Is the only person that you can talk with is yourself?

[voodoochild16]

It's hard when none of your parents can talk to you about getting better because that's the only thing you want, badly, well at least for me.

Not even my step dad can talk to me in that kind of way.

My boss is almost the same as a father to me in some ways too but I can't cross that line so I have to stay cool with most relationships I have.

Does anyone else here experience the same thing?. I feel that I am very good at giving advice to others all the time. But not to myself. We are much better listeners and do-ers from listening than telling ourselves and doing.

 

[Hellhound]

Where is the "I talk to my friends" option?

 

[mikebird]

This is heavy!

I like it

Self-mentoring is my own option.
My own family (old or young) have a serious lack of understanding, or care. Rejection was where my life started
This makes me wonder how I'd perform as a parent, although I believe in myself.

Professionals: I brought up issues of loneliness in good time when I was left by myself and I had instant foresight how it would impact me forever. I was wise to visit Samaritans. They are nothing. I am always right. GP just gives up, just like everyone else, putting me out of the door. That's my idea of rejection. The therapy forced on me when in hospital, as if I was seen as incapable of looking after myself, being imprisoned for no crime. Best thing I heard during months of physiotherapy, cognitive, speech and language and occupational therapy, was "it's not your fault that you got epilepsy". I was adamant that I would have survived and bounced back to life if I was freed in the two weeks it took to revive me from an unknown state of no sense of who I was. Four months of being treated as a 90-year-old deemed incapable of looking after myself was pure punishment and torture. Life experience to learn from. People's normal lives are so astonishingly easy and effortless

Every psychologist during and since that event are judged as stupid and unworthy by me. They are simpletons with no clue of the real world.

As for talking to myself and contributing my own advice is where my value lies. I guess I'd admit that maybe I don't have enough sympathy for anyone to understand or care for others. I felt a self-sufficient soldier from very early life, spending years in hospital, missing school

I am glad to post the Volunteering thread before reading this. It caught my eye immediately.
I'm sure I'll be a good soulmate for anyone

 

[Klonoa]

I talk with my closest friends, I just can't bring myself to talk with my parents about emotional stuff for the life of mine...

 

[jaim38]

I can't open up to my parents, friends or boss (even though he's a psychology expert that I could get advice from, but I don't want to cross that line). Some stuff are too embarassing to talk about. But I can open up to myself and people on this forum. I self-talk everyday when I'm alone in a room.

I feel that I am very good at giving advice to others all the time. But not to myself. We are much better listeners and do-ers from listening than telling ourselves and doing.

I definitely relate to this. I can offer good advice to people but not really to myself.

 

[voodoochild16]

This is heavy!

I like it

Self-mentoring is my own option.
My own family (old or young) have a serious lack of understanding, or care. Rejection was where my life started
This makes me wonder how I'd perform as a parent, although I believe in myself.

Professionals: I brought up issues of loneliness in good time when I was left by myself and I had instant foresight how it would impact me forever. I was wise to visit Samaritans. They are nothing. I am always right. GP just gives up, just like everyone else, putting me out of the door. That's my idea of rejection. The therapy forced on me when in hospital, as if I was seen as incapable of looking after myself, being imprisoned for no crime. Best thing I heard during months of physiotherapy, cognitive, speech and language and occupational therapy, was "it's not your fault that you got epilepsy". I was adamant that I would have survived and bounced back to life if I was freed in the two weeks it took to revive me from an unknown state of no sense of who I was. Four months of being treated as a 90-year-old deemed incapable of looking after myself was pure punishment and torture. Life experience to learn from. People's normal lives are so astonishingly easy and effortless

Every psychologist during and since that event are judged as stupid and unworthy by me. They are simpletons with no clue of the real world.

As for talking to myself and contributing my own advice is where my value lies. I guess I'd admit that maybe I don't have enough sympathy for anyone to understand or care for others. I felt a self-sufficient soldier from very early life, spending years in hospital, missing school

I am glad to post the Volunteering thread before reading this. It caught my eye immediately.
I'm sure I'll be a good soulmate for anyone

I once spoke to a therapist who suffered from the same thing as me. It was like talking to God.

