Good-Looking Guys

[SocialRetahd]

I was getting tons of looks and nice smiles from woman

How do you know when a female fancies you? I wanna know how to differentiate between like/unlike looks :lol:

Don't play ignorant. They like you.

 

[Quixote]

And when I get hit on by guys at the bar and I don't respond well, they go "Dumb blonde! sheesh..."

Yes unfortunately a lot of times shyness/nervousness is interpreted as plain stupidity, which is not entirely wrong in a way, since there is nothing like anxiety to kill both complex reasoning and instinctive abilities (such as coming up with a quick reply for the occasional "hitting guy" at the bar..)
Besides, I can see how people will immediately apply that "dumb blonde" stereotype without giving it a thought.. that luckily won't happen to me

 

[Brad38]

I've been told by many women that i am butt ugly and wouldn't date me. So there goes the little self confidence i had... Thats why i don't post my pictures on dating sites anymore..

Wow what kind of women are you hanging out with?
I cant imagine a woman saying anything like that.

I dunno but when I was in walmart today, most people I see ar e"buttugly" and they all have someone. If someone says that to you again I wouldnt take it. I`d come right back at her and highlight some of her flaws even if she is a woman.All she has to do is say "im not interested, but good luck". Its just about being civil

 

[tommydog]

"I've been told by many women that i am butt ugly and wouldn't date me. So there goes the little self confidence i had... Thats why i don't post my pictures on dating sites anymore..

Wow what kind of women are you hanging out with?
I cant imagine a woman saying anything like that. "

iv got a story to relate to that


GIRLS CLOSE YOUR EYES :lol:

my member is of average size, im getting on to this girl once, and then shes gone "wow weres the rest of it ??" and started laughing ! omg :lol:

lucky iv got a good sense of humour and im like what are you talking about lol

anyhow, about a year later, i run into her again (consequently we started dating). she says to me, im sooooo sorry about what i said before ! she told me before me she had only been with one other guy (her ex husband) and he was HUGE, so she thought all blokes were like that. anyway since out encounter the year before, she'd been with a few more guys, and realized her ex was unusual, and i was normal lol

but i mean yeh if i didnt have that confidence in myself and a sense of humour i would have been cut big time :lol:

 

[SocialRetahd]

oh yea thats someone worth staying with, sure.

 

[Insane1]

Hmm.. I think I'm above average looking.. but that doesen't help my anxiety. I'm kinda skinny and I feel weak because of that,also I don't think girls are attracted to weak guys when they could just walk over them.

 

[Felgen]

I'm reasonably good-looking and physically fit (can bench press almost 300 lbs at a bodyweight of 165 lbs) and I'm generally less shy around girls than around boys.

At first, people tend to like the extreme bluntness and honesty that goes with Asperger's syndrome. That being said, it doesn't take many hours before the other shoe drops and everyone starts to notice that there's something "wrong" with me mentally.

 

[Warrior Poet]

I'm a average looking guy. I'm able to attract the opposite sex but it doesn't help me much, I have low self esteem and body dismorphic disorder. I tend to stand out, not sure why... It also fuels my anxiety getting unwanted attention from the opposite sex.

 

[Logical Anxiety]

I've no idea if I look 'attractive' or not. To be honest, no one really comments about my looks...I dunno if that's a good or bad thing. No insulting remarks at all, but yet no compliments at all too.

Personally, what I think of my own looks really varies each and every day, but generally I think I'm average looking...disappoints me somehow. ._.

 

[MaliceInWickedland]

I'm a average looking guy. I'm able to attract the opposite sex but it doesn't help me much, I have low self esteem and body dismorphic disorder. I tend to stand out, not sure why... It also fuels my anxiety getting unwanted attention from the opposite sex.

Ditto. Only difference is that I'm a girl ::
But yeah, the fact that I tend to stand out (for reasons I cannot fathom) doesn't help the fact that I really hate being stared at like I have hairy nipples sprouting all over my face or something. People also seem to avoid me or try to get away from me when they actually make contact with me. That's more than likely because of my insanely tense face (it tenses up when I'm anxious) that makes me look like I want to gut someone, but either way I always get the feeling that I'm being stared at for negative reasons, not because I'm attractive (which I don't think I am).

 

[KiaKaha]

Well, actually I can understand why being good looking could cause anxiety. I have noticed that with attractive people that they have a tendency to attract unwanted attention... particularly with women. Having a predisposition to anxiety would only serve to increase discomfort with the amount of attention you get. I guess whether or not having looks is a curse or blessing completely depends on the type of person you are.

