oNecoOlazN
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TALK away!!!!
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has social anxiety REALLY fuc*ed up your life?
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Well I never really had a life sooo... I don't know. So I guess it was already FUCKED FUCKED FUCKED. Oh my god, I'm so mad right now, what the hell. I don't even know what the fuck I am fucking saying but like KGHDKGHKDHGJ. like fuck. I was already fucked, and now I'm fucked even more :roll:. How FUCKING GREAT. Sorry like I wanna smash the mirror. UGH!! It's FUCKED!!!
fearlessvenom
Well-known member
same with me, since i moved to the US, my life has gotten fucked up
gutterflower_86
Member
yes, i believe it has...
i don't go to class. i tell everyone i go to class. i'm in trouble with the university registrar and the loans office. i'm terrified to go talk to anyone. i lie. i sleep all day. i only leave the house to go to work or hide in the library. i got fired from one of my 3 jobs. i don't talk to anyone. i terrified to ask for help or tell the truth. i missed too many appointments with my dr. and counselor because i couldn't get out of bed or call in and change the appt. so now I’m suspended from seeing them both. i'm running out of the drugs that i don't even think are working anymore. i've had a headache since june and have consumed over 400 advil/tylonol/motrin/excerdrin. i'm depressed. i'm anxious 24/7. i jump outta my skin when the toaster pops. i get unexplainably angry at anyone who calls me or the house phone. i never answer. i haven't talked to my 'best friend' in over a year. i don't know what to do. i just keep living the same day. no change. i feel like i'm being dragged through time. i'm a disappointment and a failure. i can't let anyone know. i’m terrified of what everyone will think. i put on an act; for my family, at work, in public. i just don't know what to do...
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i don't go to class. i tell everyone i go to class. i'm in trouble with the university registrar and the loans office. i'm terrified to go talk to anyone. i lie. i sleep all day. i only leave the house to go to work or hide in the library. i got fired from one of my 3 jobs. i don't talk to anyone. i terrified to ask for help or tell the truth. i missed too many appointments with my dr. and counselor because i couldn't get out of bed or call in and change the appt. so now I’m suspended from seeing them both. i'm running out of the drugs that i don't even think are working anymore. i've had a headache since june and have consumed over 400 advil/tylonol/motrin/excerdrin. i'm depressed. i'm anxious 24/7. i jump outta my skin when the toaster pops. i get unexplainably angry at anyone who calls me or the house phone. i never answer. i haven't talked to my 'best friend' in over a year. i don't know what to do. i just keep living the same day. no change. i feel like i'm being dragged through time. i'm a disappointment and a failure. i can't let anyone know. i’m terrified of what everyone will think. i put on an act; for my family, at work, in public. i just don't know what to do...
xx
GKJB
Active member
My life's pretty fucked. Everyone thinks I'm a lazy bum, but I can;t bring myself to go to a job interview or to ring people about a job. I'm stuck living on £30.00 a week income support and leaving the house once a week to do shopping and buy electric. I have the council tax chasing me because I didn't give them my details when I turned 18, I've got rent arrears that I shouldn't have because I can't talk to the office about it, I'm at risk of losing my home because I've stopped going to appointments with my keyworker, and I'm at risk of losing my income support and being told to pay back 6 months worth because I should have gone onto jobseeker's allowance as soon as I left college.
My ideal life right now would be to stay indoors all the time, except for when I go and visit my sister. I'd like to work from home, get my shopping delivered to my house, pay my bills by direct debit and have the TV license men fuck off and leave me alone. Oh well
My ideal life right now would be to stay indoors all the time, except for when I go and visit my sister. I'd like to work from home, get my shopping delivered to my house, pay my bills by direct debit and have the TV license men fuck off and leave me alone. Oh well
GloomySunday
Well-known member
I think it's fair to say that Social Anxiety can ruin a part of your life, or maybe your life to date...but life can be a long and winding road, with many twists and turns along the way. Who knows how long any of us are going to live?
If it has ruined a part of your life or your life up to now then there's your motivation. If it's not a place you want to be then make small inroads into doing something positive to change it. The problem seems so huge and so insurmountable that people often don't know where to start, and so don't make any progress.
Life can be exactly what you want it to be, but only you have the power to change it. That does require support and the help of others, but it's up to you to ask for it in the first place.
Even doing something like joining this forum is a positive step forward, depending on how you use it. If you have a specific issue you'd like help with, just ask. Compare experiences, treatments, coping strategies...and offer your suggestions too. I've learned a lot about my own particular problems from reading various threads here and I like to offer my perspective on things where I feel I have something to offer.
We should all be more pro-active in battling our demons, however frightening they may be.
As the banner on this site says, "You are not alone."
If it has ruined a part of your life or your life up to now then there's your motivation. If it's not a place you want to be then make small inroads into doing something positive to change it. The problem seems so huge and so insurmountable that people often don't know where to start, and so don't make any progress.
Life can be exactly what you want it to be, but only you have the power to change it. That does require support and the help of others, but it's up to you to ask for it in the first place.
