I don't know how it is in other countries, but in America, if you're very quiet and not extroverted and talkative, you're an outcast. You're made fun of and insulted at school as a kid by both kids and school staff. You're made fun of and insulted at work as an adult by your boss and co-workers. Your own family may even make fun of you, insult you, and eventually cast you off, as mine did. You're made to feel like a loser. No wonder we American S.A. sufferers become so isolated and don't like people very much after experiencing this treatment all of our lives (I'm 31 years old).
Yes, you pretty much nailed it. I too, live in the US and for me everyday is a struggle of one sort or another OR a baby step at a time. I try to avoid crowds of people and hang out with relatives. I remember one time I was just starting a class in gymnastics and I was this timid, shy, skinny girl who had to be coaxed to do anything...very shy...well, the girls who were our 'teachers' were teenagers in all their glory.. They pushed and pushed me around and around the uneven bars (never went back, by the way) made fun of me, it was bad. I was called names in school, I blush easily too, so that made it worse if the teacher called on you in class. I now live in a 'touristy' town in the western U.S. and I avoid people like the plague because I simply get so infuriated, shaky, nervous, it's just bad... However, funny and weird as this may sound, I CAN go to say, a comedy club (going to see Ron White tonight w/brother so I have 'support') but it is dark - lol
Restaurants, I have difficulty with - I get choked up eating in public and fearful of others 'watching me' eat. Silly stuff, but to S.A. sufferers, it is terrifying.
Luckily, most of my immediate family members know about my SA but then again, one is a counselor and the other a police officer so I think that may help somewhat - but other people like my grandmother, she doesn't understand. She nit picks at me about it and can't understand how someone "so young" (I'm 42) feels this way....
all in all, I agree with you, it is an isolating life and a lot due to others who coax us into hiding