Forum anxiety

[Azunyan]

Hey all

I wasnt really sure of the title so...
Been here a couple of months and this is my first thread (except a hello thread)

Does anyone else have anxiety about making a new thread? Or even a post for that matter.
I feel like i will be making a fool out of myself, and thus not post.
Hearts start racing and i begin to sweat, afraid everyone will hate on me.

So, i to 98% just lurk on every forum, at the most make a small post not a thread.
If i decide to write something it usually takes a long time (30 mins and counting atm), and i mostly end up not posting it.
I also found writing it in a document first, and then pasting it in to be easier then to actually write directly on the site.
This problem doesnt really exist in a chat, i guess its because it isnt "stuck" anywhere for anyone to read.

Does anyone else feel like this?

 

[Section_31]

Hi Azun!

I cant say i do, but my wife for sure does. Shes been trying to create an account on here but shes too nervous to post. I post for both of us.

You arent alone in your feelings.

 

[Pyrophosphate]

I think a lot of people here feel the same way, me being one of them.

 

[girliegoth_360]

i was afraid to post my first thread thinking people would think i was being lame

 

[upndwn]

Hi Azunyan, welcome to SPW

I used to have a great fear of posting, but after a while I kind of got used to it. I really don't take things as personal as I used to so if anyone want to complain about what I have to say I don't really care that much.

 

[Rembrandt Broam]

Not about making a post (like this one ) but a little about making a new thread I suppose.

Oh, and welcome to SPW!

 

[Devoured]

I feel the same way when posting online. In fact, I tend to re-word most of my posts multiple times before actually submitting them

 

[Deus_Ex_Lemur]

It depends on my mood. Early on it's always hard initially. Like many things, starting is hard. Initiating can sometimes be the hardest thing to do.

But this is a great first thread because I know MANY have felt or feel the same way and can relate.

Also - unlike in the chatroom for example, you have a lot more time to THINK about what you're writing and read through it and 2nd guess your self and hesitate and then not do it or feel more self-conscious.

 

[dancingintherain]

same here
and, and and, r-r-ight now
I worry more if anyone would like me here. I imagine everyone to make a thread "get dancingintherain out of here!" :O

Welcome to spw : ) <3

 

[Lowlight]

You described exactly how I am. It takes me forever to get up the nerve to post something. I never thought that people with social phobia could come out of their shells and open up to others on a forum. I hope you enjoy your time on this site though.

 

[Blabla..]

I do , i always end up deleting alot of my posts

 

[pingu07]

when i make thread, i tend to ask questions instead.. i just want to know how others feel and if they feel the same way as me, i dont really share my story. and if they reply got me thinking, i just expand it, and ask them questions.. without revealing about myself, if im shy about it.

also i had deleted my posts before, because i got embarrased by it.

 

[The Lost]

Yeah, I'm the same as this. I also delete posts. I don't think I'll ever post a new thread, even though I've attempted writing a few lol.

 

[Miss Magnolia :)]

Yes, totally! I haven't posted anything on here for months because I get too nervous and I'm afraid people won't care about the topic or won't respond. I started a new thread a few minutes ago because I really needed some advice, and that took me a good half hour to compose. I'm just really not used to speaking my mind. I guess we just need to get used to it and remind ourselves that the people on here know exactly how we feel and they certainly aren't here to judge us or scrutinize our every word. By posting on here you might be helping someone else who's thinking the same exact thing (like you just did!), so I think it's definitely worth saying whatever you have to say even if you don't think anyone will care!

 

[Metal_isthe_Answer]

Hey all

I wasnt really sure of the title so...
Been here a couple of months and this is my first thread (except a hello thread)

Does anyone else have anxiety about making a new thread? Or even a post for that matter.
I feel like i will be making a fool out of myself, and thus not post.
Hearts start racing and i begin to sweat, afraid everyone will hate on me.



Does anyone else feel like this?

For me its more of thinking that I dont need to bother posting on forums, it seems like once I appear people leave and I kill any topic I touch, or if I create one almost nobody responds

 

[Phoenixx]

I've never made a single thread here, even when I joined. I'm too anxious to even make one, because with threads, the focus is on 'you'. Whereas with posts, they are mixed in with everyone else.

 

[pingu07]

^ thats true.

That's what I've done, asked questions. I never even follow up my threads to be honest. I have never really shared anything I consider to be personal or sensitive to me either. I don't even know why I'm here to be honest! lol

lol, even so.. you do give insightful feedback, and thats why your here!
without you, we would not see the light!

 

[Deus_Ex_Lemur]

I've never made a single thread here, even when I joined. I'm too anxious to even make one, because with threads, the focus is on 'you'. Whereas with posts, they are mixed in with everyone else.

Well now we're gonna focus THIS thread allllll on you now because you mentioned this...

 

[Phoenixx]

Well now we're gonna focus THIS thread allllll on you now because you mentioned this...

Very funny, Lemur. ::

 

[MaliceInWickedland]

Sometimes I do. Most of the time I'll have a really good idea for a new thread, start typing away like a maniac on speed, re-read, re-read again, and then finally hit that lovely little "delete" button on my keyboard and watch my words get erased from existence.

When it comes to posts, well... The edit button is my best friend, I'll leave it at that