Do you take yourself too seriously?

[gustavofring]

Should we SA-ers learn to dance with life more? Dare to be naughty and bad? Are we so uptight because we feel we must be perfect to fulfill some non-existent conditioned society ideal, and therefore can never truly be our creative selves? Do we care too much for other people's opinions? Do we live too much out of our ego ( social conditioning, things we learned, bad experiences) ?

I think I do. I will try to bring more spontanity, comedy and humor in my life. I need it. I'm too sensitive, melancholic and gloomy all the time.
There's times to be serious, but there's also times to not take myself and life too seriously. Try to have fun.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

It's weird because i act the opposite of what others are feeling. For instance people are laughing and joking, then i'm serious. However if it's a serious discussion i'm like it's okay lalala. So will try to work on that fear of intimacy stuff, something like that.

 

[gustavofring]

It's weird because i act the opposite of what others are feeling. For instance people are laughing and joking, then i'm serious. However if it's a serious discussion i'm like it's okay lalala. So will try to work on that fear of intimacy stuff, something like that.

Yeah I have this too! Often when people are serious about something, it comes across very satirical to me and I laugh about it. It may be immature, or just that I'm a different kind of person, but for example when people have pet peeves with truly trivial issues I really can't follow them along and be empathetic. It's weird that my moments of non-seriousness always collide with their moments of seriousness and vice versa. Am I autistic or something? Do I just have a different sense of humor?

On the other hand like you said, when THEY are laughing and joking, I don't seem to be able to. I must say though, that this is mostly the case with my roommates and other people I keep at distance, but not with friends.

 

[MikeyC]

It's weird because i act the opposite of what others are feeling. For instance people are laughing and joking, then i'm serious. However if it's a serious discussion i'm like it's okay lalala. So will try to work on that fear of intimacy stuff, something like that.

This is kind of like me, too. I am the opposite of the current atmosphere. However, recently I've been able to reign that in for serious discussions and I have been able to be more serious. However, if everyone is having a good time (especially if alcohol is involved), I tend to try and be more serious just in case someone goes ballistic (and it has happened).

 

[Nl54]

"Do you take yourself to seriously?"

I've been accused of it for displaying a lack of emotion. My father was the same way. It was hard to get him to crack a smile. Even as children, my brother and I were expected to act like adults. Clowning, cutting up, and being noisy irritated dad. I try not to be the same way, but so much of one's upbringing shapes your mind as an adult.

 

[deleted #89]

Absolutely. I think that people with SA are very self-center in the sense of " I have a problem that nobody can understand/I need to survive" type of attitude. I myself fall in that cycle many times but once I am aware of my victim attitude I try to rejected it.....YA KNOW !

 

[this_portrait]

I take myself too seriously as well. I really need to lighten up a bit. It's not like I can't, because a very few select people have witnessed my loud, talkative, funny side.

 

[Kiwong]

Guilty of taking myself seriously without question.

 

[Shyangel]

Oh yeah! I am soooooooooo bad with this...I really don't know how to lighten up and have a good time lately.

 

[MikeyC]

I take myself too seriously as well. I really need to lighten up a bit. It's not like I can't, because a very few select people have witnessed my loud, talkative, funny side.

Sounds like you can only lighten up around people you are close to. Nothing wrong with that.

 

[this_portrait]

Sounds like you can only lighten up around people you are close to. Nothing wrong with that.

Yep, and it takes me quite a while to get close to a lot of people.

 

[MikeyC]

Yep, and it takes me quite a while to get close to a lot of people.

That's fair enough, and smart, too.

 

[1BlackSheep]

just in case someone goes ballistic (and it has happened).

What exactly happens when one of your friends goes ballistic? Seems you have a few friends who are "loose cannons"! ::

 

[1BlackSheep]

Sounds like you can only lighten up around people you are close to. Nothing wrong with that.

Count me in on this too! I'm very talkative and like to goof around with people I'm comfortable with but clam up around people who intimidate me.

 

[MikeyC]

What exactly happens when one of your friends goes ballistic? Seems you have a few friends who are "loose cannons"! ::

It's mostly one friend who loses complete control of himself and stumbles, urinates, and talks strangely to everyone. He can get emotional, too. It's a terrible sight. He'll then wake up in the morning with no memory of what happened.

Count me in on this too! I'm very talkative and like to goof around with people I'm comfortable with but clam up around people who intimidate me.

I can be talkative to strangers, so I guess I'm the opposite. I think I overcompensate.

 

[1BlackSheep]

It's mostly one friend who loses complete control of himself and stumbles, urinates, and talks strangely to everyone. He can get emotional, too. It's a terrible sight. He'll then wake up in the morning with no memory of what happened.

Yikes! You are a good person to stay friends with him!

I can be talkative to strangers, so I guess I'm the opposite. I think I overcompensate.

I talk to strangers all the time at work and I do fine. It's mostly the people who I work with that I get a bad "vibe" from that cause me to crawl back into my shell!

 

[MikeyC]

Yikes! You are a good person to stay friends with him!

He's a good guy. He suffers depression, too, and I worry a lot about him. He will probably send me grey.

I talk to strangers all the time at work and I do fine. It's mostly the people who I work with that I get a bad "vibe" from that cause me to crawl back into my shell!

In your defense, it's difficult to chat to people who give you a bad vibe. I know I wouldn't want to, either. With strangers you don't know what they're like, so in a way it makes it easier.

 

[1BlackSheep]

He's a good guy. He suffers depression, too, and I worry a lot about him. He will probably send me grey.

You are a true friend!

In your defense, it's difficult to chat to people who give you a bad vibe. I know I wouldn't want to, either. With strangers you don't know what they're like, so in a way it makes it easier.

Yea, I can pretty much talk to anyone I don't actually know - lol! I'm not good in large groups of people I don't know though. I don't do well at parties and things like that - an SA nightmare for me!

 

[MikeyC]

You are a true friend!

Eh, I'm not that great, but thanks.

Yea, I can pretty much talk to anyone I don't actually know - lol! I'm not good in large groups of people I don't know though. I don't do well at parties and things like that - an SA nightmare for me!

Isn't that strange? But yeah, large groups of unknown people are not that great and I would much rather avoid it (as would most people in the world).

 

[Flowers-Of-Bloom]

I dunno, I'm not very gloomy. I love to have a great time and not take things too seriously. But then the anxiety grips me, I get tense and I feel like I can't be myself anymore. I think people would like to hang out with me if I didn't have SA/AvPD.