Fellow Blushers.....are you out there?

[Rose_Red]

^ Mine do when I get incredibly nervous.

 

[doesit]

im quite a regular poster here,but can someone relate to me im male in my 20s,im pale skinned person, but as day progresses at afternoon every day around 1-3 o clock i feel heat starting to come on on my face and if i have to interact with someone or perform in front of others in split second i would turn beet red and flush for at least an hour,its not an average blush,but more like blood just freezes in the face leaving huge blotches,and recently it got worsen as people start to point it out and ask questions.i started exercising and try to stay as calm as possible,but after it goes away im always feel drained out and feel headache and really angry.Im pretty ok in most situations but at work theres no way to avoid it and im always on the edge,its been bothering me for the last two years and i cant shake it of.Anyone with same problems or any good tips appreciated

 

[Hottie]

im quite a regular poster here,but can someone relate to me im male in my 20s,im pale skinned person, but as day progresses at afternoon every day around 1-3 o clock i feel heat starting to come on on my face and if i have to interact with someone or perform in front of others in split second i would turn beet red and flush for at least an hour,its not an average blush,but more like blood just freezes in the face leaving huge blotches,and recently it got worsen as people start to point it out and ask questions.i started exercising and try to stay as calm as possible,but after it goes away im always feel drained out and feel headache and really angry.Im pretty ok in most situations but at work theres no way to avoid it and im always on the edge,its been bothering me for the last two years and i cant shake it of.Anyone with same problems or any good tips appreciated

Hi i cannot relate to the flushing. I suffer from blushing and the two are completely different. Both i'd say as stressful and fustrating as each other.
This mightnt sound nice but in my opinion i would rather be a flusher than a blusher!!
Flushing stays on the surface and people will know you for having rosey cheeks etc. But with blushing the blood comes and goes, and can last up to a minute or so, depending on the situation causing us to blush. It looks like we are getting embarrased about something...when really we are not. It is just a reaction to the anxiety.
For example today i was in the criminal courts visiting with the helpine i work in and when somebody beside me asked a question, i blushed because everyones head turned in my direction. Im only embarrased after the blush!!!!

I have no advice for you, sorry, but what i wanted to ask is have you talked to your doctor about this? If it is causing you phisical pain, such as headaches, then im sure your doc could help. I dont know...

All the Best

 

[LonelyWonders]

I blush pretty much whenever ANY attention at all is put toward me, and it's almost instantanious. (Tried to open a door that was locked, somebody looked at me, my face went red in a slit second -.-) I find the best way to avoid blushing in group situations is to try and trick yourself that there isnt anybody in front of you. Force your mind to think that. Weird I know, but it works well for me. Try it if you want ::::::

 

[Leonie]

So I'm starting a new job really soon......and being an occasional blusher, I'm a bit worried about it as there is a lot of communication and interaction with people involved in the role.
I have come lengths and bounds the last year working on my self esteem and confidence and in my personal life, I am happy and blushing is not a big part of my life!
But now that I am going back into a workplace.......I really really hope that this new found confidence transfers over and that my blushing doesn't re-emerge!!!!

 

[Hottie]

So I'm starting a new job really soon......and being an occasional blusher, I'm a bit worried about it as there is a lot of communication and interaction with people involved in the role.
I have come lengths and bounds the last year working on my self esteem and confidence and in my personal life, I am happy and blushing is not a big part of my life!
But now that I am going back into a workplace.......I really really hope that this new found confidence transfers over and that my blushing doesn't re-emerge!!!!

I am in the exact same position as you. I have put so much effort into changing my attitude and keeping positive and pushing myself for the better.

I am starting back in college in sept to get my degree and am already thinking the worst. See, i took a year off college and the last college i was in i did 3years and those 3 years were utter hell for me. It didnt help that the classrooms were tiny. I hoping that the college i get accepted into is a bigger college, so i can blend in with the crowd!!

But i think what we must do in order to keep ourselves going is try and stop thinking the worst and just take everyday as it comes. Of course there is alot of difficulty in actully putting those words into practice. We will predict what may happen to us due to past experiences but we cannot let past experiences keep us in the past and prevent us from moving on in the future.

So i relate to you and i wish you all the best

 

[Agent_Violet]

UGH I HATE blushing. It happens all the time. If someone notices me waiting in line with more stuff than them and they let me go ahead of them..i blush when i look at them to say thank you.
if a stranger asks me for the time, i blush.
if someone says something nice to me,i blush...

those are just a few dumb examples. It's ridiculous. I can feel my whole dumb face heating up and it travels all the way down to my neck...argh!!

