Is it the slightest bit possible

[FriendlyShadow]

I have been meaning to ask this question for some time and I know a majority of you would think it's weird or it couldn't be possible. Can two people be in a relationship with no sex at all. I mean AT ALL? Is this a form of celibate relationship. Can very few couples make it through the rest of their lives without sex or certain sexual intamicy. Would they lose sexual physical attraction and feel disgusted by each other if they didn't have that sexual pleasure. Are there other ways to boost up sex drives without even having sex. Can very few people be in a relationship and just act like their friends. Or will hormones take over when one of the person can't take it anymore and wants to have intercourse. Is it rare or impossible altogether? Plus, how can you make sure you never end up getting pregnant if the condoms break or birth control if you don't want kids?

 

[A86]

i like to believe anything is possible

 

[A Many Splendored Thing]

It's possible. Some people probably don't have a strong sex drive.

Vasectomy or tube tying are effective ways of permanent birth control. Giving up the baby for adoption or abortion could be other alternatives if birth control fails.

 

[BlackPuma]

I know of people whom enjoy erotic material (like stories, videos, ect.) but that have no interest in participating in sex at all. They mention they like the fantasy of intercourse, but are simply not interested in the act itself.

I'd say it's possible if the two people were so inclined. When both are either completely asexual, or asexual with sexual interest limited to fantasy.

However, if this isn't the case with one, or both- of the people involved, it's probably more difficult/increasingly unlikely. More unlikely and difficult, but still not impossible. In that case it becomes a case of suppressing and monitoring (strong) basic instinct. It would require great discipline I would imagine.

 

[Lamb]

I have been meaning to ask this question for some time and I know a majority of you would think it's weird or it couldn't be possible. Can two people be in a relationship with no sex at all. I mean AT ALL? Is this a form of celibate relationship. Can very few couples make it through the rest of their lives without sex or certain sexual intamicy. Would they lose sexual physical attraction and feel disgusted by each other if they didn't have that sexual pleasure. Are there other ways to boost up sex drives without even having sex. Can very few people be in a relationship and just act like their friends. Or will hormones take over when one of the person can't take it anymore and wants to have intercourse. Is it rare or impossible altogether? Plus, how can you make sure you never end up getting pregnant if the condoms break or birth control if you don't want kids?

That's quite the mix of questions. I'll try answering to the best of my ability.
When you say make it through the rest of their lives without sex, you mean never ever, or referring to waiting until marriage?

I would say it's possible, but extremely difficult and rare. I don't think sexual physical attraction may be lost; it will become heightened and sexual frustration + tension will occur. I'm not sure why you mention wanting to find ways to boost sex drive. If you're wanting to refrain from intercourse, you're going to want to find ways to figure out how to release and manage the tension that builds up. Lack of sexual intimacy can place some strain on a relationship.

If you mean lacking a sex drive to begin with, that's a different story.

Prevention methods: vasectomy for the male, tubal ligation surgery for females (tubes tied). Birth control that has the lowest pregnancy rates include implanon (an implantable rod), an IUD, or Depo Provera (an injection)- all of which can be combined with a condom since none are 100% effective. I'm not a doctor so do your research. They all come with side effects.

 

[Hellhound]

I believe it is possible. Not everyone is into sex.

 

[laure15]

It is possible. Sex isn't love. I imagine some couples just want the intimacy and not the sex.

 

[FallenFeathers]

I imagine it's very dependent on the two people involved, but I think it's more than possible if it's talked about openly I think I would find it very hard not being able to make love to the woman I loved, but I would do it if it meant making her happy.

 

[WishingICould]

It's possible but it's rare that both people wouldn't want sex. To me, without sex it's just a friendship not a relationship. Unless you had a vasectomy or a hysterectomy there is no guarantee against pregnancy. I don't know any man who would be happy to not have sex at all in a relationship.

 

[gazelle]

It is possible.Some poeple have actually tried it and recommended it (not that I'm advocating it, this is only informative):

The Oneida Community

One early pioneer was John Noyes from the Yale Divinity School. Noyes came up with the concept of Male Continence as a consequence of his wife losing four premature children in the first six years of their marriage. After struggling with self-imposed celibacy, he eventually found that he as well as his wife greatly enjoyed non-ejaculatory sex. He told friends about it, and in 1848 they founded the Oneida community in upstate New York, which eventually grew to 250 men and women.

source:Sexual Relationships

I also recall reading somewhere that Virginia Woolf's relationship with her husband was also of that sort, and despite of that, he still loved her.

 

[sullyS25]

I think it is possible but judging by the last sentence in this post, you have anxiety about having sex because your afraid of the consequences it could bring..I.E unwanted pregnancies, STD's or whatever....I think you might want to address that as opposed to avoiding it if that is what's going on.

 

[Falkor]

Just place two asexual people in a relationship. And bingo, there you have two people who never need or want sex

 

[KiaKaha]

Sure it's possible.

You just have to be honest with each other and make it happen.

Personally I would pop if I was with a girl and couldn't have sex - but if it's your deal, then it can definitely happen. All of those questions are based on behviour - not absolutes. If you have the will - then it can happen.

 

[Kiwong]

Without the time wasted thinking about sex they'd be sure to achieve much more in life.

 

[coyote]

 

[Hellhound]

^ ...

Oh god... derp

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

^^OH, my! LOL...

Anyway, to answer the question, it is possible. The unfortunate thing is that these parings usually involve one partner who does want sex but the other doesn't. The trick is to find someone who matches your sexual, um, appetite or lack thereof.