For those who are single/not looking what is the main reasons to remain single

MNM322

MNM322

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Why bother? Do they ever work out long term anyway? I mean decades and such later? Seems its rare to find true and real love nowdays and I'd rather not keep losing people and getting my heart broken
Plus I am horrible at reading people so I'd never know they liked me anyway.... and I never "go looking" I just figure, I'll know if I meet someone.... if not, oh well, I am ok being single
 
truffleshuffle

truffleshuffle

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MNM322 said:
Why bother? Do they ever work out long term anyway? I mean decades and such later? Seems its rare to find true and real love nowdays and I'd rather not keep losing people and getting my heart broken
Plus I am horrible at reading people so I'd never know they liked me anyway.... and I never "go looking" I just figure, I'll know if I meet someone.... if not, oh well, I am ok being single
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I don;t know if I am ok being single but I am used to it. I am also horrible at reading people and if I usualy like someone I keep my mouth shut and not say anything. most of the time I am glad I didn;t say anything becasue I read the situation wrong and found out before I actualy said something stupid and embarrasing. Sometiems though I waiting to long and someone that was interested in my moved on because I never said anything.
 
Roman Legion

Roman Legion

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Apathy, I just don't care about it like many other things in my life. The place I currently live, women all want and I quote "Country boys"; I am far from some ultra macho country boy so I have nothing in common with them or vast majority of Americans. Another reason being finances, I can't afford to date or really go anywhere. I also believe from my experience that nobody you ever love will love you in return.
 
bleach

bleach

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Well if I look the worst result is humilating rejection or awkward date followed by humiliating rejection, and the best result has been nothing happens. so I skip the looking and go straight to nothing happening.
 
planemo

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miserablecow said:
I've always been single, though I have been on a few odd dates,Due to my culture and the religion I was bought up with. I wasn't allowed to even make male friends let alone date them. So, I never really paid attention.

Right now I'm not actively looking, but I would still like to have a relationship.
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i can relate. i haven't had any dates though, but i guess culture and religion hasn't helped in my attempts to communicate with females at all.

but to answer the original question the real reason behind my lack of courage, is just low self worth. i fight a constant battle everyday in order to feel good about myself on any level. i just have no self confidence whatsoever. if i find myself so unworthy, why and how would another person feel differently?

so yeah now i guess i'm just content with being a loner.
 
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MNM322

MNM322

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truffleshuffle said:
I don;t know if I am ok being single but I am used to it. I am also horrible at reading people and if I usualy like someone I keep my mouth shut and not say anything.
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Yep and this will never likely change for me... so ill be forever single.... I am too scared to say anything
 
MNM322

MNM322

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truffleshuffle said:
forever is a long time M. It may not be with who you want it to be with but you always have to have hope.
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I refuse to settle. So unless it feels perfect and meant to be, I wont try. I have told myself most of my life, I am meant to be single. I am not the type who would be good in a relationship anyway. I'd much rather have a good trusting friend, than a boyfriend
 
very_shy

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Because I am (probably) totally opposite of what girls will want from a guy:

- don't go out, no friends (only some colleagues which don't remember even my birthday, although I do theirs); never went to a party in my life; was in cinema maybe 4 times in my life. Back in highschool, when others enjoyed going out, I (on 6 pm!) went to pyjama and watched tv or playing computer;
- my hobbies are ones which require little/no people meetings: playing computer games, reading books, long walks;
- daily routine: get up-eat-work-eat-comp/book/tv-sleep;
- I am very insecure, shy;
- I find myself ugly-my parents have to force me when I need to buy new clothes - I tell them I don't care;
- in these days I learned that all what I learned and thought it is good is not good. Being nice, helping others... Apparently I am now one of Mr Nice guys, which - I found this recently - is not good to start a relationship;
- in 30 years of my life no girl has ever approached me or even talked about me;
-so my inexperience will be a turnoff for everyone...
- I have babyface (I read this also is not good...) and when I take a hair cut and shave, i look like 15 year old;
- don't have driving license;
- sometimes I am not interested in anything;

so to sum up, and this is really a fact: I don't know how a girl(friend) will benefit from me and what things we would to together. I would never do this to a girl-she will have better options. This is an objective reason. Even if I would be less shy, more optimistic, I think she will find me very boring and way behind "schedule". Despite I am quite good in my work and my co-workers are satisfied with me; but when I finish work I become no-one. So for now I have me and my parents. :bigsmile:
 
truffleshuffle

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MNM322 said:
I refuse to settle. So unless it feels perfect and meant to be, I wont try. I have told myself most of my life, I am meant to be single. I am not the type who would be good in a relationship anyway. I'd much rather have a good trusting friend, than a boyfriend
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They could be both. But I understand what you mean. I am kind of the same way If it dosen;t feel right I would not want to continue.
 
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gummybear22

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1 Corinthians 7. in short, it's better to stay single because you can give more of your life to being for God; when you're with someone you have to also be concerned about stuff with them. lots of trouble saved when you stay single.
so I say have good and close friends and family so you (a general person) won't get lonely from being single.
 
springk

springk

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The reason, i dont have much social contacts with zero number of males.and i dont think anyone will like to date me..
 
recluse

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MNM322 said:
Why bother? Do they ever work out long term anyway? I mean decades and such later? Seems its rare to find true and real love nowdays and I'd rather not keep losing people and getting my heart broken
Plus I am horrible at reading people so I'd never know they liked me anyway.... and I never "go looking" I just figure, I'll know if I meet someone.... if not, oh well, I am ok being single
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I feel the same way. I may sound negative but i'm yet to hear of a marriage/relationship which lasts. I don't understand how people can go from one relationship to the next like someone who has broken up or have a partner die can just forget about them and be with someone else. I've never understood the concept of multiple dating where people date many to find ''the one''..I guess i am old fashioned and i am sensitive.
 
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Fighter86

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Well I am looking because I am so lonely. But whether I mary remains to be seen. Most of the marriages I have seen end up horrid so no thanks I'll pass.
 
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