the acquaintance stage when you're a "grown up".
Decided to make this my desktop wallpaper as I need all the inspiration I can handle.
It's just that it made me realize how much people like to talk about themselves
It is so incredibly difficult with social phobia. >.< I end up feeling completely miserable because of it. Still have old friends from high-school, but making new ones is basically impossible.
Flanscho-u find it easier to make friends in your 30s?i have found that people are already established and have their own social circle at this age..its qute difficult imo to break into these circles unless you are very determined and outgoing which i am not..
when it comes to making friends (friends or even just friendly-acquaintances) it takes two to tango. at some point there must be a crossover where one person extends himself to the other.
but for the socially inept perhaps it is a push in the right direction .