Do you believe in a right way and a wrong way for a women to reject a man ?

[Bo592]

Do you believe in a right way and a wrong way for a women to reject a man ? I always get this sucking feeling when trying ask a women out I fear that she not going to be nice to me if she not interested in me.Do women understand the differences in a polite way to tell a man No or a impolite way to tell a man NO. Is this a big deal to women.

 

[Flanscho]

No matter the gender, the right way to reject someone is to make sure that there are no misunderstandings, that everyone is absolutely clear, and that nobody gets hurt (or at least try to hurt nobody more than necessary).

Everything else is the wrong way.

 

[laure15]

No matter the gender, the right way to reject someone is to make sure that there are no misunderstandings, that everyone is absolutely clear, and that nobody gets hurt (or at least try to hurt nobody more than necessary).

Agreed. Rejecting someone doesn't mean you have to be mean to that person.

 

[Bo592]

I am always fearing that a women is going to be mean to me like say something like this. " No, Fatty get away from me. " or " No , get away from me worthless. " I was wanting to know do women find that other women who reject in a mean nasty way rude. do you women thank of this as a unwomenly way . I want to point out that this is not a women bashing thread that I am trying to find peace in rejection so I want fear rejection or get hurt when trying to ask a women out.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

I am always fearing that a women is going to be mean to me like say something like this. " No, Fatty get away from me. " or " No , get away from me worthless. " I was wanting to know do women find that other women who reject in a mean nasty way rude. do you women thank of this as a unwomenly way . I want to point out that this is not a women bashing thread that I am trying to find peace in rejection so I want fear rejection or get hurt when trying to ask a women out.

Most women would see it as rude and mean to reject someone in the way you describe. Rejection is much more likely to take a polite form, and typically as non-confrontational as possible.

 

[doctor_who]

im a female and I always have been the one that's been rejected so I don't know how to answer your question, but if I was the one doing the rejection i'd sure do it nicer than some of the guys have done. Rejection hurts!

 

[Kiwong]

Rejection hurts for everyone. It can hurt even if that is not the intention, even if it is done nicely.

 

[MotherWolff]

I have rejected men before, cyberly(over the internet). I would try to be as polite as possible. I would say things like, "Please don't take this the wrong way but I don't think we connect very well and we should just go our separate ways."

I know on many posts, I have said that I haven't had much luck with men online. Well what I meant was that I haven't gotten to a point where I would actually date a man in person. This is because most of the men who were interested with me only wanted to be with me for sex or they claimed they loved but I just didn't feel the same way about them. But yeah I believe there is definitely a right way to reject a man. Well, I wouldn't call it rejection though.

 

[Yarrow]

No matter the gender, the right way to reject someone is to make sure that there are no misunderstandings, that everyone is absolutely clear, and that nobody gets hurt (or at least try to hurt nobody more than necessary).

Everything else is the wrong way.

:thumbup:

I think sometimes women may be confused about the line between being clear and being hurtful, though. Sometimes I've seen people on forums post that some guys may see a woman being too friendly about it as playing hard to get or uncertain and someone whose heart they can still win over if they try. Not sure how true that is.

Simply saying, "I'm not interested, sorry" seems like it would work.

 

[NamiraWilhelm]

At least by getting a 'bugger off fatty' type response you're weeding out any vile people that aren't worth a second of your time!

I try to be polite and clear but I'm so god-damned shy it can turn into 'please leave me alone'. Try and brush up on body language before going for it to help prevent misunderstandings.

 

[Diend]

Maybe youre not ready for a relationship if you are unable to cope with rejection. Being in a relationship is a liability.

 

[Odo]

No matter the gender, the right way to reject someone is to make sure that there are no misunderstandings, that everyone is absolutely clear, and that nobody gets hurt (or at least try to hurt nobody more than necessary).

Everything else is the wrong way.

Yes, this.

The worst thing is when they string you along making you into their pet while you're thinking that you're making progress-- and then when you finally get frustrated or make your move act like you should have gotten the point, or say something like 'I just didn't want to hurt your feelings' (which is bull, they knew exactly what was going on and didn't care).

Be straight up and to the point and in the end the other person will respect you a lot more for it... it's like ripping off a band-aid.

 

[MikeyC]

I am always fearing that a women is going to be mean to me like say something like this. " No, Fatty get away from me. " or " No , get away from me worthless. "

If a woman was going to do this, was she worth dating in the first place? It would tell me a lot about her personality.

The worst thing is when they string you along making you into their pet while you're thinking that you're making progress-- and then when you finally get frustrated or make your move act like you should have gotten the point, or say something like 'I just didn't want to hurt your feelings' (which is bull, they knew exactly what was going on and didn't care).

I have been strung along by a woman before and yes, it hurts bad once you realise what's going on. Now I know what the warning signs are, if nothing else.