I was in my youth, as I got older, I learned to cope with my SA better. Now at middle age, I seem to have a much better social life. Meetup groups and Facebook probably helped that most, meeting up with people with like minds and hobbies. When I joined here 15 years back, I was not in a good place. Interesting how I have come along given time. Interesting, I just searched and found my first post in 2004:
"I've had SA as long as I can remember, I have learnt to get by , by putting on a mask and acting like I'm confident and outgoing, when inside I am terrified, just remember everyone puts this mask on , even the people who you think are normal, from experience I have seen the strongest of people crack up, dont lose faith ,we all learn eventually how to get by. "
Yes. Ppl do get a " kick" out of calling us LONERS. the girl at work all of a sudden she goes to me " YOU ARE A LONER. WHAT DO YOU DO IN YOUR SPARE TIME? YOU HAVE ANY GIRLFRIENDS. i was so angry and humiliated and she did this when there were other ppl around too....and i still go to the place cause i need to survive
I feel that way too during the week. Someone that doesn't want to go to family parties or events with coworkers or go to busy theme parks/carnivals. Someone that likes the library and big parks...this is starting to sound too much like a dating profile now so I'll stop.
I know it may never happen because of my personality but that's why there are books, video games, and dogs for me.
I remember when I was about 20 years old one of my co-workers asked me if I was a loner. I was very defensive about the question because I always associated loners with crazy people who committed mass murder. I responded with a pretty emphatic, No! But I began to really look at myself from others points of view and had to later agree that I was pretty much a loner. Back then it was more by choice than anything else but I just always preferred my own company over being part of a group.
Sa definitely....also avoidant personality...i used to just hide from ppl and run away from them...like my bro would invite all these ppl i knew to our house..the whole time i was just upstairs scared to death...i really wanted to go down and have fun and mingle
.but i just felt so scared that i would be judged and teased...which is completely untrue anyways..