Do you want to fall in love?
- Thread starter Dronee
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just wanna b normal
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definitely! who wouldnt?
Dronee
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Oh I don't know... maybe it may feel hopeless sometime? I'm not sure how to explain it. But some people have such overwhelming problems that they don't think they have any chance at all. In that case, falling in love can be painful since they'll think the love can never be returned.
vj288
not actually Fiona Apple
This question doesn't seem as simple as it sounds. Of course falling in love is something I would want, but I do not think I would want it without the person falling in love back. That being said, I don't know if I want someone to love me right now. So if you are talking about the person I am right now, no, I do not want to fall in love because it will either leave me felling guilty or a lack of love in return. Someday, a different me, most certainly yes.
EscapeArtist
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Noooooooooooooooo. I could NOT handle love in the state i'm in, i'm still completing myself. Something as extremely blissful as love, the negative experience with ANY positive experience is equally as severe. I think relationships are something that should only be formed when one can live without a relationship (aka, is complete and a whole, sane, capable person) and right now I need a relationship rather than want. If that makes sense.
I'm not sure I really believe in love in the classic, mushy sense of the word, so I can't imagine a romantic involvement with all the trimmings. All I've known are volatile, dysfunctional relationships - it began with my own parents constantly fighting as I grew up, and then continued once I started bringing that same chaos into my own relationships when I became an adult. I'm too neurotic, too nitpicky, too hard to please. It feels like a cycle that's too hard to break, especially when you figure in the anxiety and other problems I face. It's like sure, I can always find a girl to date for a while, but things invariably go wrong somewhere down the line, and it's happening way too often for my liking. It makes me question my sanity at times.
lunaticbinge
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The word doesn't mean anything to me. Just a word.
FountainandFairfax
in a VAN down by the RIVER
I think I’ve had it with romantic love. It always fizzles out, either on my end or hers, and people these days just don’t need each other like in times past, so they know that they can just up and leave with no big worries. I’d like companionship, and I’d like sex, but all the other stuff just ends up complicating things. Devotion and friendship, that’s where it’s at.
In theory. Ha Ha
In theory. Ha Ha
Not a question with an answer. It should remain unanswered.
It is a question I feel safe stating: If it happens .... -|
It is a question I feel safe stating: If it happens .... -|
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userremoved
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Hellz yeah I would. It sounds a lot more fun than bitterness and hatred lmao.
EscapeArtist
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Ok yeah. I'd take it... Because love would have to involve complete mutual understanding along with similar goals/values. And that I could grow from, and my lifelong searching for that could come to a halt.
Dronee
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Interesting reply... Yup I understand that the question is a really complex one, anyone replying can take it any way they want... I'm just curious as to what other people think about this subject. There are many angles to look from...
Thanks to all those who replied and thanks in advance to those replying. Your insight is much valued.
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userremoved
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Settle for you? What would make your love less important than that of another person? If it's actual real love we're talking about here, I don't think you can put it on a scale to grade whose love is better.
It's a Bingo!
Hastings & Main
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Yes!
I already have. Unfortunately it's the unrequited kind. She's with her soul-mate, sadly (for me: otherwise I'm totally happy for the both of them), and they will be getting married someday soon. It's not really something I can avoid, either, because we're friends. Just something I've got to come to terms with, then get out and find someone else to focus on.
The fact that she knows me & how screwed up I am & accepts me and is with someone kind of like myself (she's not "normal" herself) shows me that there is hope, that there are other souls out there I may connect with.
And hopefully I will find Her someday.
I've always been leery of the "romantic love" thing, as it has only ever been revealed to me in entertainment media, whereas all around me I see tired burned-out couples oblivious or indifferent to each other, dragging screeching children along. Young couples starting out are always holding hands, but it looks like complacency sets in early and they just look relieved that they no longer have to do that exhausting search for a partner that fills most of us with loneliness and angst.
I'm just glad I'm entrenched in the punk scene, where almost everyone is 'damaged' so there's no hiding our problems. Gets one or two steps out of the way quick.
I already have. Unfortunately it's the unrequited kind. She's with her soul-mate, sadly (for me: otherwise I'm totally happy for the both of them), and they will be getting married someday soon. It's not really something I can avoid, either, because we're friends. Just something I've got to come to terms with, then get out and find someone else to focus on.
The fact that she knows me & how screwed up I am & accepts me and is with someone kind of like myself (she's not "normal" herself) shows me that there is hope, that there are other souls out there I may connect with.
And hopefully I will find Her someday.
I've always been leery of the "romantic love" thing, as it has only ever been revealed to me in entertainment media, whereas all around me I see tired burned-out couples oblivious or indifferent to each other, dragging screeching children along. Young couples starting out are always holding hands, but it looks like complacency sets in early and they just look relieved that they no longer have to do that exhausting search for a partner that fills most of us with loneliness and angst.
I'm just glad I'm entrenched in the punk scene, where almost everyone is 'damaged' so there's no hiding our problems. Gets one or two steps out of the way quick.
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userremoved
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To me that phrase seems backwards. People need to be loved by someone else before they can really love themselves. I dont see many people who are loved by everyone saying they hate life. I say if a girl falls for you, whatever reasons she may have, let her be the judge of that.
awkwardamanda
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I would like to but it isn't happening. I hardly get out of the house, so I really don't have anywhere to meet guys, for one thing. Even when I am out with people, I don't really get to know anyone or make friends easily. Everyone is merely an acquaintance. But I'm too ashamed of myself right now anyway. I'm doing nothing with my life and I don't think that's very appealing, or at least not to the types of guys I would like, anyway. I feel like a mess and I don't think any guy could deal with all my crap. It would take somebody with a lot of patience and understanding. Also, I expect a lot from a guy. There are certain things I require and certain things I won't put up with. I'm not going to lower my standards and settle for being unhappy. I dream of falling in love with a great guy, but I just don't expect to. I'd rather not get my hopes up. It's best I try and get the rest of my life straightened out a bit first, but then it's not as if I'll magically have guys wanting to go out with me once that happens. I dunno. It would be nice to fall in love but it isn't too likely. Maybe someday. We'll see what happens.