Vj^ Huge trick I learned from the book "Too Perfect" Is realizing that a lot of your SHOULDS are really WANTS. For instance, you could say "I really should go to bed" or you can say "I really want to be rested tomorrow". If you realize that some of your shoulds are not wants, then they are most likely for other people and not yourself, unless there is something you, in the long term, are WANTING to receive from it.
If you tell yourself, I should go on a run...... versus, I want to go on a run, feel the wind or the endorphins, then you don't feel like it's an expectation. And if you really don't want to, there is less pressure. Truly there is nothing that you "should" be doing
Try to exclude "should" and "need to" from your thinking, or self-talk, and instead use want. This really helped me at one point in my life. It becomes a way of doing things for yourself and not others, and well, that's a huge benefit as well