 

[CaffeinePlease]

I have found that the medication Klonopin helps me greatly. I don't like to take it every day because afterwards it can make you quite tired, but it isn't an addictive medication, and the only side effect I've discovered is being tired afterwards (been taking this medication for 10 years) so I would suggest talking to your doctor about Klonopin. I take it if I know I'm going to be in a situation that will make me nervous. Being at a social event where I don't know anyone, a speech, a first date, a job interview or review. Hope this helps a little. It's helped me a great deal.

 

[ERose]

I'm constantly aware of it, it does ruin a lot of things for me. But, the more I acknowledge it, the more it will happen and get worse.
I have to balance things out in my head, realise that my anxiety is at it's peak, I'm not going to explode, it can only go down.

Of course, at that very time I rarely think like that..

 

[det0ks]

Where are you blushers in the real world? I feel like im the only one out here that blushes. Same reasons as most of you guys too, when I go into crowded places, or feel like im the center of attention, I get thoughts I cant control, like I feel people are watching my every move, and it causes me to panic, which eventually results in sweating and blushing. I could be in line waiting to pay something and if I feel like someone behind me is watching, I panic. The anxious/negative thoughts take over, and 98% of the time, cannot be controlled. It sucks.

Im a very optimistic person, but it gets hard being positive when you want to get rid of something that limits you and that you can't control, no matter how hard you try.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

I'm a blusher, det0ks. I hate it.

 

[tenuous~hold]

i've always sorta been like that, & it's worse if you're fair skinned (or more obvious). usually this happens when i'm about to do something in front of people that i think i'll suck at, & usually it's a self-fulfilling prophecy. which leads me to trying to avoid those situations at all costs.

they say to have ice water handy.. (not that it helps that much) ...kind of a lame solution i guess.

 

[CJW]

ughhh, this is the worst!!! Without saying a word, everyone around you knows the deal. It's really just a side effect of how I'm feeling on the inside, but I know even before I'm put into an uncomfortable position that I'll be turning red and laying my cards on the table for all to see.

 

[MtBikeDude]

Agreed, this IS the worst. I can always tell when it's going to happen even before it happens too. Can't stand it! After I start blushing, I get embarrassed that I'm blushing and my face gets even MORE red.

I get so irritated with myself every time it happens.

 

[coyote]

Agreed, this IS the worst. I can always tell when it's going to happen even before it happens too. Can't stand it! After I start blushing, I get embarrassed that I'm blushing and my face gets even MORE red.

I get so irritated with myself every time it happens.

i could have written this, too

and the worst is: "oh look, how red he's getting"

 

[Kiwong]

Yeah I do this. I think it is contagious, like yawing, I blush and other people around me blush.

My newest trick is trying not to break out into tears when I talk to someone.

 

[MtBikeDude]

i could have written this, too

and the worst is: "oh look, how red he's getting"

Exactly man, that just makes it worse. I get irritated just thinking about it. I usually try and force out a laugh at myself when it happens.

I really wish that was something I could control a little better but I have absolutely no control over it. That's probably what irritates me the most.

 

[doesit]

Yeah I do this. I think it is contagious, like yawing, I blush and other people around me blush.

My newest trick is trying not to break out into tears when I talk to someone.

Ha ha me aswell it is like a contagion of some kind obsession with the face,the way your eyes look feel or react to the person or environment change ::

 

[Rayray122]

I have dropped out of University , my 2nd attempt in College I also dropped out of. I feel like my blushing is a disability. It's an actual disability - when I start going red, it and I notice it, especially when I am put on the spot, or in a store and run into someone - I am unable to function, I cannot think logically, I become light headed. It's really, really awful. I haven't been outside of my home in months.. If i do go it's to get a coffee in a drive thru, or to a store as soon as it opens in the a.m.

I am being truthful when I say I wish I could trade in this problem for something else...I could deal with daily pain- anything that will allow me to be close with people and enjoy being around them... I would do anything to take this away. Expressing yourself truly to someone is what life is all about. Without that it's hard to feel that joy...

Anybody have any groundbreaking cure !?

I truly feel for all of you who also suffer... You're definitely NOT alone

 

[Rayray122]

anyone who blushes - flush when drinking alcohol?

I love Caesars , and a cold beer here n there... one is usually fine (although even 1 can make my blushing even worse in social situations) if one leads to too many, I will get really really deep red, almost purple cheeks. now i almost avoid drinking completely..