do you get along with your siblings?

[ScaredToBreathe]

if you have siblings, do you get along with them? i know some people who are very close to their brothers or sisters, and others who depise them.
as for myself, i have a brother and he is the only person i hate. he's kinda nerdy and thinks he knows everything about anything, he's very selfish, and obsessed with gaming. whenever i try to talk to him or spend time with him he always puts me down and makes me feel like crap. he tells his online friends everything me and my family does or says, even when i tell him not to, and makes up lies about me too. for example, he said to his online friends, "f**k! this is my sister's fault. she's making faces at me" in a very serious angry yelling voice, when i was just sitting on the couch behind him and doing nothing at all. even when we were young if i got in trouble with my parents he would laugh at me, but if he got in trouble with our parents i'd feel bad for him. i don't get it. why does he treat me like crap?
he knows that im always really quiet, but he doesnt know i have a disorder or that im taking meds or anything. if we had been closer i probably would have trusted him enough to tell him about all that. and he probably doesn't know how much all his negative comments really affect me and my self-esteem. he's probably a big reason for why my SA is getting worse.

have you guys had any situations like this? and if you once disliked a sibling, did you grow out of it and become closer?

 

[Phoenixx]

I had to laugh at your thread title, as I do not get along with my brother most of the time. ::

Sure we have our moments where we get along great, just goof off and fool around, and have a few hysterical, random moments. But usually we're arguing, even over the stupidest of things.

My brother and I are so opposite of each other, it's kinda hard to find some sort of common ground and just relate to one another. His interests are vastly different than mine, as well as even his attitude. He's talkative, not necessarily outgoing per se, but he likes to go out and just have a good time. I'm extremely shy, social phobic, and I never did like going out much or partying for that matter. I prefer to spend most of my nights inside with peace and quiet.

We don't even look alike either. People usually don't even notice that we're siblings unless one of us tells them. He's 6 inches taller than me, tan, and has dark hair. I'm pale, short, and have darkish blonde/brown hair.

 

[upndwn]

I have a sister, and we have a great relationship with her, even when we were kids. I don't speak to her as much as I used to though.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

My sister and I used to get into fistfights before she left for college.
She's 5 years older than me and I'm 6 years older than my brother.
She bullied me most of my childhood and I was stuck babysitting and being a second mother to my younger brother - so we don't really feel like siblings and now that he's 17, we've grown apart and he's 'left the nest'... which makes both my mom and I pretty lonely.
He's a good brother though and I'm thankful to have him even if we're only 'half' related.

My brother and I are opposites. He is extremely outgoing and cheerful and extroverted and I'm terrified of people.
So-- he doesn't understand my anxiety because he's never felt nervous for anything in his life. haha
My sister and I are more alike. She has OCD much like me, self-esteem and body image problems just like me, and she will get a panic attack from time to time.
She likes my humor and we enjoy eachother's company but we're not exactly alike.
She's extremely bright- genius level intelligence like our father; and she's very successful in her career.
She's also more money oriented and materialistic than I am, but that's fine.
To each their own.

As far as our relationships; I get along with both of my siblings quite well.
I get along with most people, though... so it's not really surprising.
I love my brother and sister and I do what I can to help encourage and protect them and they do the same for me.

I know many people who don't get along with their siblings, well into adulthood and I feel bad for them but I always wonder if it's a grudge thing...
I don't hold grudges. I remember everything but I forgive very easily because we're all human.
No one gets to choose their family members. You're stuck with them.
It's probably for the best to make the effort to get along with them; and that's easier to do when you're not stuck under the same roof.

 

[Pyrophosphate]

I get along fairly well with all 8 of my siblings. Even the two-month-old.

 

[this_portrait]

I have 3 half-siblings who are all 14-20 years older than me. I've hardly been around my brothers, and my sister only lived with me until I was 3. She would babysit for me nearly every Wednesday night until I was old enough to stay home alone, though, so I was pretty close to her. We didn't start drifting apart until after she got married, and even moreso after she moved down South.

On the rare occasion I do see my brothers, I tend to get along with the older of the two more, mainly because he actually makes an effort to talk to me and asks me how everything is going, while my other brother tends to avoid everyone and keep to himself, for the most part.

 

[nicole1]

Barely. I gave up on that illusion that we should all get along and stick together. They are people like everyone else. We grew apart and now I just want to move far away from this depressing life.

 

[FriendlessGirl]

Get along?Well sometimes and sometimes not. My brother can be a real pain in the *** sometimes but at other times he is usually nice and caring. He is obsessed with gaming too and we fight a lot about this lol.

 

[MrJones]

We have nothing in common but most of the times it's okay.

 

[Dead_on_Arrival]

I have a sister 3 years younger and I can't stand her. She is the most self centred person I know. She has two daughters and they spend most of their time at our mothers house or at the childminders. She is one of those overly confident people to the point of making me feel sick.
I also have a younger half brother (14 years younger) and although we don't speak that often I get on really well with him. He's this cool but quiet character and a bit of a gamer like me.

 

[Glitch]

I only have one brother (well I guess I have some step-sisters/brother but they don't live with me and I don't really know them, so they don't count, hah). Don't really like my brother, he's an ******* with an extremely short temper. I can't talk to him at all without him exploding and yelling. Glad he moved out, feels like walking on eggshells around him, doesn't help my anxiety any. I almost feel like I shouldn't blame him though because I think he turned out that way from our dad's influence.. He was the one who got me into gaming and stuff but other than that I'm not sure we have much else in common.

 

[Invisibleman]

I have a sister whos a few years older than me. Ive always hated her,we never got along and we fought all the time when she was home. Now shes in Uni and when shes home we actually get along quite well.

 

[Agent_Violet]

i don't speak to my brother anymore. He lied to me one too many times, only called me when he needed money,etc...

He has a learning disability due to brain damage he suffered from a fever as an infant...he's a normal guy just really immature and learns slower than the average person. yet everyone in my family babied him and handed everything to him his whole life. He grew to just expect me to throw money at him everytime he asked for it. Then when i wouldn't give it to him bc i actually wanted to teach him how to work for a living, he wouldn't speak to me for months and months at a time or he'd be viciously cruel in calling me names and such.

So I cut ALL communication with him. Until this thread, I hadn't thought about him for months.

 

[Remus]

close with my sister but not with my brothers

 

[Rembrandt Broam]

We have nothing in common but most of the times it's okay.

This. We don't not get along, but we're not close either.

I don't have any relationship with my brother really. I had a good 6 or so months with my other brother when he came back from Uni, we had some things in common, sports, we played tennis, video games etc. We had a family holiday in Florida and we went around all the rides together and he took me on a jet-ski, a couple months later he died though, so it was quite brief.

Sorry to hear that Tino. ::

 

[Moo]

I love my sister. It is hard though, I always see her as the slightly better version of myself. She's only one year older than me. We get on really well though and I've been opening up to her a bit more recently but we still have kind of an awkward relationship.

 

[Arthur_Dent]

Is a love/hate relationship. He's one of the very few people who shares my interest on real life. He's three years older than me and ultimately with his new life as a professional he's got more mature. But before, and sometimes now, he is very judgmental to me, or makes fun of me.

But what I really hate about him is how when he's at home and the dumbest thing goes wrong, he gets hysterical and starts to yell and hit things, is rally annoying, because he can control himself when he's with his friends.

And due to all his previous mistreatment, I don't trust him very much son not even he knows about my SA, so when he is at home I can't visit the forum.