Had a weird thought

[dannyboy65]

I was just sitting here and I thought "I wonder where my life would be if that hadn't happened to me?" For instance if I didn't join Biology class in college I would have never met my girlfriend. If I didn't go through so much bullying I would probably be a worse person. If I didn't try to kill myself as many times as I did I wouldn't be a stronger person. Does anyone think of this?

 

[BlackPuma]

And that trend continues even in small seemingly insignificant parts.

Every dull moment is crucial, and is in very real terms life changing. And even more interesting, a small thing in the past could not only change a singular thing, but put you on a completely different branch of events altogether. And not just your own either, every little thing everyone does, has an effect on everything.

Chaos theory is endlessly compelling that way.

 

[Metal_isthe_Answer]

I was just sitting here and I thought "I wonder where my life would be if that hadn't happened to me?" For instance if I didn't join Biology class in college I would have never met my girlfriend. If I didn't go through so much bullying I would probably be a worse person. If I didn't try to kill myself as many times as I did I wouldn't be a stronger person. Does anyone think of this?

I do, stuff like:
What if I had never been in a car wreck that nearly killed me What if I had told someone how I felt about them instead of saying nothing? What if my school had a sports team that people tried to make me join? What if I did join the team?

 

[Pacific_Loner]

I think about it all the time, it reminds you how much your current actions can change your future, and how much your inaction can do just the opposite.

 

[Kiwong]

Yes I do Danny, the battles I had to fight out of necessity, made some dreams become reality. By fighting to survive, I was forced to live.

 

[grammarsweet]

I was just sitting here and I thought "I wonder where my life would be if that hadn't happened to me?" For instance if I didn't join Biology class in college I would have never met my girlfriend. If I didn't go through so much bullying I would probably be a worse person. If I didn't try to kill myself as many times as I did I wouldn't be a stronger person. Does anyone think of this?

I do think of this also and I think there's nothing wrong with it. You're just simply assessing events in your life that made you who you are today. Perfectly normal.

 

[AlienGeranium]

I tend to do this a lot with financial decisions. "How much would I have had I not bought this, got that speeding ticket then, didn't live there, lost that, broke that, go to college there." Hopefully someday I'll be so rich this is not something I think about ::

 

[FountainandFairfax]

I try not to reflect on things too much.

There's plenty of "coulda woulda shoulda" moments in my life, but there's nothing I can do about any of it now.

 

[theoutsider]

I think like that all the time. For instance, I came very close to joining the military some years ago. I mean it came down to something going wrong with the paperwork and me deciding that since I was no longer obligated to join, I no longer wanted to. A few months after that I met one of the most amazing people in my life who totally changed my work ethic and gave me renewed faith in people. Had I joined the military I never would have met this person. However, I wonder what my life had been like if I were shipped off to who knows where if I had joined. Would I have met someone even more amazing? Would I have met my future wife? How long would I have stayed in? Would I have been sent off to war and killed in battle?

I try not to obsess over it, just deciding that fate has me exactly where I am supposed to be. Still, I wonder sometimes.

 

[BlueDays]

I was just sitting here and I thought "I wonder where my life would be if that hadn't happened to me?" For instance if I didn't join Biology class in college I would have never met my girlfriend. If I didn't go through so much bullying I would probably be a worse person. If I didn't try to kill myself as many times as I did I wouldn't be a stronger person. Does anyone think of this?

^ Yes. Thinking like this often crosses my mind.
I wonder if the road I got taken along as a consequence of my mother marrying again when I was 13 is better than the one I would have gone down if she had never married my step-father.
Then I would have finished growing up in a big city instead of a smaller town. I would not have met my evil ex which has put me off relationships for the rest of my life. I would have a better work history. So much would be different. :thinking: