Get together

It sounds like a very quiet relationship. Are you sure they would have enough to talk about if both have SA?

JamesSmith said: ↑

It sounds like a very quiet relationship. Are you sure they would have enough to talk about if both have SA?

Yeah, when i met katie we talked loads.

Tiercel said: ↑

I tried to meet up with an SA girl once. But I got so nervous that I never told her where I was going to meet her. And I never actually showed up, either. Ever since, I've been too afraid to talk to her.

In the end everything worked out, though. I imagine that she didn't show up either.

Would it even matter if you didn't show up if she didn't know to meet you there anyway?

awkwardamanda said: ↑

Would it even matter if you didn't show up if she didn't know to meet you there anyway?

Maybe not to her, but to me it always will. 😉

I think it´s a good combo.
But....
The outgoing type could not understand you very well and don´t get it.
Two SA people totally understand what the other person is feeling.
I think SA people have lots of things to talk about.
Look at SPW, we´re talking, can be very serious on here, but very humouristic. 😉

But Of course, Shy+Shy can cause troubles too, like not talking to eachother.
But that happens in any kind of relationships, I don´t think that neccesary is only among shy people.

But it´s good if the outgoing person is willing to help you to feel safe.
Depends on the person, a good listener, helpful person, to make you feel connected.

I don´t really think it matters if someone has SA or not, it´s just the respect he/she saves for your situation. If outgoing, he will help you get out of this even more, to carry you into it and just face it. But if someone like you is totally willing to fight even more to deal with sa, you can fight together, which brings great empathy together and together you can share hope, even more.

Flowergirlie said: ↑

I think it´s a good combo.
But....
The outgoing type could not understand you very well and don´t get it.
Two SA people totally understand what the other person is feeling.
I think SA people have lots of things to talk about.
Look at SPW, we´re talking, can be very serious on here, but very humouristic. 😉

But Of course, Shy+Shy can cause troubles too, like not talking to eachother.
But that happens in any kind of relationships, I don´t think that neccesary is only among shy people.

But it´s good if the outgoing person is willing to help you to feel safe.
Depends on the person, a good listener, helpful person, to make you feel connected.

I don´t really think it matters if someone has SA or not, it´s just the respect he/she saves for your situation. If outgoing, he will help you get out of this even more, to carry you into it and just face it. But if someone like you is totally willing to fight even more to deal with sa, you can fight together, which brings great empathy together and together you can share hope, even more.

Nice post^^

For me I would definitly feel more comfortable around someone else with SA, just like I feel most comfortable around the few people Ive told about my SA.

I usually bring a 'RL' friend along when meeting an online friend - makes me feel less nervous for some reason. Though I suppose that would mean explaining how we met and revealing my SA... awkward much. :/

What do you guys think about bringing a non-SA friend along?

Mystic-Biscuit said: ↑

What do you guys think about bringing a non-SA friend along?

If I were meeting someone and they brought their non-SA friend (or probably any friend) I would feel outnumbered and twice as nervous.

I'd personally love to meet someone else with any form of SA.

Why does everyone here live so far away? :🙁: