I'm totally alone. Is there really any point?

[SmileMore]

My Mum goes out and comes home drunk most evenings. She has (many) issues so i suppose that's her pathetic way of dealing with it. I don't see my Dad that often as my parents divorced when i was 5. He's not a bad person but he's always busy and lets me down when it comes to seeing him.

I'm tired of feeling totally alone and i have nobody to tell my problems to. Most of the time i just wish i could go to sleep and not wake up. When i've spoken to my Mum about feeling let down when my Dad cancels plans we've made she just tells me to stop complaining and that all i ever do is moan, which is rich coming from her.

The only guy i ever liked just used me for sex then went back to his ex girlfriend. He's now actually getting married to her but has recently contacted me trying to get me to sleep with him (lucky me(!)

All people ever do is let me down and seem to think that it's perfectly fine to disappoint me. I'm tired of it.

 

[jaim38]

I'm alone most of the day too. If it wasn't for this site and my parents, I would have no one to talk to and I would be even more miserable. I kind of like being alone because I can burp and make noises without getting judged or laughed at. But sometimes I yearn for social interaction and I get that through the Internet and my parents.

 

[DeadmanWalking]

Telling your mom about your problems may not be the best idea, if only because it looks like she has a great deal of problems on her plate which she can't solve. Telling her about your problems may make her feel like there's another problem on her plate, which will probably irritate her. You'd probably do better if you talked to your dad about your problems and talk with him about how he's let you down a lot and how it's making you feel. You could also talk to a therapist about your feelings; they might be able to help you get some resolution to them.

As for the guy, you need to make it absolutely clear to him that you are, in no way, interested in ever interacting with him. This time, don't be afraid to get vulgar with your words because it seems like those are the only types of words he'll get (probably). You need to block his number so he'll never be able to talk to you and, if you have Facebook, block him on there too.

 

[ukmale]

I feel your pain I am house bound but go shopping with mum ect but damn she is annoying

I'm trying to lose weight but the kitchen is a mess she has 4 biscuit barrels 8 wooden spoons she just buys stuff at car boot sales and hordes stuff like a pot with a chip try and talk to about it and she doesn't wanna know .. she has had 6 failed marriages the last one still married to told her don't marry me il leave you yrs later she got ran over and he walks in the school just out side where she was hit and even told the police she not my bloody wife when asked to come out 2yrs she acted like a child we had to look after her she would cry in my arms because he would even wave at her and now she is better 85% 95% better she goes to his flat and just tells me oh I should have rang him up if I needed help to cope having to drag her in the house at 2am as she wanted to play outside like a little child

She does my head in so badly she brings home bags of crap how can I cook anything when theres even teddy bears packed up in there only thing can cook without moving or having anything falling over is oven chips sad to say but I hate the damn bitch trying to talk to her tonight about the mess she made bee sounds then swear turned the tv up then said sort it yourself but don't touch anything what the Hell! She is so hard and awkward just imagine the Hell I went though the other day being a shy mute house bound freak she wanted to go to a garden centre to buy flowers to left her money cards at home so drove home and left me there for 45mins that wasn't fun .. damn mess is making me depressed trying to lose weight but can't cook healthy food she has 3 slow cooker pots 2 bread makers the list goes on and on its a small kitchen no room to even make a bloody sandwich have to take a tray in the frontroom can't talk to her she doesn't even listen or want to throw stuff out

So I feel your pain I have no one to talk to facebook is rubbish just get **** off comments on my thoughts I write I have lost all my real world friends sad really that a kitchen can make a person depressed and being house bound is no fun lucky she mostly out work ect

 

[SmileMore]

Telling your mom about your problems may not be the best idea, if only because it looks like she has a great deal of problems on her plate which she can't solve. Telling her about your problems may make her feel like there's another problem on her plate, which will probably irritate her. You'd probably do better if you talked to your dad about your problems and talk with him about how he's let you down a lot and how it's making you feel. You could also talk to a therapist about your feelings; they might be able to help you get some resolution to them.

As for the guy, you need to make it absolutely clear to him that you are, in no way, interested in ever interacting with him. This time, don't be afraid to get vulgar with your words because it seems like those are the only types of words he'll get (probably). You need to block his number so he'll never be able to talk to you and, if you have Facebook, block him on there too.

