Ever missed a friendship opportunity?

Richey

Well-known member
Ive had a couple of great moments while seeing live bands, i met a bunch of people who were super-nice and we chatted for most of the night, but i always end up walking away without handing out a contact ...

it happens all the freaking time ..

i just find it a little intrusive asking for details but then i also realise i'll never see these people again so what do i have to lose ...
 

dan_e

Well-known member
Yeah, all the time. I don't know how to go about it either, just dont know what to say.
 

Blinkers

Active member
Over the years I'm sure I've missed plenty of opportunities to make new friends. Strangely enough, it doesn't seem to bother me. Probably because I know that I haven't made the effort, but if I met someone who I really hit it off with I hope I'd be able to....
 

Kato

Well-known member
Thousands upon thousands. Hate thinking about the subject. I have a terrible problem of not allowing men into my life. Women are fine with me and deservedly so. You tend to have a more comforting nurturing aspect to yourselves.
 

Feathers

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Well, I even took phone numbers or e-mail contacts sometimes, sometimes just didn't act on it then... :)
Sometimes other things come inbetween or just exhausted from RL or wanting to do other things/ talk to other people before talking to these, and then just putting it all off/procrastinating/not sure how it would all go lol...

It's okay to ask, people can give you a fake # or addy anyway or say, 'Hey, we just met..' and not give it to you if they don't really want to keep in contact...
(You can have a prepared answer like, 'Hey, I know we just met, so if your mama'd be concerned, I totally understand...' or something like that :) just try to have a sense of humor about it and be understanding )

Alternatively, you can ask them where they like to hang out (which cafes or bars or clubs) or which concert they intend to see next or such..
(I never really did that but I had it done on me haha :) Honestly if I really like someone I prefer to exchange e-mails and/or phone numbers.. as I don't hang out in clubs or such regularly lol)

So even if you ask and they give you numbers, don't expect too much of it, be casual at first and just see if you can maybe get together at another similar concert/venue if they're the kind of people who like going to them..
Understand other things can come inbetween and even if they really liked you they may not call.. So you can call them first.. (Or even if you don't and just keep their number, and meet them again, you can say, 'Oh, I've been meaning to call you, things were just soo busy.. How's things?' and it'll be allright, most likely.. :))

So, just ask'em!
You go man!
 

hippiechild

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Man, I know how that is! At least you had a good time and enjoyed their company, you'll be more prepared for the next opportunity.

I miss opportunities all the time... missed, dismissed
Generally I have to have seen people on a number of occasions before I'll actually take the opportunity and become friends.
 

WriterChick3

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Yeah, I met a girl several years ago and she was pretty nice to me; She stopped talking to someone and came over to me and started conversations ... A couple hours later I had to go and never went back due to my 'being really nurvous/shy' phase.
Then like, a year later I saw the same girl at another place and she was nice again and gave me her phone number and said "You can give me a call about the times of [place where we originally met] if you forget ... "

But I never did call her due to my self-hating and thinking she was setting me up for a trap -- because I thought she could've been friends with a girl who has always hated me. :/
Now I'm worried if I see this girl again she's gonna snub me .... Oh well. Maybe I'm destined not to have any friends in real life. :(
 
You should ask their number or email address..
I once asked a girl her phone number .. Lol. But that was sooooo hard for me to do.

I can't even imagine myself doing that again

But I did it..

But mostly when I like someone or would like to become friends..
I miss every oppurtinity

Afraid of re-jec-tion.. ::(:
 

Lonelykitsune

Well-known member
Yeah this topic hits home.last year I was talking to a girl and we have all the interests and opinions on most things.But wer not in the sam class anymore and whenever I see her on th corridor I don't know what to do,and i keep looking down.But she already has loads of friends so I guess shes not really noticing.Really ****ed up my chance
 

Kiwong

Well-known member
When it comes to making friends I have never made the first move. Don't have the confidence. So I've lost a lifetime of opportunity.
 
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