Do people like nice people?

[FriendlyShadow]

Because it seems like whenever I try to be nice to almost all the people I know, I get rejected or it's like they don't really care about me or even they just smile at me awkwardly(I know of few of them did when I was only trying to be nice and joking around and all I got was being told how quiet I am, even my sister says those kinds of things, jokingly, actually besides her calling me too quiet, she even says hurtful jokes to me, which she probably doesn't mean cause she's one of those outspoken types, but she doesn't realize that it impacts on me effectively.) . I don't know why it keeps happening. I know my sense of humor isn't that great, but it's not like I've done anything bad to that person. I don't know, but it's like some of these people think it's a crime to be nice or quiet. It seems like some people like the outspoken, "life of the party people" and I'm just not one of them. It makes me sad.:: Because no matter how nice I try to be, I'm always going to be an outcast from everyone. :.( Even when I think about it, I feel so emotional that I'm not going to have any friends when I grow up because I got rejected and ignored. So, I was wondering if any of you like the nice people or if you like the more outgoing ones better.

 

[DeadmanWalking]

Sometimes, it's the case of people being suspicious. They think, "They're being nice to me for no reason, so they must be a creeper or they want something from me." People can accept that people don't need a reason to help others or be nice. We've become skeptical. Or they could be jerks, they're also become a commonality. Then there are people who seem to be brushing you off, but, in reality, they're grateful, but don't know how to react or how to respond to your kindness. It's like how a shy person is to a social person. Just because we don't talk or react doesn't mean that we don't want to; it's just that we're paralyzed for some reason or another. There could be lots of reasons as to why you get rejected, but don't let it bother you. Continue to be nice and, eventually, you'll find people that will respond kindly to you. So, to answer your question, yes, I do think people in general like nice people.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

I am nice to everyone as a general rule and yes, I do get looked at strangely or even told off for being nice sometimes.

I think it's mostly... 'city people', though.
Like-- you open a door for someone or lend them a quarter to get a shopping cart because they're rummaging around and can't seem to find one-- and they assume you're doing it because you want to kidnap them or murder their children or sue them to pay you back for the quarter.

For the most part though; I think people prefer to be around others who are nice rather than someone who is cold or rude.
It's far more pleasant.

 

[MikeyC]

I think it's mostly... 'city people', though.
Like-- you open a door for someone or lend them a quarter to get a shopping cart because they're rummaging around and can't seem to find one-- and they assume you're doing it because you want to kidnap them or murder their children or sue them to pay you back for the quarter.

Yeah, people always assume an ulterior motive.

I am nice all the time but I'm attempting to stand up for myself more. If that makes me less nice, so be it.

 

[deleted #89]

Yeah, people always assume an ulterior motive.

I am nice all the time but I'm attempting to stand up for myself more. If that makes me less nice, so be it.

People prefer a assertive person than a nice one. When you set your boundaries people will be more relax around you. Try it.

 

[Flowers-Of-Bloom]

I like nice people. In fact, they're the only people I like. I've found that with most other people the more I get to know them, the less I like them. I start to see the parts of them that are ugly (personality wise) like making fun of others or just being insensitive. Whatever you do, don't aspire to be like them. Just try to be more confident/assertive while remaining a nice person.

 

[this_portrait]

I think it's mostly... 'city people', though.
Like-- you open a door for someone or lend them a quarter to get a shopping cart because they're rummaging around and can't seem to find one-- and they assume you're doing it because you want to kidnap them or murder their children or sue them to pay you back for the quarter.

Eh, I dunno, people can be pretty nice here in the Windy City (however some of them can be downright nasty).

 

[MikeyC]

People prefer a assertive person than a nice one. When you set your boundaries people will be more relax around you. Try it.

Whatever you do, don't aspire to be like them. Just try to be more confident/assertive while remaining a nice person.

Yeah, this is more what I was trying to get at. My problem is that I'm a push-over. It gets tiring.

 

[Aletheia]

Um, yes...?

I think everybody wants to be around people they think are nice, but what constitutes nice will vary from person to person.

I like it when the check out operators at the supermarket smile at me and say hi. That's nice. But there's this one guy who always wants to have this twenty minute in depth conversation which makes me unbearably uncomfortable and I now avoid him like the plague. I'm sure he thinks he's being nice, and maybe other customers think of him that way but for me... not so much.

 

[MikeyC]

But there's this one guy who always wants to have this twenty minute in depth conversation which makes me unbearably uncomfortable and I now avoid him like the plague. I'm sure he thinks he's being nice, and maybe other customers think of him that way but for me... not so much.

Ah, overcompensation. Or maybe he just likes chatting with you.

 

[Waybuloo]

When I think of the most nice people (usually women) at my workplaces they are always popular and easy to get on with other people. I think they put people at ease and make them feel good and easier for them to be themselves.