I think it's wrong for people to say that they use looks to initiate conversation in the first place.. sicne that means you look only to conversate with people who look good to you. So where and how do all the less good looking come into play if you say "it's not all about looks"? Do they have to absolutely grab your attention? Do you have to be forced? I mean can't you just talk to people like normal as if looks didn't exist?
ok you might not want to talk to the guy who looks homeless, but I'm not talking about homeless people. I'm talking about people who are just like you, they just might not be the prettiest thing in your vicinity. What are you goignt o avoid talking to someone because a guy all the way over there looks better than him?
Maybe he's just at a stage where you don't find him particularly attractive but if you knew him longer he would become more attractive, ie change bodyweight, or just needs a little confidence or support, perhaps he just didn't have the best outfit on that day, or wasn't looking perfect, his hair got messed up...etc
I also think it's very messed up.. that women can judge a man as stalker, rapist, lewd, weird, pervert, etc. because he's nervous or feels bad about talking BAD to a woman especially on the first times seeing her (especially if he's had TONS of women rejecting him, about saying something like "youre pretty" and she says STOP IT YOU'RE MAKING ME UNCOMFORTABLE and majkes you feel like a pervert) but then some guy says something even MORE lewd and bad but he says it with confidence (yet he's uglier, and has bad MANNERS) and the girls are all like "I want to **** him".
It's like all they care about are DISPLAYS.
Displays of confidence, DISPLAYS of authority, DISPLAYS of superiority. First impressions, etc. etc. etc. Even if on the inside it's not true.
I mean, WTF... I grew up being taught not to mistreat women, and to not be rude, and selfish and materialistic and overly sexual, non freaky, respecful, and to not mention things of sexual nature, to be deviant (at least until the right time right?), or something. But nowadays its preffered to be rude, deviant and materialistic, and to CO-ERCE women into sexual things, as long as you trick them into thinking its ok, or acting like it's ok, or making them FEAR you? I mean, all you have to do is just make her "feel" good about whatever is happening? This is also perception.
Someone also told me yesterday "it's all about persistence". How can I be persistent if I am at risk of being classed a stalker, rapist, weirdo, pervert, sociopath, strange, obsessed person, being thrown in jail, getting beat up, or risking death, simply because I want to talk to a girl, and i'm not confident about being deviant with her?