What he did was face his fears to the max, throughout university and he met who ever came long the way.

It saddens me though, as you see in the Afraid of People documentary where some of the sufferers in that show really say that loneliness was the hardest problem. For the therapist herself she almost ended her own life because of loneliness during the time she went to school to be who she is, because of loneliness.

But for me, I cannot be the person that gives advice to myself, even though people turn to me sometimes for advice. And so here I am, making this thread. But I think I am headed in the right direction.

Sorry the poll options weren't more thought through before I posted it, I did it a little too fast.

 

[lurknomore]

I added a few more options, hopefully most of the bases are covered now.

 

[Ithior]

I only talk to myself. Sometimes I can give myself good advice, some other times not really. But since the advice comes from myself I find it harder to put it into practice.

 

[Srijita52]

Yep, the only person I can ever talk to is myself. Because my parents don't understand and friends, well they don't care.

 

[SilentAndShy]

I talk to myself, mainly procrastinating and bashing myself. But today, I nearly blew a professional opportunity that didn't work out too badly in the end and I talked to myself but spoke as I would to someone else rather than me talking to me.

I've told my family about my depression/SA, they are being nice but the next step is to talk to my friends which won't be easy.

Sometimes friends can give a dispassionate opinion that helps and that's what I'm hoping for when I talk to them.

 

[voodoochild16]

I added a few more options, hopefully most of the bases are covered now.

Thanks man.

Anyways, yeah there are definitely people that just dont understand what we are talking about. You seriously have to talk to either someone who goes through it or a professional that has treated people like us for years to have someone worthy of talking to on a regular basis.

Then there are the people that try their best to understand and accept us, those are the more frequent ones that we tend to talk to most often.

 

[Flanscho]

Depends on the subject. But if it's about private stuff, I mostly talk with friends about it.

 

[Saraswati]

I talk to my closest friends and my boyfriend. Of course I also listen to myself
My family is horrible so that option is a no-no.

 

[selon]

I would never talk to my family about personal stuff, n-e-v-e-r. They don't understand, they are judgmental and they remember everything I say and do and will throw it right back at me. Not necessarily because they are mean (except for my sister, she is) but because they aren't well themselves. And they worry all the time, so talking to them about what I go through would just make it more difficult them.

As for my friends, I had one friend whom I loved (and still love) dearly that I could always talk to. We sort of went through the same problems and that made it easier for us to talk and explain ourselves. Her way out was becoming religious, and since then, we barely talk and I've seen her like 3 times in the last two years. She's still very important to me though, and I like to believe that it's mutual in spite of our very different life styles.

 

[spearhunter]

Yes i talk to myself often, but I wonder if it is a sign on sanity or insanity?

 

[jaim38]

Yes i talk to myself often, but I wonder if it is a sign on sanity or insanity?

talking to yourself is not a sign of insanity. I talk to myself and I know I'm not insane.

 

[SilentBird]

I talk to other people all the time, in my head.

 

[Kiwong]

My parents were the only people I trusted and could relax enough with to talk with. They're both dead.

Right now the most consistent living thing my life is my pet cockatiel. She is who she is, a bird. She doesn't judge me, she loves me unconditonally.

 

[mikebird]

I wish I'd realised this when I was small. I've enjoyed music by myself

Recently, I got onto the Schizophrenia topic, and always saw this as simply having two personas, characters - the way it's described as a default condition in a number of movies, I think (Jekyll & Hyde), but the real definition is really clear to me.

In my dreams and thoughts, due to a very isolated childhood and nowadays...

I live in my own world, feeling the main boss of everything, with no hint of sympathy for anyone else at all. Plenty of ideas to share and suggestions

This is my wrongdoing.

I saw my teachers as Gods, and my lecturers.

I want to introduce something new to people they don't understand or care about, although it's on the job spec. I'm there to help.

My life was built on anything unexpected, to absorb, and learn from. This happened when I started school and extracurricular things.

The only way to discover these is via a social network. My approach doesn't fit with any Human race mg:

Ignorance & Rejection were never in my attitude, but now it is. My defence mechanism

 

[fate12321]

I often find my self talking by myself in my mind