Facebook?

razzle dazzle rose

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Most everyone has a love/hate relationship with FB. And yet, everyone is there. Some days I don't go on it, some days I feel like participating and do. My intention in getting a FB was to better keep in touch with people I will meet. It works nicely for that purpose though I don't meet lots of people obviously. Still, I don't regret getting an account though I could do without it if I wanted to. Some people are obviously fake and full of themselves, but I don't hate them for it, it actually amuses me. It is what it is.
 

razzle dazzle rose

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I bet if I had my life in order I would probably make the same sort of boring happy happy facebook status updates and some other SA smartypants in my contact list in a dimly litted room would think of me as an idiot.

Ha, yes, exactly. We never do know what people are really going through. What their lives are really like. We all have some pain we carry. Some people do seem genuinely happy, but I am sure they have their sour moments too. That is life.

Sometimes I do wonder which are the status updates that won't annoy people. Well, there is no such thing 'cause someone will always be annoyed. Like with everything else, we can't please everyone. What annoys me more than anything though are those people that don't post anything at all like ever. I have some friends that have not posted a single thing the whole 9 months I have been there. It just weirds me out, 'cause I know they log on though they want to make it seem like they don't. I have slowly been removing such people from my friend's list.
 

coyote

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for all you young people

when I was your age, the telephone was still connected to the wall

there was no internet

everyone kept in touch in a completely different manner

life moved on

Facebook is the current thing, but it ISN'T the cornerstone of life

us old folks just have fun with it, talking to old school friends, cracking jokes, being silly

try not to take it all so seriously - it's only as big a deal as you make it

you don't have to live up to all the hype

just be yourself, relax, and have fun

no one cares as much as you think
 
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Tmeister

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I don't mind facebook, i use it to catch up with people that live far away from me and keep up to date about bands/artists and such... i just ignore all the drama on there best way...
 

HeadFace

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Hmm... I think Facebook is bashed too often by the people here at SPW
It's a really good site, it just depends on what you do on there. If you go on there to check on a friend or someone you've been clinging over every 10 minutes then yeah... You might wanna take a big break.
It's just that unnecessary and overexaggerated drama sprouts up from there way too often.
 

Richey

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It never appealed to me and always felt like a bandwagon and people then felt that they MUST open an account, for that reason i rebelled against it, its sort of like Glee and crime shows. They are hugely popular but I think they are very mediocre. I prefer MSN as a form of online communication as its just private and Facebook ..well there are issues with using information for advertising etc. that i just don't like and other things like site scrapers spamming your information that i read about.

I also think that the website is for people who are not self conscious about sharing their personal information.

Then you have this issue of people who you've met for five minutes finding out your name so next time you login to email you have all these friend requests from people you barely know, now what happens if you don't add them? They know you are rejecting them if you don't add them, that's how they see it, so what then?

Nup, way too much trouble for what its worth.

I don't really care about the people who use it to brag about the parties they go to, I did enjoy it when people would make a joke or would reference a funny quote or post a video, i do enjoy that but it got old. I found it too invasive.

You can't stay anonymous to people who you add if you involve yourself with facebook. People can ask you anything at the drop of a hat and there is no get out clause because they know you'll have read a message or your wall.

I can understand how some enjoy it though. I can see how it might have been fun for me back in 2004 when i was studying and we had a group of people working together, it would have been fun because the interaction of us in class would have coincided with facebook communication as well. But that was only temporary until the course finished. It's not like that all the time unless you have a big group of friends.
 
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HeadFace

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Right now what I hate about Facebook, is that they took away all the privacy controls. People you don't have added can message you, and you can't control what the people you have added can access on your profile. It used to be fully customizable - control who see's friend's photos and videos on your wall. Control who can see your friends posts. Control who can see your comments/tags... Etc
Now it's just either They can see everything or nothing

But anyway, it also is kind of depressing when you try to make plans with someone, they say they cant, and then on their wall you see that they're making plans with other people. It's happened quite a few times with me :\ Kind of really knocked down my self asteem and faith in any real life friends I have.
 

MikeyC

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But anyway, it also is kind of depressing when you try to make plans with someone, they say they cant, and then on their wall you see that they're making plans with other people. It's happened quite a few times with me :\ Kind of really knocked down my self asteem and faith in any real life friends I have.
That would really suck. ::(:
 

MrTimid&Shy

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yea it's a love hate relationship thing. right now im keeping myself from logging in until I find a job. lol i know it sounds stupid but this way im actually forcing myself to look harder.
 

Kat

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I haven't been there but I think you can sell things there which sparks my interest a little. If I ever go I would try and view it as something like entertainment, Forum environments always feel a bit awkward to me.
 

razzle dazzle rose

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Right now what I hate about Facebook, is that they took away all the privacy controls. People you don't have added can message you, and you can't control what the people you have added can access on your profile. It used to be fully customizable - control who see's friend's photos and videos on your wall. Control who can see your friends posts. Control who can see your comments/tags... Etc
Now it's just either They can see everything or nothing

I haven't noticed this. Is this the new layout? I have not switched over yet.
 

razzle dazzle rose

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I read an interesting article about FB a few weeks ago. Not sure if it is relevant to this discussion, but I will post the link anyway for those who are interested:

Facebook Will Only Make You Hate Yourself More

It basically says that "Facebook brings out the worst in people with low self-esteem" as they will post downer updates and people don't like to see that. I suppose that doesn't come as a surprise. The article kinda pokes fun at the whole thing.

Ugh, Facebook... I don't really like it right now!
 

HeadFace

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I haven't noticed this. Is this the new layout? I have not switched over yet.

Well kind of. I did some more fiddling with the settings though. I dont mean to derail too much but this is what you can do...

Restricted list: They can message you, see your info (I think) and are your friend. But they cant see any statuses, posts, or photos you have unless you make them public.

Then theres another option somewhere i nthe privacy settings under "how you connect" that says ~
"Who can see posts by others on your timeline? (Note: Stories about likes, friendships, and some other types of wall content aren't included in these settings.)"
 

twiggle

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Well kind of. I did some more fiddling with the settings though. I dont mean to derail too much but this is what you can do...

Restricted list: They can message you, see your info (I think) and are your friend. But they cant see any statuses, posts, or photos you have unless you make them public.

Then theres another option somewhere i nthe privacy settings under "how you connect" that says ~
"Who can see posts by others on your timeline? (Note: Stories about likes, friendships, and some other types of wall content aren't included in these settings.)"

Strange. Are you using friends lists? I can customise the privacy of anything on my page using the drop down settings that occur next to each update. If there's something I don't want certain people to see, I'll put it as 'Custom' and then in the next box that comes up I'll set it to something like 'All friends can see this except: Colleagues' or something. Is that what you meant? I haven't switched to the new layout. I'll be annoyed if the privacy settings on mine have changed to the way you've described though.
 

SPAlex

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But anyway, it also is kind of depressing when you try to make plans with someone, they say they cant, and then on their wall you see that they're making plans with other people. It's happened quite a few times with me :\ Kind of really knocked down my self asteem and faith in any real life friends I have.

He, im in the same boat. I made a FB account a few months ago only to find a lots of pictures with my "friends" partying in different occasions without me.

One thing that i find interesting is that over the years my friends took a bunch of pictures with me but they never upload them to FB :confused:
 
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