Even doing something like joining this forum is a positive step forward, depending on how you use it. If you have a specific issue you'd like help with, just ask. Compare experiences, treatments, coping strategies...and offer your suggestions too. I've learned a lot about my own particular problems from reading various threads here and I like to offer my perspective on things where I feel I have something to offer.
We should all be more pro-active in battling our demons, however frightening they may be.
As the banner on this site says, "You are not alone."
hippiechild
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yes, yes social anxiety has destroyed me...
I've essentially given up on my education due to my social anxiety....
I am one of the most despicable people ever
I've essentially given up on my education due to my social anxiety....
I am one of the most despicable people ever
freestylemonster
Banned
Social anxiety basically ruined my highschool experience...I had two friends that I had made way before highschool and I just stuck to them, not talking to anybody else at all even when they tried to talk to me.
But now thatI'm in college I can say I'm pretty fed up with how my life is going at this point...So I'm trying to change it. I realize it's gonna take a looooong time and a lot of effort, but I'm through living like this and I am determined to get my life back on track!!!!!!!!!!!!!
But now thatI'm in college I can say I'm pretty fed up with how my life is going at this point...So I'm trying to change it. I realize it's gonna take a looooong time and a lot of effort, but I'm through living like this and I am determined to get my life back on track!!!!!!!!!!!!!
sleepysparrow
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Yeah, I lost all potential I could have had. I gave up acceptance into art school, and quit all my art classes. I gave up the opportunity to have a job in something I truly loved doing. I also gave up playing and writing music because I feel I have no future in it, because i'm not very good anyways. All these things I quit because I was afraid of people, rejection and just an incredible amount of self-doubt. I'm pathetic.
littl3misstrange
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Social anxiety has made my life a difficult/painful experience so far. I had NO friends in high school or middle school. In 7th grade, I was verbally abused almost daily. I was called a "freak" & "the ugliest girl ever." I hid in the bathroom at lunch time. I had no one to talk to. I came home everyday from middle school crying, because I felt so alone. Some mornings, I tried to make myself sick so I wouldn't have to go to school. I considered suicide.
7th grade was the year my life started to fall apart, thanks to social anxiety.
I wasn't made fun of in high school as much, but I still had no one to talk to. I could never relate to any of my peers. I never knew what to say or how to act around them. I felt awkward & disgusting, & I still do in college. I tried eating lunch with a few different groups of people throughout the years, but I never was able to develop a relationship with anyone. Whenever I saw couples holding hands or making out in the hallways, it broke my heart, because I knew I could never have what they have. I've dreamed of having a boyfriend ever since I was about 5 years old. I've always been a romantic in that way. When I would go out to eat with my parents when I was little, I would see older kids out on dates or all dressed up for prom, & I would think to myself, "that will be me someday." It never was. I'm almost 19 & I have about as much experience when it comes to relationships as a 10 year old. It's pathetic.
...and it's all thanks to social anxiety. :roll:
7th grade was the year my life started to fall apart, thanks to social anxiety.
I wasn't made fun of in high school as much, but I still had no one to talk to. I could never relate to any of my peers. I never knew what to say or how to act around them. I felt awkward & disgusting, & I still do in college. I tried eating lunch with a few different groups of people throughout the years, but I never was able to develop a relationship with anyone. Whenever I saw couples holding hands or making out in the hallways, it broke my heart, because I knew I could never have what they have. I've dreamed of having a boyfriend ever since I was about 5 years old. I've always been a romantic in that way. When I would go out to eat with my parents when I was little, I would see older kids out on dates or all dressed up for prom, & I would think to myself, "that will be me someday." It never was. I'm almost 19 & I have about as much experience when it comes to relationships as a 10 year old. It's pathetic.
...and it's all thanks to social anxiety. :roll:
sleepysparrow1
Active member
littl3misstrange said:
Hey I totally know how you feel about school. I had no friends in elementary school either, nobody liked me or talked to me, I was always an outcast, and when I started high school that's when the teasing began. These mean girls followed me around and called me names like "freak" and "loser" all the time. I always got called ugly too which is why I have horrible self confidence now and think i'm disgusting. I always hid in the bathrooms at lunch and cried, or ate alone in the library. I felt weak and alone. These kind of things ruined me, because I was never accepted by people, so this reflects why I never give anyone a chance, because I feel like they will laugh at me, or mock me, or hurt me, I don't know. School was terrible and I dropped out of college a couple times before finally completing a course due to my awkwardness and inability to connect with anyone. I always felt pathetic and lonely. I'm 26 now and I have only been in 2 relationships, it took my a long time to find anyone willing to take on my problems. When I was 19 I felt the same way you did, I didn't have any relationship experience or any friends at all who I could relate to. It's not too late though, you have LOTS of time to find someone, and I know you will because you are a BEAUTIFUL girl and i'm sure you have a lot about you that makes you extremely likeable. Things are sometimes better after high school, in my opinion. I hope things work out for you ..
2Crowded
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Maybe just a bit yes.....(Im being sarcastic) of course it has F'd up my life....& yes of course Im still suffering from it..Im still formaly unemployed & have been for more than a handfull of years now...I am lots better now in many ways though..so I know things can get even better & they will I think....I'v had this thing for many years & I know I handle some things lots better now then I did years ago. :?