Is it normal for a 20 year old to not had girlfriend?

SoulSeeker

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Im nearly 31 and i've never had a proper girlfriend. Had a lot of attention over the years and also back when i was 16-20yrs old..I had very very short flings..but nothing ever serious. Mostly down to shyness..and more so these days, mental illness..BDD etc.

I've now met someone online and we're gonna work hard to make it the real thing..because we have so much understanding and interest of each other. We also both want the same things in life..not a lot really, compared to some. :)
 
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Felgen

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Masychefx2 said:
im just wondering ahh depressing time for me im sure im not the only one though let us all pity ourselves
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I'm in my first serious relationship now, at age 21. My dad didn't have a serious girlfriend before he met my mom at the age of 23. He's still married to her at the age of almost 48.
 
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coyote

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I know it probably doesn't seem like right now, but 20 is young.

You've got an entire lifetime ahead of you.

Good luck!
 
coyote

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Barry1979 said:
I just get tired of everyone getting down on themselves for various things (including myself) because we are told by society that it is wrong to feel this way or that way or it is wrong to do this or that or if we do not have this or that its wrong, it all a bunch of BS. I think, feel and do what I think is normal and what I like to do and do not care what anyone else thinks.
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right on!!
 
SoulSeeker

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Barry1979 said:
I just get tired of everyone getting down on themselves for various things (including myself) because we are told by society that it is wrong to feel this way or that way or it is wrong to do this or that or if we do not have this or that its wrong, it all a bunch of BS. I think, feel and do what I think is normal and what I like to do and do not care what anyone else thinks.
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Completely agree. Although my problems do sometimes make it hard for me to be 'my own man' Though this is defo the outlook I have of life. I hate conforming to anyone or anything.
 
coyote

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Barry1979 said:
I mean if we lived by what society deems "normal" or the right way to "live" your life we would all be out working for big fortune 500 companies ripping people off (stealing other peoples life savings), cheating on our spouses, getting caught up in sex scandals and all sorts of other things, lmao. I know this last comment was way off subject but I thought it was funny. What I am saying is that for all these people who try to tell others how they should live their lives and what is normal and all this stuff need to look at themselves in the mirror because what is considered "normal" to them may not be what others consider "normal". For example I cannot stand Dr. Phil for any of those who know who I am talking about. What makes him think he is qualified to even think about trying to tell others how to live their lives?! I hate people like that.
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Absolutely! Remember, everything on television - from psychologists to news reporting - is there for one reason: to get people to watch so that they will see the commercial advertising spots.
 
Hellhound

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It's normal. Society is full of ignorant idiots, that's why it tells you otherwise. You are still young, and you have to do things when YOU want to, not when society believes it's required. No one has the right to tell you what to do, only you know when you are ready for those things. What everyone else thinks is not relevant.
 
iamthenra

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I've never had a girl friend either, and I'm going to be 42 this year... No female attention either.... Don't get the wrong idea, I am very interested in female attention like I always have been since I was a wee lad. Otherwise I have had a very normal life, traveling the world over and going to remote locations doing things that only the rich usually do... One of my friends told me that I have done more manly things in my lifetime than most men... Not sure exactly what he meant by that, but it sounded like a "warm fuzzy" compliment...
 
Waybuloo

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I think it is seen as not normal, but there is also nothing wrong with it - in the narrow scope of the typical person's lifestyle. As for abnormality it is not as severe as being housebound, or being avoidant with people. You could jsut be picky and that doesnt' have to = abnormal. Or you could have 'unconventional' morals and sleep with friends iwth benefits, have no need for an emotional relationship.
 
vj288

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Yeah it's totally normal. If you think about it, you're only seven in dating years. If you're a late bloomer two or three. And going two or three years without a girlfriend is very normal in my book. :)
 
BlackPuma

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Yup perfectly normal. In a way, being different is normal. Just because everyone else is following one another doesn't mean it is by definition normal. People explore, grow oddities, develop what's called 'personalities'.

Even if it were strange that you haven't had a girlfriend in society's eyes, you'd still be perfectly normal as far your humanity goes. But allot here haven't had a girlfriend/boyfriend yet, so you've got nothing to be ashamed of. ;3
 
Honda

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Its not a matter of normal or not normal... But people usually have the impression that by this age obviously lots of girls and opportunities passed along with the fact that your hormones are raging should be a good enough excuse to the least... Thats why some people find it weird that you dont have a girl..
 
pebblesdundee

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i always thought it was weird because i had like 7 girlfriends by the time i was 14, but then i got SA and since then relationships have been hard, so now i understand
 
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mwas

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am 27, i have never had a galfriend though i would like to, besides that, i feel great on the inside and i think i have accomplished much than most guys around. Not having a girlfriend to me is no loss.
 
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