insults from so-called friends

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Clown

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I don''t know if im still want to hang out with these so called friends
almost every week I hear something insulting like: haha he is not going to school and questions with a big smile : how do you see you future ? they probably know I have some problems ...

I don't know I don don''t want to hang out with them anymore.. but the problem is I have nobody else...

what should I do ? they are really *******s
 
The Observer

The Observer

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Ditch them, Who needs "friends" like that. They will just make you feel bad and I guess you dont want anymore reasons to feel worse off than you already do
 
Feeling_Nothing

Feeling_Nothing

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How long do you know them already? Do you know them well? Do they know you have problems? If you know them for a long time/know them well then they are probably just messing with you...

However if this isn't the case, then those guys aren't your friends...avoid people like that, they are shallow and have no thought of what it does to you. I had a somewhat similar situation and I avoided those people ever since. Don't let them get to you, just let them be/ignore them.
 
Hoppy

Hoppy

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Why do you call them friends?

I expect certain behaviour and treatment from people before I will call them friends.
 
Prestonator

Prestonator

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I can understand how you feel because I am currently living with someone who always has something against me, even if it is just something minor. I just have to try to deal with it though because I am living with her (and with 2 others) and will be next year too. I'm a student.

But you do realise that quite a lot of times the reason why these people act like this is actually because they have problems themselves and the way they deal with them is by projecting it onto others, in this case you and me in my case. I wouldnt listen to any of it to be perfectly honest.

The girl who is like that with me is someone who i have known from school and who is studying at the same uni as me hence why we are living together with two others. She acts to people that we meet that she is really good friends with me, but we really are not. I know from the way that she acts around me that she does not care about me. But i have accepted that, and from the way she has treated me in the past year I know that I do not want to have anything to do with her once I graduate and find a new place. This is something you need to do I guess? Is it something you could confront your "so-called" friends about? Or is it not worth bothering with at all? If not then as long as you know who your true friends are then I wouldnt worry!

hope this helps!
 
gustavofring

gustavofring

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I would ask yourself the question, is it worth it to ditch your friends because they're shallow and get you down? It's just a fact of life, young guys are often jerks to one another and generally don't take life very seriously. But atleast they provide some social life and distraction for you.

I had a friend too who was a bit of a jerk with me, sometimes made fun of me in front of other people. A bit of a narcissist. I stopped hanging out with him. But now I often have absolutely nothing to do in the weekends. Atleast hanging out with him, even though he could be a jerk at times, provided me with some social time and meeting people.

In turn, I hung out more with people who are more like me. The downside however is that they never take the initiative and are basically never able to go for a drink or whatever. I kind of stopped trying. So as a result I now have nothing to do in weekends but sitting home.

So I regret that now. In retrospect I feel like I should have bited back a bit whenever he'd step out of line. So I would weigh the pro's and cons.
 
montejocarlo

montejocarlo

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i wouldn't call people who insult me friends. they probably didn't mean it as an insult though. but if you're sure they did, then i guess you should stop hanging out with them for a while. friends are supposed to be healthy company. if you have problems like SA, it's crucial to be with people who don't pull you down.

personally, i don't believe in choosing friends. i want to give everyone the benefit of the doubt and be open for anyone who offers friendship. however, this idea is good only if you have a healthy self-esteem. the kind that wouldn't suddenly break when you hear something intimidating or hurtful. while you have personal issues, it's best to look out for yourself before trying to be ms./mr. congeniality.
 
S

Steppen-Wolf

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You know what they say... it's better to be alone than in bad company.

Those people are crearily not positive for you.
 
alwayssunnyinphiladelphia

alwayssunnyinphiladelphia

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Why is everyone tellng this guy to ditch his friends because of one comment you don't even know that they mean it in a malicious way. Young guys like to take the piss out of each other thats just the way they are I really don't think they are trying to hurt you.
 
Dark angel

Dark angel

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Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this. But this people aren't your friends!!! Friends do not insult or make fun of you this way, and moreover when you are in a vulnerable position. Like somebody else said, ditch them. Is better to be on your own than to be around people who are going to bring you autosteem down everytime you see them. I know the feeling of not having anybody else but you can make your way to meet new people who can appreciate you and understand what you have to go through.
 
jonas89

jonas89

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I don't think the word ( friend ) is appropriate for assho**s like that, I would rather be alone then dealing with those people.
 
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