I don't bother telling my Mum anything anyway. She never listens and always turns everything around so she can make it about her. It's pretty pathetic when you feel like you can't tell your own mother anything. I just wish i had a normal family.

 

[Flanscho]

What you can do depends on how old you are and in what for a place to live.

In case of doubt: acquire some hobbies that can be shared with others (such as board games, sports, cooking, geocaching or whatnot), and then visit groups of people in your city that do that stuff. You'll already have something in common with them. If you are 20 years old or older, you can also consider moving out, and, for example, share a flat with others. That way you get to know more people and can benefit from their experience. It's cheaper too, than living alone, and you find friends more easily.

 

[mikebird]

Well my mum died in 2006. Her only occupation was worrying about me.
Brother died in 1997. Mum didn't like that.

Dad's miserable alone. I've been 100% alone since 2001

My older brother was on his third divorce but keeps getting new girlfriends. He's in his 70s. He sees me as scum

I think being ignored and hated by family is a factor in a lack of relationships and employment

 

[SmileMore]

I work full time but i don't earn enough to move out plus i have a dog and a lot of places don't let you have pets.

 

[Xervello]

My Mum goes out and comes home drunk most evenings. She has (many) issues so i suppose that's her pathetic way of dealing with it. I don't see my Dad that often as my parents divorced when i was 5. He's not a bad person but he's always busy and lets me down when it comes to seeing him.

I'm tired of feeling totally alone and i have nobody to tell my problems to. Most of the time i just wish i could go to sleep and not wake up. When i've spoken to my Mum about feeling let down when my Dad cancels plans we've made she just tells me to stop complaining and that all i ever do is moan, which is rich coming from her.

The only guy i ever liked just used me for sex then went back to his ex girlfriend. He's now actually getting married to her but has recently contacted me trying to get me to sleep with him (lucky me(!)

All people ever do is let me down and seem to think that it's perfectly fine to disappoint me. I'm tired of it.

It's a crap situation, but it sounds like you're doing the best you can with what little you've been dealt. There's solace to be found in the fact that you're not alone. A lot of us know how you feel. And we're looking for the same things you are. Eventually we're bound to bump into one another at some point. Just so long as we keep trying. It's important that you persevere. I admire that you continue to try. Truly.

 

[Diend]

Hurray for the interwebs

 

[leongrado]

Life is difficult.
This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths.

-Buddha

 

[Yarrow]

I really feel for you. My parents were absent at best growing up, but I survived. I used to fantasize about being adopted by a family from my cartoons or a friend's family. As my fears around people decreased, I simply started constructing online and offline replacement families and finding replacement role models.

 

[MikeyC]

My Mum goes out and comes home drunk most evenings. She has (many) issues so i suppose that's her pathetic way of dealing with it. I don't see my Dad that often as my parents divorced when i was 5. He's not a bad person but he's always busy and lets me down when it comes to seeing him.

I'm tired of feeling totally alone and i have nobody to tell my problems to. Most of the time i just wish i could go to sleep and not wake up. When i've spoken to my Mum about feeling let down when my Dad cancels plans we've made she just tells me to stop complaining and that all i ever do is moan, which is rich coming from her.

Okay, so your parents are kind of deadbeats. This doesn't mean that all people are going to let you down, although your parents are your biggest role models, so I know it's hard to break away from that.

You acknowledge that these people are not the best. I would stop trying to make plans with him if all he's ever going to do is flake. Why put yourself through endless torment with him?

The only guy i ever liked just used me for sex then went back to his ex girlfriend. He's now actually getting married to her but has recently contacted me trying to get me to sleep with him (lucky me(!)

If you have any details on his fiancee - Facebook page, phone number - perhaps you could tell her on his cheating ways. If you don't hate her, of course. Does she deserve someone who will so easily cheat on her?

There are good people that will listen to you, SmileMore, but you won't find those people in your parents. You can PM me any time.

 

[jc972]

You got dealt a bad hand of cards, so to speak. I'm sorry your dad don't hold up his promises. I really don't know what to tell you but that I'm sorry. It sounds as if your mom is trying to escape her own issues by drinking, maybe if you ask her what's bothering her she'll open up to you and you both can confide with each other maybe? As far as being totally alone, all of us here on the forum are here for each other, to support and encourage each other, I think I can include others with myself in saying we are here for you when the going gets rough. Have you pointed it out to your dad that he breaks his promises to you?