Is ALL sexual contact out of the question for men with SA?

[TooShyShy]

Even going to strip club?

What about having a lap dance with an attractive female? Would you need to be drinking to enjoy it?

Do you even have the urge to see a girl dance, naked...would you want to touch her? And would you like her to touch you (or do anything else) and can you be comfortable with that?


Is all sexual contact out of the question for men with SA?

 

[gsmax5]

I would actually be comfortable with that. My libido would probably override any anxiety I have.

This is off topic but:
Do strip clubs let you touch the strippers? If not, then why can women touch male strippers?

 

[BlackKids]

I could go to one but I dont know if I'd enjoy. Yes I'd find the girls sexy but its not the same as if your girlfriend gave you a lapdance.
Its like escorts, whats the point?

 

[klytus]

Why would I go to a strip club? To see naked women? I know what a naked woman looks like. A lap dance? That would just be a tease. I don't know how that could be enjoyed. I'd probably laugh and scare the poor girl away. And I have no right whatsoever to touch some random person. For what purpose would I do that anyway? I know what skin feels like.

What does this have to do with sexual contact?

I dont like strip clubs, or strippers or any of that type of crap though. I only really get turned on by women if I know they have attraction for me, a stripper does not do this for me.

Indeed.

 

[PennyLane]

I'm totally butting in on a man's thread but im meant to be writing an essay and trying to put it off for as long as poss.

I've always wondered why men go to strip clubs or prostitutes because I can't really understand what could turn someone on about being touched by a girl who probably finds you repulsive and you are actually having to pay for her time!

This has always baffled me. I can't think of a bigger turn off than being with a guy who wasn't attracted to me...

but this also goes as far as when guys go out to bars and they take home drunk girls for one night stands...not caring that this girl probably wouldn't give him the time of day if she were sober!

Anyway its always bugged me.

 

[Bar-AKA-Redzer]

no you can never touch the strippers in any clubs. I'd be fine in one but i dont have any real desire to see one and i know i would be able to control myself enough not to touch them.

 

[mrb]

strip club ..... naked girls ..... hell yea id want to touch , so she hates me so she finds me repulsive , who cares come here darlin ::

 

[TooShyShy]

I ask about physical contact bcuz i have read some sa men have never actually touched or could touch a woman they like, so i wondered if they could if the woman was not a woman they fancy, someone they work with, etc, if there sexual desire is more powerful then there sa???

I've been told by men that go to these clubs that some strippers that give private dances do let you touch them, some will even kiss you on the lips..do other things as well.

Its up to the customer if they want that kind of service though.

 

[PennyLane]

Too shy shy...every time I see your username I end up singing the song all night

 

[recluse]

I don't see the point of getting lap dances and stuff, after all they get paid to do it, they don't give a crap who the guy is, for them it's a job. Not to mention it's seedy and you have to remember that the girls are someones daughter.

 

[recluse]

I'm totally butting in on a man's thread but im meant to be writing an essay and trying to put it off for as long as poss.

I've always wondered why men go to strip clubs or prostitutes because I can't really understand what could turn someone on about being touched by a girl who probably finds you repulsive and you are actually having to pay for her time!

This has always baffled me. I can't think of a bigger turn off than being with a guy who wasn't attracted to me...

but this also goes as far as when guys go out to bars and they take home drunk girls for one night stands...not caring that this girl probably wouldn't give him the time of day if she were sober!

Anyway its always bugged me.

Guys can get charged for rape for having sex with drunk girls, it's happened. I don't see the point of having sex with random people anyway.

 

[iamthenra]

Even going to strip club?

What about having a lap dance with an attractive female? Would you need to be drinking to enjoy it?

Do you even have the urge to see a girl dance, naked...would you want to touch her? And would you like her to touch you (or do anything else) and can you be comfortable with that?


Is all sexual contact out of the question for men with SA?

