Have you ever loved someone but you never told her/him and now you regret?

[Pink_Paula]

I've definitely liked someone a whole lot, i'm not sure it was love but i never had the guts to tell them how i felt and yes i do regret it because who knows what could have happened if i just took the chance and approached them!

 

[userremoved]

S.A.D. does horrible things to people.

Indeed it does. I can't say I know love but I did experience something similar with a girl I grew up with. I've known her since Kindergarten and had a crush on her most of my life. To make it worse she lived next door. Thats no way for any person to live. I don't have feelings for her now and of course shes married with children, but if I can't summon the courage to express my feelings when I like someone then maybe I don't deserve whatever girl it may be.

 

[hangbi92]

''It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return . But what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel''
I think this quote is true in this situation

 

[Fighter86]

I haven't seen her in like four years now, but whenever I think about her, I get so angry at myself. S.A.D. does horrible things to people. I'd love to see her again one day and talk to her, but that will probably never happen.

Do you have facebook? Its quite an incredible thing, I don't have it myself, but I do know of others who because of it end up finding people they have not spoken to/met for many years. One ex colleague of my managed to locate a bulk of her high school friends she lost contact for for some ten plus years. If you are listed, you could try looking for her via this channel, besides you are only 22, that's pretty young, and there are good odds she's not yet committed in a relationship that's very serious (considering she's around the same age as you), like she's getting she's getting married or engaged so you probably could still stand a chance.

 

[Newtype]

Do you have facebook? Its quite an incredible thing, I don't have it myself, but I do know of others who because of it end up finding people they have not spoken to/met for many years. One ex colleague of my managed to locate a bulk of her high school friends she lost contact for for some ten plus years. If you are listed, you could try looking for her via this channel, besides you are only 22, that's pretty young, and there are good odds she's not yet committed in a relationship that's very serious (considering she's around the same age as you), like she's getting she's getting married or engaged so you probably could still stand a chance.

Yeah, I searched for her on Facebook but she doesn't have one. It's not like I'd be able to talk to her right now anyway. I'd just make myself look like a fool like every other time I've ever tried talking to a girl. I don't even wanna have anything to do with girls until my anxiety is completely gone.

 

[sportsfox]

I just wanted to say Im 22 and its unreal how exact the OP's situation is to mine.
Its probably unkind of me to say that Im glad Im not the only one, but yeah Im deriving huge amounts of support from simply reading your experiences. Signed up just to share that. I saw her last when I was 17.

 

[NoModernRomance]

I have a story..

I met a girl at a job I started (we were in training together), and from the moment I saw her she captivated me. Since we were training together, we also did some work together, and I found out that she was also an awesome person (VERY kind, artistic, just generally cool to me). Some time passed, and we were friendly.. she did like me, but I also think she had a somewhat-boyfriend at the time. Nothing really became of it.. we would pass in the hall and my heart would stop when I saw her. Eventually I quit the job, and that was that.

Sometime later I decided to see if I could find her online. And easily enough I found her myspace/facebook. I was looking through a picture gallery and I came across pictures of her and her boyfriend smiling,hugging,etc.. and I felt like utter crap. So I didn't bother going back for quite a while.

Eventually I got curious again and went back to look at her page.

Wedding photos...

I think I could hear my heart shatter.. That has to be one of the most painful days of my life. Needless to say, I didn't go back there.

Ok. I did.. a couple years later.

Photos of them and the child they had together.


Now I just feel empty.

 

[Kiwong]

I loved someone and I let them know about. It was unrequieted and ended badly for me. I thought that even if I was rejected they would be nice about it. That wasn't the case. It has contributed to my present anxiety. I think I was looking for love in all the wrong places.

 

[Newtype]

Wow, I can't believe this got revived, lol. I eventually found the girl on Facebook. She's in a serious relationship with an ugly dude o_0

 

[Arthur_Dent]

I would't use the word love. I think you are really in love with someone once you know deeply that person. And I haven't know any woman deeply, just very superficially.

There have been a couple girls I've been very attracted to. I did exchangue a few words with one, but I didn't even talked with the others.

Right now I'm in that situation. May be she's the woman I've been most attracted in my short life. But I've never talked to her and I knew very little about her. I don't think I'll ever talk to her unless she starts the conversation. I thik about her all the time, but still I wouldn't say I love her.

But I reget a lot not talking to her or to the girls before her.

 

[LonelyWonders]

Close to the same experience happened to me actually, except I was friends with her for about 2 years.. I still know everything about her, even things that changed while I wasn't friends with her.. Now she won't give me 2 minutes and if I try and talk to her she seems irritable and sarcastic and makes me feel like i'm an annoying little pest...... I think about her every day and regret never saying anything or admitting when I was asked, and I was asked if it was true more than just once...

 

[HH]

I think we've all been in this situation. My first real "crush/love" was with a girl in secondary school, we were in some of the same classes and I had a real thing for her but never got the courage to ask her out, we were kind of friends and we spoke to each other but nothing more. I still think about her to this day and that was about 15 years ago.

There have been several girls I like but its never amounted to anything except friends :: and now everyones getting married, life is passing me by pretty past.

 

[Falkor]

I had a crush in the past on a girl, but never actually told her about it.
I don't regret it,, but I couldn't tell her cuz I knew it would never be mutual, because she is straight. and she was acting all mean in the end, so It wasn't a fun scenario, I started to fall outta love when she started to act like that.
She used to hang around with the guys from school who were the bullies in my life, so she gave them a little acompany

Now I have a relationship with someone who gives about true love, and I am happy I found a girl who is like that truly.

But I sure see it as a good memory, Being in love still is a great feeling.