I still think though, that despite how being attractive makes you feel on the inside, its still an advantage in life. Looks DO matter.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

I'm not friends with girls because in my history of 'friendships', girls tend to be much harsher toward me and exclude me from the group once someone gets a boyfriend.
I'm asexual... so it makes no sense to me; for them to feel threatened at all.
I'm neither the type to flirt with guys (single or taken) nor am I the type to 'want' a guy just because my girlfriend has him.

So, 90% of my friends/acquaintances are guys and half the time they're not allowed to hang out with me when their girlfriends meet me.
It becomes a rule that I'm used to hearing explained in a multitude of awkward phone conversations.

...so yeah, I guess it affects my confidence.
I don't become 'close friends' with anyone because it's so easy for a person to just write you off and hurt your feelings.
Doesn't effect what I see when I look in the mirror though - I still only see a hideous monster.
heh.
I do always wonder what the hell is wrong with me for people to hate me so much, though.

 

[HeadFace]

I honestly don't know what I am on the "attractiveness scale", but I feel like people who are more attractive would get more looks that'd make them nervous or anxious.
But then being less attractive usually leaves people more prone to rejection.

 

[Warrior Poet]

Ditto. Only difference is that I'm a girl ::
But yeah, the fact that I tend to stand out (for reasons I cannot fathom) doesn't help the fact that I really hate being stared at like I have hairy nipples sprouting all over my face or something. People also seem to avoid me or try to get away from me when they actually make contact with me. That's more than likely because of my insanely tense face (it tenses up when I'm anxious) that makes me look like I want to gut someone, but either way I always get the feeling that I'm being stared at for negative reasons, not because I'm attractive (which I don't think I am).

Looking at your avatar pic your a above average looking woman, the kind I wouldn't even bother to talk to thinking I'm way out of my league. People seem to avoid me as soon as I make contact with them also, I think its because of my extremely calm and indifferent facial expression. I tend to clam up and hide inside my mind when I get anxious. Well, you are really attractive, I can understand why you get stares.

 

[schist]

I dunno - some chicks say I'm hot, I consider myself a 7.

Decide for yourself (I'm the one on the far left, with the least hair):

 

[Agent_Violet]

^^ cutie nice teeth...very important!


I have no idea if i'm beautiful,pretty,ugly,hideous or what. i get stared at a LOT but I never get hit on. So...who knows! haha

 

[Dead_on_Arrival]

I have no idea if i'm beautiful,pretty,ugly,hideous or what. i get stared at a LOT but I never get hit on. So...who knows! haha

After taking a sneak peek at your profile I would like to say if I were not married I would hit on you.
And if my wife sees this post I won't be hitting on anyone from six feet under.


I personaly think I am ugly which is part of my problem with OCD and SA. It's just what I see when I look in the mirror. However, my wife thinks I'm a hunk. It's all in the eye of the beholder. And what do looks matter anyway. The world is so fixated with how they look because of pressure put on through TV, Film and magazines. It's all fake anyway.

 

[Agent_Violet]

After taking a sneak peek at your profile I would like to say if I were not married I would hit on you.
And if my wife sees this post I won't be hitting on anyone from six feet under.


I personaly think I am ugly which is part of my problem with OCD and SA. It's just what I see when I look in the mirror. However, my wife thinks I'm a hunk. It's all in the eye of the beholder. And what do looks matter anyway. The world is so fixated with how they look because of pressure put on through TV, Film and magazines. It's all fake anyway.

::thank you...don't want to be your cause of death though! lol

i think you should listen to your wife when she calls you a hunk

regarding tv,film,magazines: airbrushing and glossy editing work wonders on even the most unappealing features.

 

[jonas89]

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Well I really don't like rating myself if Im attractive or not, I would much more appreciate that it would say on my headstone; great friend or man with a big heart, or something in that order you get the point other than it would say; ridiculously good looking guy haha.
But people have said before I'm good looking or look nice or Bad Ass some of them haha but it doesn't help me with my self confidence though.

 

[Invisibleman]

Im hideous so I wouldnt know.Nobody has ever said anything nice about my appearance :: although I can kinda relate to the meathead thing. I used to go for walks around but I dont anymore because for some reason everytime im out il see some hoodrats and they always want to fight me.