Hey, Im getting married next year. I was wondering were any of you nervous, and were you nervous about the wedding (ceremony/reception) part or where you nervous about the person you were marrying? Also were you afraid about your life changing, like possibly losing your friends..like drifting apart from people or even your family?
Getting married..
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BlackKids
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Let me be the first (on here 
) to say congrats. Not that I'm married or plan to get married anytime soon but I think its perfectly normal to have anxietys about your wedding day. Its a huge commitment, plus all the planning etc etc.
You have a while before the (big) day so lots of time to get everything sorted
) to say congrats. Not that I'm married or plan to get married anytime soon but I think its perfectly normal to have anxietys about your wedding day. Its a huge commitment, plus all the planning etc etc. You have a while before the (big) day so lots of time to get everything sorted
LazyHermitCrab
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wow that's awesomme havent got married but it will be great!!.. good luck!!!!!
havent got married but it will be great!!.. good luck!!!!!
Devrium
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Grats! That's really exciting news!
When I got married I was a little nervous, but not overly so. I knew my husband for 3 years before we married. I met him when he was 15 and I was 17 in high school ^^ As soon as he turned 18 he moved out of the house and in with me... 4 months after that we got married but it wasn't a ceremony.. we just went to court and signed some papers. (His mother didn't approve at all)... unfortunately I got a divorce from him 5 years later... lots of bad things happened.. and SA and depression didn't help. But don't let that discourage you! My husband was an irresponsible baby. Not everyone can handle it I guess. Plus we were both so young...
Also, my life didn't really change that much at all. I didn't loose any friends (I didn't really have any to loose in the first place) But... we just went about life as usual. Then again we were young... and in college so... different situation I guess? Not that I know yours... but it just depends on where you are in life I think..
It will be different for everyone, and remember having cold feet is a really normal thing. Even people without SA and stuff go through that. This is a huge change in your life, but it's a positive one! I wish you the best of luck. Love is the greatest thing you could possibly find.. in my opinion anyway.
When I got married I was a little nervous, but not overly so. I knew my husband for 3 years before we married. I met him when he was 15 and I was 17 in high school ^^ As soon as he turned 18 he moved out of the house and in with me... 4 months after that we got married but it wasn't a ceremony.. we just went to court and signed some papers. (His mother didn't approve at all)... unfortunately I got a divorce from him 5 years later... lots of bad things happened.. and SA and depression didn't help. But don't let that discourage you! My husband was an irresponsible baby. Not everyone can handle it I guess. Plus we were both so young...
Also, my life didn't really change that much at all. I didn't loose any friends (I didn't really have any to loose in the first place) But... we just went about life as usual. Then again we were young... and in college so... different situation I guess? Not that I know yours... but it just depends on where you are in life I think..
It will be different for everyone, and remember having cold feet is a really normal thing. Even people without SA and stuff go through that. This is a huge change in your life, but it's a positive one! I wish you the best of luck. Love is the greatest thing you could possibly find.. in my opinion anyway.
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Lost Girl
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Congratulations
My partner and I plan on getting soon too, either at the end of this year or next. I am so excited about us finally becoming husband and wife, but I am so nervous about the day itself. I'm worried that the day will be ruined because of my anxiety about having all our family there :[. To the point that I think I would rather just go do it at a courthouse and say "Surprise!" to everyone later, but a few family members would be really upset if we do that so thats out of the question, really.
My partner and I plan on getting soon too, either at the end of this year or next. I am so excited about us finally becoming husband and wife, but I am so nervous about the day itself. I'm worried that the day will be ruined because of my anxiety about having all our family there :[. To the point that I think I would rather just go do it at a courthouse and say "Surprise!" to everyone later, but a few family members would be really upset if we do that so thats out of the question, really.
The way I see it, if you both are living to together. Then i doubt things will change much, if not; you'll get to live with him. Aside from it all, Marriage is just a ritual that lets society knows that you are with this or that person. In the end, you get a expensive party and a title. Life goes on
sara1975
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Congrats
I got married a year and a half ago and yes i was scared.
We decided to get married without inviting family, my husband told his family we were getting married but i didn't tell mine to after as i knew i would worry that i would feel guilty.
We had my best mate daphne as best man, my mate james as bridesmaid (without the dress) and my step son took the photos and videoed it so the families could see it but no one else was there.
My hubby and i went to the registry office together and walked down the asile together so i wasn't so nervous.
My family and my husbands understood why we did it as if they had all of come i am not sure i would of even made it.
Are wedding was about us, 2 people getting married for life not about everyone else and a wedding for a day.
Do whatever you want to do, what ever you feel happy with.
I got married a year and a half ago and yes i was scared.
We decided to get married without inviting family, my husband told his family we were getting married but i didn't tell mine to after as i knew i would worry that i would feel guilty.
We had my best mate daphne as best man, my mate james as bridesmaid (without the dress) and my step son took the photos and videoed it so the families could see it but no one else was there.
My hubby and i went to the registry office together and walked down the asile together so i wasn't so nervous.
My family and my husbands understood why we did it as if they had all of come i am not sure i would of even made it.
Are wedding was about us, 2 people getting married for life not about everyone else and a wedding for a day.
Do whatever you want to do, what ever you feel happy with.