Uuuuuu Yeah... I'm a guy... I love to see hard bodies in the nude.... Most of those gals in the strip clubs are thin and very attractive (usually). I love to see them naked, because that is the only place I have ever seen a naked female before. Desperate? Heck ya! I am desperate, lonely, and miserable. I don't think I could do the lap dance though, because I don't want to look like a total perv, even though being there is a bit perverted, but natural none-the-less... Of course I would love to touch "it", but like Redzer said, they won't allow you to touch the strippers.... I can only imagine what it would feel like to touch one, I've never had the opportunity. I mean I am 41 and have only been on 3 dates.... Desperate? YES!!! Horney? YES!!!! Doh!

 

[Juliegoolie]

I'm totally butting in on a man's thread but im meant to be writing an essay and trying to put it off for as long as poss.

I've always wondered why men go to strip clubs or prostitutes because I can't really understand what could turn someone on about being touched by a girl who probably finds you repulsive and you are actually having to pay for her time!

This has always baffled me. I can't think of a bigger turn off than being with a guy who wasn't attracted to me...

but this also goes as far as when guys go out to bars and they take home drunk girls for one night stands...not caring that this girl probably wouldn't give him the time of day if she were sober!

Anyway its always bugged me.

I agree on this one. I never understood the appeal of this. The whole scene comes off as grotesque, and demeaning for both parties. However sex is an enjoyable experience when in a relationship. As it releases endorfins which make the couple feel closer.

 

[TooShyShy]

oHHH YEAH, aND WHEN I SEE YOURS I THINK OF THE BEATLES SONG..PENNY LANE IS IN MY EARS AND IN MY EYES..LOL...????

 

[Rodney]

Who would want to touch a striper?! They're gross. They stick toonies and skittles up their privates , or so I've heard.

 

[PennyLane]

Who would want to touch a striper?! They're gross. They stick toonies and skittles up their privates , or so I've heard.

not forgetting ping pong balls...

 

[Rodney]

not forgetting ping pong balls...

New Thread Topic - What items have you heard stripers put up their privates

....and go

 

[thor01]

Yeah I would probably just leave feeling more frustrated, and desire real contact even more. As for escorts, yes it would be a horrible thought that the woman didn't like you and was only doing it for the money, but I can see why people would go that route, because what are they meant to do if they cant get it like most people? I've even considered it before myself, because I think if it hasn't happened for me like it does to most people yet, will it ever if I just wait and hope like this. But I haven't done it, because it would be a very last resort, as the idea of them just doing it as a job I don't like. Part of the satisfaction I would get is knowing that the other person actually likes me, and wants to do it as much as I do. And I wouldn't get that that way. However it comforting to know its there as a very very last resort. A bit like knowing the option of suicide is there to fall back on if it really really gets that bad haha.

 

[Kinetik]

There are many different types of SA and various levels of functioning within those types, so it's hardly a given that you'll die a virgin. Take me, for instance. I've always been incredibly uncomfortable around people, have been friendless all my life (by choice), and am self-employed online in order to avoid society to the best of my ability. However, I've always loved women, so I've "socially prioritized" - meaning I've shirked most of mankind so that I can focus what energy I do have on dating and relationships. It's a case of saving my enthusiasm in order to peak and be my best for the things I want most in life. So it's completely possible to be a social phobic and still have sexual relations.

Anyway, I do agree that it's best to have "real" relationships with women, even if you feel you're horribly inept at it. It's always going to be more rewarding when you know someone's with you for you, and not for what's in your wallet.

 

[iamthenra]

There are many different types of SA and various levels of functioning within those types, so it's hardly a given that you'll die a virgin.

Unfortunately that probably will be my fate... Fear has the drivers seat in my life, as well as depression... Depression has clouded my vision and to see things in a more "negative" light. So what hope do I have in finding someone that likes me, for me?

At least I know that I have the option of going to a strip club to at the very least see a live nude female... I've been to strp clubs only 2 times, and both times I did enjoy it... If I could get passed my SA to actually do it with an escort, then I would be able to get a girl friend and I wouldn't need the escort in the first place... But I can't do either, because like I said... Fear has the drivers seat, and depression is riding shotgun.