emre43
Well-known member
I used to be a regular on here but haven't been on here for I don't know how long. Over a year I would guess.
At the age of 21, I had left school, but not found a job, had no friends and was sat in my room all day I would only go out for the odd family meal or to help my parents with the shopping, not leaving their side and hiding behind them whilst they paid. I had no friends and I had never had a girlfriend. I had never even walked five minutes to the local shops by myself - in twenty-one years!
Three years on things couldn't be more different. I used to hate winter and couldn't find the energy to face it. Now it doesn't faze me and I face it as if it is a summer's day (although dressed a bit more warmly) I have three jobs. I work Mondays-Saturday 9-5, as well as having a voluntary job and I love every one of them and speak to everyone that I can. I attended the Christmas party and had a great time! This from a boy, three years ago who was the shyest, quietest person with no contacts and had never done anything remotely adventurous. If I can change things anyone can. It is all about attitude. We all have the power within ourselves to achieve the things that we want but we have to face up to the challenges ourselves. If you fear something - face it, that is the only way to get over it - you have to face your fears! I used to believe everybody would judge me if I attended a party - now I think 'so what?' They're the kind of people that wouldn't interest me anyway so why should I let their judgement(s) effect me? Now I am the person volunteering to sing the first karaoke song up on stage in front of everyone.
I enjoy banter with my colleagues and manager at work and even stick up to them if I disagree with something they say. I used to believe that modesty was a virtue - now I see it as self-depreciating and now I big myself up. I am pretty awesome after-all and so are you! :thumbup:
One of my jobs includes designing an app for smartphones. It is aimed not only at people with SA, but most mental health problems. It will include forums, games, thousands of quotes, calming music, information, and much, much more that I will be able to speak about at a later date. I will inform people on here when it is out.
Things will get better if you stay true to yourself and believe that you can achieve things; face your challenges! Three years ago I could not imagine that any of the above was achievable for me; I saw it as a pipe-dream, but look at me now. Believe me you can do it. The only things to regret in life are those things that you didn't do when you had the chance. Start small and work yourself up. The smallest thing that I could think of to start me off on my turnaround was walking to the shops on my own. It may sound small and silly to some of you. But it was the start of my highly successful journey. Be brave! Face your fears directly! What is the worst that could happen? Every time you are about to challenge yourself ask yourself 'What is the worst that could happen?' Say it out aloud if there is no-one around. Also, if you are stressing about speaking to somebody (boy/girl you like; interview, etc.) practice in a mirror beforehand. Look yourself straight in the eyes and say what you would like to say to that person with conviction. Another good thing to do in a mirror is again to look yourself in the eyes and say things like 'I like me' or 'I am important'.
I will sign off with this quote from J. R. R. Tolkien:
"Despair is only for those who see the end beyond all doubt. We do not"
I hope you all have the most wonderful Christmases and New Year's that you could possibly imagine!
Have fantastic days everyone!
At the age of 21, I had left school, but not found a job, had no friends and was sat in my room all day I would only go out for the odd family meal or to help my parents with the shopping, not leaving their side and hiding behind them whilst they paid. I had no friends and I had never had a girlfriend. I had never even walked five minutes to the local shops by myself - in twenty-one years!
Three years on things couldn't be more different. I used to hate winter and couldn't find the energy to face it. Now it doesn't faze me and I face it as if it is a summer's day (although dressed a bit more warmly
) I have three jobs. I work Mondays-Saturday 9-5, as well as having a voluntary job and I love every one of them and speak to everyone that I can. I attended the Christmas party and had a great time! This from a boy, three years ago who was the shyest, quietest person with no contacts and had never done anything remotely adventurous. If I can change things anyone can. It is all about attitude. We all have the power within ourselves to achieve the things that we want but we have to face up to the challenges ourselves. If you fear something - face it, that is the only way to get over it - you have to face your fears! I used to believe everybody would judge me if I attended a party - now I think 'so what?' They're the kind of people that wouldn't interest me anyway so why should I let their judgement(s) effect me? Now I am the person volunteering to sing the first karaoke song up on stage in front of everyone.I enjoy banter with my colleagues and manager at work and even stick up to them if I disagree with something they say. I used to believe that modesty was a virtue - now I see it as self-depreciating and now I big myself up. I am pretty awesome after-all and so are you! :thumbup:
One of my jobs includes designing an app for smartphones. It is aimed not only at people with SA, but most mental health problems. It will include forums, games, thousands of quotes, calming music, information, and much, much more that I will be able to speak about at a later date. I will inform people on here when it is out.
Things will get better if you stay true to yourself and believe that you can achieve things; face your challenges! Three years ago I could not imagine that any of the above was achievable for me; I saw it as a pipe-dream, but look at me now. Believe me you can do it. The only things to regret in life are those things that you didn't do when you had the chance. Start small and work yourself up. The smallest thing that I could think of to start me off on my turnaround was walking to the shops on my own. It may sound small and silly to some of you. But it was the start of my highly successful journey. Be brave! Face your fears directly! What is the worst that could happen? Every time you are about to challenge yourself ask yourself 'What is the worst that could happen?' Say it out aloud if there is no-one around. Also, if you are stressing about speaking to somebody (boy/girl you like; interview, etc.) practice in a mirror beforehand. Look yourself straight in the eyes and say what you would like to say to that person with conviction. Another good thing to do in a mirror is again to look yourself in the eyes and say things like 'I like me' or 'I am important'.
I will sign off with this quote from J. R. R. Tolkien:
"Despair is only for those who see the end beyond all doubt. We do not"
I hope you all have the most wonderful Christmases and New Year's that you could possibly imagine!
Have fantastic days everyone!
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