Has anyone been called a loner.?

oNecoOlazN

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Either at school at work etc..

I got called that 3 times...twice at work and once at school....it was very embarrassing and i remember being very angry at the ppl who said that to me..:thumbdown:
 

kuurt

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Oddly I don't ever recall anybody calling me a loner which is surprising because I am. I have had a lot of people ask me why I don't talk, or why am I so quite.
 

Remus

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#3
I was in my youth, as I got older, I learned to cope with my SA better. Now at middle age, I seem to have a much better social life. Meetup groups and Facebook probably helped that most, meeting up with people with like minds and hobbies. When I joined here 15 years back, I was not in a good place. Interesting how I have come along given time. Interesting, I just searched and found my first post in 2004:

"I've had SA as long as I can remember, I have learnt to get by , by putting on a mask and acting like I'm confident and outgoing, when inside I am terrified, just remember everyone puts this mask on , even the people who you think are normal, from experience I have seen the strongest of people crack up, dont lose faith ,we all learn eventually how to get by. "
 
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Yea, and it made me a bit pissed off. Mainly because they were labeling and judging me. I labelled and judged them back in no uncertain fashion. They never said it to me again.
 

oNecoOlazN

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Yes. Ppl do get a " kick" out of calling us LONERS. the girl at work all of a sudden she goes to me " YOU ARE A LONER. WHAT DO YOU DO IN YOUR SPARE TIME? YOU HAVE ANY GIRLFRIENDS. i was so angry and humiliated and she did this when there were other ppl around too....and i still go to the place cause i need to survive
 
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oNecoOlazN

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It hurts even when my family tells me to go the gym and make friends or something..they say its better than staying home...i know they just care but still...better just leaveme alone.
 

Hot_Tamale

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#12
It reallyyyy hurts guys i feel like crying...i need to find myself a LONER Boyfriend so we can relate..=*(
I feel that way too during the week. Someone that doesn't want to go to family parties or events with coworkers or go to busy theme parks/carnivals. Someone that likes the library and big parks...this is starting to sound too much like a dating profile now so I'll stop.

I know it may never happen because of my personality but that's why there are books, video games, and dogs for me.
 

theoutsider

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#14
I remember when I was about 20 years old one of my co-workers asked me if I was a loner. I was very defensive about the question because I always associated loners with crazy people who committed mass murder. I responded with a pretty emphatic, No! But I began to really look at myself from others points of view and had to later agree that I was pretty much a loner. Back then it was more by choice than anything else but I just always preferred my own company over being part of a group.
 

lily

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r you a loner bc SA is preventing you from doing what you're interested in doing or bc you really don't have any interests?
 

lily

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#18
Oh actually i apologize oNecoOlazN for what i wrote if it bothered you about being called a loner although i wasn't calling you a loner, it was only the way i wrote.
 

oNecoOlazN

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r you a loner bc SA is preventing you from doing what you're interested in doing or bc you really don't have any interests?
Sa definitely....also avoidant personality...i used to just hide from ppl and run away from them...like my bro would invite all these ppl i knew to our house..the whole time i was just upstairs scared to death...i really wanted to go down and have fun and mingle
.but i just felt so scared that i would be judged and teased...which is completely untrue anyways..
 
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