Bustn Justin
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When I was in my teens I thought I was a straight male since I only wanted to be with women. I never had success with dating women since they would lie to me and use me.
When I was 20 I would go out and I had men come up to me to flirt and politely told them I am not into guys.
I always and still do fantasize about women. By the age of 24 I questioned my sexuality and found that I was becoming more attracted to men as well. When my feelings for men grew stronger I started wearing a heavy jacket of shame since I was not exclusive to women.
I went online to talk to gay/bisexual men and found I am more comfortable talking to men more than women.
I lost my virginity at 28 to a man. I met him online and then met him. I was real uncomfortable and increased my level of shame. To this day I have never had sex with a woman since I have a hard time talking to one and not knowing how to please one either.
Because of this I feel like less of a man since I turn to men instead of not trying harder to be straight and be with a female.
I keep this secret from my family because they have told me that if I come out they would disown me.
As well I have found that men do not want a relationship with me either and deepens my depression since now nobody wants me. I may have more options but that doesn't increase my chances of finding somebody to love me.
Personally I have no problem with gay or bisexual people. I just feel that my anxiety would be easier to treat if I was straight.
When I was 20 I would go out and I had men come up to me to flirt and politely told them I am not into guys.
I always and still do fantasize about women. By the age of 24 I questioned my sexuality and found that I was becoming more attracted to men as well. When my feelings for men grew stronger I started wearing a heavy jacket of shame since I was not exclusive to women.
I went online to talk to gay/bisexual men and found I am more comfortable talking to men more than women.
I lost my virginity at 28 to a man. I met him online and then met him. I was real uncomfortable and increased my level of shame. To this day I have never had sex with a woman since I have a hard time talking to one and not knowing how to please one either.
Because of this I feel like less of a man since I turn to men instead of not trying harder to be straight and be with a female.
I keep this secret from my family because they have told me that if I come out they would disown me.
As well I have found that men do not want a relationship with me either and deepens my depression since now nobody wants me. I may have more options but that doesn't increase my chances of finding somebody to love me.
Personally I have no problem with gay or bisexual people. I just feel that my anxiety would be easier to treat if I was straight.