gsmax5
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I'm not just talking about rejection from dating; I'm also talking about rejection from peers, and social blunders (because they all elicit that horrible feeling of embarrassment). For most people, I think, the pain doesn't last very long. They feel bad about it for at most 10-20 minutes, and then they forget about it and move on.
I, however, never get over bad social experiences. I'm not saying that it takes me a longer time to get over them -- I'm saying that I literally never get over bad social experiences.
For example, about 6 months ago, I had a job interview. The interview went really badly because my mind kept blanking out and I kept freezing up and stuttering, so of course I didn't get the job. The worst part of the interview was when the interviewer asked me "Why do you want to work at the company." I made the mistake of saying that it was for the pay. When she asked me what I would add to the company, I couldn't think of anything so we moved on without me giving an answer. It's not that I was lazy and didn't prepare -- I did -- it was that my mind kept going blank every time she asked me anything.
A normal person would have forgotten about the interview after a week at most, but not me. I keep having flashbacks of the interview, even today. THEY ARE AWFUL. It's just like I am re-living the interview with all the horrible emotions it evoked. I continue to worry about what the interviewer thought of me every day, even though I will probably never see her again.
Any similar experiences of people caring way too much about past social experiences?
I, however, never get over bad social experiences. I'm not saying that it takes me a longer time to get over them -- I'm saying that I literally never get over bad social experiences.
For example, about 6 months ago, I had a job interview. The interview went really badly because my mind kept blanking out and I kept freezing up and stuttering, so of course I didn't get the job. The worst part of the interview was when the interviewer asked me "Why do you want to work at the company." I made the mistake of saying that it was for the pay. When she asked me what I would add to the company, I couldn't think of anything so we moved on without me giving an answer. It's not that I was lazy and didn't prepare -- I did -- it was that my mind kept going blank every time she asked me anything.
A normal person would have forgotten about the interview after a week at most, but not me. I keep having flashbacks of the interview, even today. THEY ARE AWFUL. It's just like I am re-living the interview with all the horrible emotions it evoked. I continue to worry about what the interviewer thought of me every day, even though I will probably never see her again.
Any similar experiences of people caring way too much about past social experiences?