Remus said:
Yep and my romantic dating type way works too, I've never had much problem dating, my SA problem is with men and groups, your approach sounds cold and weird (and predatory)and I don't think it any kind of way for a SA person to come across as "normal".
That's good, congratulations on your success.
Remus said:
You could say men in real life act this way, well not the majority of men, just the wankers lol.
Yes, men touch women in real life, well not the majority of men, just the successful ones.
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Satine said:
I feel that SickJoke's suggestions regarding seduction are reduced too much to tecniques.
Just like any form of social skills can be analyzed and broken down, so can attraction. This form of instructions is the best way to explain things to an introvert (introverts tend to be logical and analytical).
Satine said:
To be honest, any male who wants to get into a relationship should work out his own way of doing it.
Doing some research can help too.
Satine said:
Some are naturally tactile but some are not and it's not going to do your reputation any good if you try to make yourself tactile.
So you get rejected a few times in the process of learning, and it's worth it.
Satine said:
Some are naturally chatty, others are not.
But anyone can become chatty if they learn the tools to express themselves effectively.
Satine said:
Some are relaxed enough to make silences that feel natural, others aren't.
Agreed, and people can learn how to relax themselves in those situations as well.
Satine said:
But this simplistic formula of, 'if you start touching a girl right from when you first meet her, you'll be able to bed her in 4 hours' is just... unrealistic.
No, that's definitely not guaranteed. Especially for someone who's just beginning, he'll most likely get rejected within the first 10 minutes
Satine said:
Perhaps there's not enough information, perhaps it's the way the OP comes across. But reading it makes me feel like livestock, being evaluated for my meat.
I really don't see how you came to that conclusion. The guy in the original post asked how to transition from regular conversation to fooling around with a girl, and this information explains that.
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Sabbath9 said:
I'm always triangle gazing
Nice, just try not to give your boss the impression that you want to kiss him
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Hoth said:
It just makes me sad that guys are so desperate to attract mates that they'll resort to all these sorts of tricks.
Oh yeah, it's so sad that guys can learn how to comfortably touch a woman. Makes me want to cry too.
Hoth said:
It may be true that as a "beta" male I don't have any chance with women, but I'd rather be myself and keep my self-respect than resort to stupid animalistic tricks and manipulation.
We're allowed to improve any other area of our lives will still being "ourselves," so why the hell can't we improve our skills with women and still be "ourselves?" First of all humans are animals, and this stuff isn't manipulation, it's social skills.
Hoth said:
If women are only attracted to "alpha" traits, then they're not worthwhile. Better to be alone with standards and dignity than dating without.
Most guys would disagree, simply because, well... being alone sucks.
Havocan said:
Supposedly PUA is about dating WITH dignity and standards, but you cannot change who you are, plus it's only about picking up a girl and shag her and then move on to the next using manipulation techniques^
You kind of contradicted yourself there. Anyway the tools just explain how to interact with women - how you use those tools is your decision.
Remus said:
unless she's just really slutty
no woman would like anything that full on at first, I think sickjoke really has not a clue what he is talking about, he seems to have no clue whatsoever about women.
Obviously we would disagree on that point
Hovocan said:
Yes they are indeed manipulation techniques, for it teaches blokes unsure of themselves how to behave, talk and look like to make a girl {or a actually multiple girls} interested in them,
What's manipulative about that? That's self improvement man.
Hovocan said:
Politeness is of course just an appropriate way for civilised beings to act and is therefore not manipulation but how people in general should behave towards each other.
And this is just a way of behaving towards women effectively.
ocean said:
Slap her ass and ask for some fries with that shake.
Proooooobably won't work, depending on who the guy is : D