How attractive would you consider yourself?
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Are you trying to tell me you don't find gollum sexy?
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Normally about a 1, maybe a 3 on a good day.
Normally about a 1, maybe a 3 on a good day.
Niteowl
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I was going to say zero, but that's not fair. I've always thought badly of my appearance because other people have forced me to feel that way. I can look in the mirror and it's always a relief to remember that I don't look as bad as I think I do when I'm out. I won't judge the appearance of another but I was always called ugly by a friend who was excessively narcissistic and vain, but who in turn was called ugly by people more popular than us. I let him say it; he needed the comfort of believing that he was the best looking out of his friends, and I could appreciate that.
I don't think that I'm attractive. My BMI is not far from falling to underweight, I don't have muscles like everyone else shows off, and I wish that my eyebrows were just a little higher. Some people are keen to agree, but in the past girls have had a crush on me until they've realised that I don't speak. I don't know what to say about my real personality, I'm always trying to be positive and helpful, but no one in school or college ever got to know me, aside from the group of friends that I was a part of in school.
The thing is that having an attractive personality should be much more important than being physically attractive, and no matter how lovely a personality we all might have, people don't get to see it in the real world because we have difficultly opening up. Am I making sense?
As for the poll, I'm going to say four. That sounds fair, if perhaps a little on the generous side.
I don't think that I'm attractive. My BMI is not far from falling to underweight, I don't have muscles like everyone else shows off, and I wish that my eyebrows were just a little higher. Some people are keen to agree, but in the past girls have had a crush on me until they've realised that I don't speak. I don't know what to say about my real personality, I'm always trying to be positive and helpful, but no one in school or college ever got to know me, aside from the group of friends that I was a part of in school.
The thing is that having an attractive personality should be much more important than being physically attractive, and no matter how lovely a personality we all might have, people don't get to see it in the real world because we have difficultly opening up. Am I making sense?
As for the poll, I'm going to say four. That sounds fair, if perhaps a little on the generous side.
MaliceInWickedland
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I can relate to that. I've had people tell me I'm pretty but no matter how many times I look at myself in the mirror I always find flaws about myself. I think I have a big nose, constipated smile, and get frustrated about how I still have flab on my thighs and stomach no matter how much I work out and cut down on fat. I also get frustrated about how people always ask me if I'm okay because I apparently look pissed off all the time even if I feel like I have a normal content expression on my face. My face tenses up when I get anxious and that gives me that cold, intense look.
You make perfect sense and I wholeheartedly agree that having an attractive personality should be more important than being physically attractive. I only wish that more guys would have more appreciation for personality rather than looks. I think I'm a decent girl when it comes to personality and I've even been told before that I'm too caring for my own good, but having low self-esteem as a result of my SA makes me think I'm physically unattractive, especially after hearing many times that guys like a "confident, forward girl", which gives me even less hope.
That's just life though I guess...
By the way, I don't think a 4 is anywhere near generous enough for you to score yourself as. I honestly think you deserve a hard 10 for your considerate personality and open mind when it comes to the perception of others. It's very unusual to come across guys like you, at least where I live.
Niteowl
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Thanks, that's so kind! : ) I don't know, I just wish I was better at getting to know people - I regret leaving college having never made a friend there, because their memories of me (as if they should remember me at all) are going to be of the loser who sat in the corner when they all sat around one big table in the middle. I think some of my hobbies and aspects of my life in general might suck just a little but I don't think I'm a loser! I just wish that I could have been in college how I'm becoming here.
Still, it means all the more determination to make a better impression in whatever I do next! And thanks again for your kind words!
MaliceInWickedland
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Sprunk
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Oh i just went for a walk this morning and some jerk just drives past and screams at me.Why?
vexatiousmind
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most of the time a 5. when I go way out of my way to look good I would say a 7.
Niteowl
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at home, in private, about a 6.
i almost always feel below a 6 when i'm out and about in public.
someone barked at me on the street today. a person, yes. i'm not sure what to make of that.
Barked? How very peculiar.
It's tough remembering how you feel about your appearance when you're out around people - it's as though their confidence makes you feel insecure in your appearance somehow, or that's how it seems to go for me at least.
Oh, that's quite low isn't it, shouting or screaming out of a car window? That's tantamount to ringing the doorbell and running away: a children's game.
